I could really use your help and support. I just can't take it anymore and I need to figure out the right thing to do. I have a neighbor that is a covert narc. She's given me a hard time for the last few years and it is one of the reasons I have landed in therapy. I have tried extremely hard to avoid her but it hasn't been perfect. For starters, we live on a cul de sac. Generally I am forced to see her once a day either passing in our cars or if she happens to be outside. In addition, she has a daughter that likes to play with one of my daughters. Today my daughter and hers were playing outside. My daughter then came home to ask if she could play with their daughter in their house. Stupidly, I said yes. Turns out they were hosting a Superbowl party. Of course they had people over including other neighbors that we know. I am feeling burned because this feels like I just got jabbed -- my daughter was witness to something that we were not invited to. I have tried really hard to not restrict my daughter from playing with the covert narc. Mom's daughter because I am worried that this Mom is going to further smear me. Several of my other neighbors don't talk to me anymore. But now I feel that I need to make some changes.
How should I handle this? My thoughts to start are this for my daughter: only playing outside and no playing inside the neighbor's house anymore. Just because this neighbor has taken jabs at me -- doesn't mean that she can take jabs at me now through my daughter. It's unacceptable. I thought I was making progress and this just leaves me in tears.