My son will be four in May. I'm a little concerned that we somehow haven't helped him in the natural movement kids at this age make towards independence. For example, he still wants us to always put on and take off his shoes for him, get him dressed, and wipe his nose for him. There are more examples (he's also been extraodinarily resistant to potty training, which I have for now given up on). He goes to preschool and there he does all or most of these things himself most of the time, so these are clearly things he just wants me and his Papa to keep doing for him. It's not that he's unable to do them, he just doesn't want to. I feel like maybe we've sort of coddled or babied him too much in this respect. On the other hand, it doesn't really feel right to "force" him to get dressed himself, which I feel like it would come down to. The times I suggest him doing it himself, he always says he doesn't want to or says he wants me to do it. It feels like an area that could easily slip into a power struggle. BTW there are plenty of other times and things that he insists on doing himself, so I do see the natural move towards independence happening in him, and otherwise he's developmentally normal or even in some areas advanced. Should I maybe just drop this and assume I'm not going to be putting his clothes on him like a baby til he's school-aged?
Has anyone else gone through or going through this? Any ideas, tips, suggestions? Thanks in advance