So, my almost ten month old started coughing and after a while, we suspected that it was whooping cough. When his cough suddenly changed from normal to not normal, we took him to our ped (which is pro-vax but isn't pushy about it.) and he gave him some antibiotics in hopes it would help the cough.
My boy handles it really well. He gets really red, but he breathes through it and immediately after he's like I want to play!
My husband is having a really hard time with this. REALLY HARD. The only thing he asked for our boy to get was pertussis because it is so scary! I resisted, since I'm the one that did all the research and while I showed him he just deferred to me, even though I urged him to do his own research so exactly this issue wouldn't happen. We aren't a team in it together anymore. He's like "we should have vaccinated him, I asked for just ONE shot out of all of them" and then I reiterated 'the its a cocktail' info and he's like then why do ALL of these doctors, all these highly educated people, think that they are beneficial? Is there some great conspiracy by ALL doctors?
Now, I'm getting off track but we are libertarians. My husband is often very.... cautious with government. So I said, "Is it really such a stretch to believe that pharmaceutical companies PAY doctors to get this crap out there? Is there any difference in lobbying with the government and lobbying with the CDC? I mean, come on. Wouldn't you sell something if it paid well enough? "
Anyways. So he's upset and I'm devastated that my boy is sick but I'm just kind of like, this is biology. This is natural. He's going to be sick and we will deal with it and get help from our doctors and maybe even our hospital if it comes to that. He'll get better and his immune system will be stronger. I hate watching him cough and knowing there is nothing I can do but at the same time I can't protect him from everything. He has to live in this world and deal with germs. I won't put him in a bubble.
I guess I'm just looking for a little support. My husband is a stay at home dad, since he's a musician and works at night on weekends. He deals with the boy a lot more than I do and watches him suffer all day long .That's got to be part of it too. He's in daddy mode a lot more than I am in mommy mode. I'd probably be frustrated and freaked out too if the roles where reversed.
Has this happened to any of you? How do you go forward? I told him that we both have to be 100% on vaccinating or not because we can't have one of us turning on the other when times get tough and we're up all night with a itchy or coughing kid. All in, always a team, figuring it out together. This is rough to deal with on top of the frustration of sleepless nights and a sick baby.