There must be 800 threads about this, but I can't seem to locate them. Also, I understand not everyone can give things to their kids "just because", let alone for special events. That said, I could still use some input.
How do you handle buying your kids toys during the year (non-birthday/holiday)? Do you refuse to do it? Do you ever do it? Do you have your children share in the cost of something they want, if they get an allowance or gift money? How do you handle these situations?
My just-turned-four-year-old desperately wants a specific toy. I feel a little bit torn. Well, a lot torn. His birthday is at Christmastime (we don't go nuts), so it isn't as easy as thinking about shelving the idea for 4, 5, or 6 months. The other issue is the cheapest I've found this item is $30. I admit, if it were $5, $10, even $15, this wouldn't be as much of an issue. We can afford the item, so it isn't about that, but the cost of the item is high for a "just because" type of thing. My kids do not get "just because" things at this age, aside from books or educational-type things, and so far, they have never asked. He doesn't get an allowance. I've thought about suggesting he donate two of his toys and then we can talk about getting the toy he wants, but I don't know if I'm setting both of us up if I give in - him, in thinking he can just have what he wants and me, in dealing with a new desire every month. He isn't typically like that, but since this is the first time I'm dealing with this, maybe it's a phase.
I would love to know how other parents handle these situations, how they handle buying toys throughout the year, etc.