weekly thread?

[Jessviola]

anybody up for a weekly thread to just chat about everything and nothing? i'm thinking along the lines of the OTTRTA in the TTC forum but of course that title doesn't really apply here :LOL

[nannymom]

I would like a weekly thread also.

[taradt]

yes, i am really missing the OTTRA...

tara

[StillForest]

I'd enjoy a weekly thread. What does OTTRA stand for ?

[Jenelle]

One Thread To Rule Them All

I'm in. I'm at that stage where I can't get enough about pregnancy! (And it's just not the same to sit down and read a book.)

[DalaiMama]

sounds good to me!

[coleslaw]

I'm in! Can I do my first sharing? I had an ultrasound and saw the heart beating today (and only one!) !!! I have been feeling so anxious (more about not being able to handle 2 kids, etc), but now I am so excited!! Yippeee!!!

[supervee]

5 weeks

Me too! I want to talk about being pregnant all the time, too, but with #2, just nobody cares. Thanks for starting, Jessviola.

Congrats, coleslaw, on seeing exactly what you wanted today!

So my super duper big news is that I was feeling really blah about being coerced by my new HMO to go to the OB/hospital route this time. I was trying to avoid the whole thing, really. My birth center experience for #1 was so perfect, sigh. So I had already made an appointment with one OB, but I found out this afternoon that the hospital has a midwifery service, and GET THIS--the midwife who delivered #1 works there now! I am so happy I'm floating!

[Jessviola]

6 weeks

coleslaw,
that's awesome!!! what a relief! how many weeks are you? maybe we could put that (roughly) in our title so it's easier to keep track? i think i'll feel a lot better after seeing/hearing the heartbeat. i don't know why i'm so nervous this time around.

supervee,
great news about your midwife!!! what an amazing coincidence!


as for me, i now have an appt for next monday in my ob's other office. since i'd never gone there before, they just scheduled me right in. i'm kind of happy about the earlier appt (wasn't supposed to go in until may 25) because i feel i need reassurement that i'm really pregnant. physically, it's pretty obvious from the sickness to convincing myself i can feel my uterus already (is that really possible at 6 weeks? : ) and the overwhelming exhaustion but it just seems to good to be true :LOL the receptionist i spoke to there was much nicer than the one at the hosp so i feel even better about the decision.

something not so nice that i've discovered is that i could possibly lose my health insurance if i have a homebirth i'm not positive, but a friend brought it up and i haven't figured out how to figure it out discreetly yet (well, really i've been too exhausted ) anyways, it's not like i had big plans already in place, but it is something that i really have my heart set on and while i know dh would take a lot of convincing on many levels, the fact that a homebirth could make me ineligible for the insurance i have makes me wanna i've been talking with friends who had to convince their dh's and was starting to get hopeful but i guess it's better to find this out now....there's just something about killing the fantasy that really sucks.

i guess this leaves me leaning toward the birth center option because although i really like my ob, she's only on call at the hosp 1 day a week and the chances i'd actually have the baby that day are pretty slim so it doesn't seem like a reason to have the baby at that hosp.

so have i completely confused you all yet? :LOL

[Jessviola]

oh i forgot, dh is actually being surprisingly helpful and supportive when i'm not feeling well, which is most of the time. it's really amazing and means a lot to me because he usually is not good when i'm sick, in fact he usually makes me feel worse! but he's been picking up the slack with cleaning the house and watching dd when i need to lay down and cleaning up after every meal while insisting i don't help. it's hard to explain how much these little things mean to me right now, but he's definately earning extra points in my book

[taradt]

5 weeks

congrats coleslaw.....

Jess - that really sucks about the insurance, what would happen if it was an *accidental* home birth? the opps we left it too late to go to the hospital which i am hoping for if we have reasons that prevent it.

i am wanting to just enjoy this pregnancy, and for the most part am, but i keep worrying that i have no symptoms, i didn't with my first daughter either, it was only in my miscarriage pregnancy that i had the symptoms. i am tired but it isn't always easy to tell if that is beacuse of still being up most nights with my daughter. i am hungry all the time and have been peeing more but not enough to totally reassure me. we see the midwife next thursday and even though i didn't want an early ultrasound i am now thinking i do want one to get some reassurance that the baby is ok.

my DH has also been super. my daughter is getting over a 2 day stomach bug and he has been home and helping

tara

[laurata]

6 weeks

Originally Posted by Jessviola

something not so nice that i've discovered is that i could possibly lose my health insurance if i have a homebirth i'm not positive, but a friend brought it up and i haven't figured out how to figure it out discreetly yet

WHAT???!!! I have NEVER heard of anything like this. What insurance carrier do you have? It's possible they might not pay for the homebirth, or that you might have difficulty getting the babe covered w/ 30 days, but I have NEVER heard of someone losing their insurance from having a homebirth. You don't even have to tell them. Odds are, it wont be an issue at all, beyond what I've mentioned.

[gristastic]

I'm all for the weekly thread!

