I have a 6 year old boy and a 7 year old girl. Since my divorce 3 years ago they see their father every other weekend. Last time they had a visit my daughter very forcefully decided she did not want to go b/c her father called her a boy and made fun of her new pixie haircut :/ he was kidding around but still not a real cool thing for him to do and it made her come home and cry to me. He did talk to her on the phone and apologize and she seemed OK with that but she skipped her visit last weekend and has again decided this weekend she doesnt want to go to his house for her visit. My feeling is to not force her and let her decide where she wants to be. My ex seems to be neutral on the whole thing but his mom thinks she shouldnt have the choice. I can understand where she is coming from b/c she just wants to see her but I really dont feel like she should be forced to go where she doesnt want to go. I think she'll come around eventually and want to go back one of these weekends.
Does anyone have experience with this and can offer advice? Thank you for reading :)