Hello. I would like to do an UC this September and my husband is okay with it but feels a little uneasy and would prefer to have a midwife here for extra reassurance, should something come up during the birth.
I'm curious what are often genuine concerns that can reasonably be addressed and alleviated?
For example: I think people have it in their minds that some catastrophe will happen and I'll bleed to death or that the baby will get stuck. I am not very concerned because I take chlorophyll and alfalfa and with my previous 3 home births my midwife has always been astonished at how little I bleed. I think if we choose UC that we'll take an online course a midwife is offering on UC, as I'd like to go through the "list" of things to watch for, prevent, what to do, when to transfer, etc....
What I'd really like, though, is a run-down short list of the basic and most common things that could end up happening and needing attention during a birth. I think I'll try to get my hands on the emergency childbirth book everyone is recommending too. I want a brief list (and "what to do") to show to my husband, as I'd like him to know that we CAN do this and that it won't likely be some scary, stressful event. On the contrary, I hope it to be a peaceful, calm one. It will be my 5th birth and I feel confident in this. He's close but I'd really like to get him on board. By the way - we did have a midwife in our area offer to let us borrow any books from her birth/pregnancy library if we choose to UC. Awesome! If we do decide on a midwife she will probably be our choice, as she seemed respectful of whatever we decide.