Jess, that makes me so mad about the insurance and the home birth. I hope it's some sort of mistake.

coleslaw, YAY for seeing that lil heartbeat! So glad it all looked good!

supervee, congrats on your good midwife-news! Hope everything works out perfectly.

[Jessviola]

6 weeks

i'm secretly hoping for an 'oops' homebirth i still need to check the insurance info (i'm on state insurance) but we'll see. ok. gotta go clean again because we're hosting a playgroup here in an hour or so. ugh, i don't feel like moving. thankfully, everyone understands when the house isn't spotless (or close :LOL) but i'd still like to make more of an effort.

[nikirj]

5 weeks

I'm kinda hoping for an oops unassisted birth but we are planning a homebirth. The hospital birth of our second was just ridiculous. I delivered literally 7 minutes after I arrived at the hospital, and after DS nursed for about 30 minutes I got up, walked to the bathroom, showered, and was ready to leave. Instead, we stayed a day and night and were badgered, bothered, given the 'forms for circumcision', given advice we really, really didn't need or want, woken every hour through the night, etc, etc, etc. So now DH wants a homebirth as much as I do. And with the way the second went, we might not make it to a hospital anyway (even though it is pretty close) and our midwife may not make it here (we haven't even found one yet anyway).

Thankfully, it seems that my DH's insurance from work covers homebirth and so does the state insurance here, so it isn't like a homebirth is totally discouraged. I find that nice. In Hawaii (where I lived until last month) there wasn't really any way to get insurance to pay for a homebirth, it needed to be out-of-pocket all the way.

Jess, just call the insurance company from a friend's phone and don't give your name. If it covers more than like 50 people they'll never remember to bug you about it later.

[DalaiMama]

6 weeks

Jess ~ That really sucks about the insurance! I hope it's just some kind of miscommunication! If it's not, then I'm sure you can make an oops work in your favor.

congratulations on your great u/s experience, coleslaw! we're still waffling on whether we'll have any us at all, but I think we may have one... just to ease any worries, you know? I have this irrational fear that I'm going to go to the midwife and she's going to tell me that I'm not really pregnant. I thought I was weird, but looks like I'm not the only one. Like Jess said, it just seems too good to be true!

I had the weirdest dream the other night about our birth... we ended up having the baby at home without a midwife, and hours after the baby was born, I realized that I didn't remember birthing the placenta! I was freaking out, telling my husband that if I didn't birth it I was going to hemmorhage... we were searching around for the placenta and couldn't find it, and it was all wierd and scary... then I woke up, thank god! It was just a scary dream, and the tone was creepy. I think I've been stressing too much and not relaxing enough. I just need to trust that everything is going to go well, right? I just think that since we tried for so long to get pg, I freak out about every little thing.

anyways, hope my dream wasn't too much of a downer... dh just didn't understand why I was having nightmares about a birth that's so far in the future. :

[Jenelle]

5 weeks

Well, I'm glad to hear we're all having the same feelings... Am I really pregnant? Am I still pregnant? And anxieties. I had a really bad dream last night about my husband leaving me and he was dating someone else after only like 2 weeks, and here I was pregnant. Thank God I woke up and it was just a dream! Also last night I took another dollar store test because my breasts don't hurt as bad anymore. That line showed up so fast and so dark! So of course that put me at ease for awhile. I can't wait until we hear the heartbeat! I don't go to the doctor until May 19 - another 3 weeks away. And my dr. only does one standard ultrasound, not until like 24 weeks. That's a long time not to get to see your baby! We had three with my son, at 8 weeks, 20, and 36.

[taradt]

i keep wondering if the *am i still pregnant* feelings i am having are just fear after a miscarriage type feelings or if it is a *sign* that things aren't right. sigh.... i never had these doubts before. it also doesn't help that i have no real symptoms to speak of. 1 week until we see the midwife and i am sure i am going to have her book an early ultrasound.
off to the park to enjoy the summer like day

tara

[ladymadelon]

5.5 weeks

Jess~it sounds very strange to me that a homebirth would cancel your insurance. What about those women with accidently birth at home? I home that you can find out quickly about this.

With this being baby #4 for us, I'm not worried about "am I still pregnant". I'm not bleeding, no cramping, I'm tired and queasy...all the norms for me. I've been very blessed to carry all my pregnancies to term and I trust the Lord with this one, too, especially because it is a total surprise. In other words, for me, this is just part of His plan, so why should I worry? BUT I am worrying about other stuff. How long can I keep this a secret? How long will I be able to deliver my paper route? How long will I have to take off? Who will sub for me? How will we get by without my income for that time?

Otherwise, for now I'm just enjoying the last few weeks of being able to sleep on my stomach...I'd guess I have about a month of that left!

[coleslaw]

Jessica, I looked into homebirth here and ran into lots of issues. It's not illegal in CT, but not legal either. Due to rising insurance rates and the laws here, there aren't many midwives available. Those that are have been known to hesitate sending you to a hospital if you need it because they can and have been sued by doctors for trying to deliver the baby and "screwing up" enough that the woman needs to go to the hospital. It's so screwy!!