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February Chat -- August 2014 DDC

post #1 of 20
Thread Starter 

Here we are, mamas!

 

If my calculations are correct, this month we are heading into our 11th through 15th weeks. What does that look and feel like for you? What new choices are you considering, or new plans are you making? What are you glad to be moving past, and looking forward to experiencing?

 

:stillheart:loveHappy chatting in this month of love! :throb:stillheart

post #2 of 20
Thread Starter 

This month, I'll likely tell my place of employment and begin making plans for some sort of leave in late-summer. And I'll finally give my itching-to-tell-people husband the go-ahead! :o

 

I'll continue to think about and look into birth choices. (I have some personal work to do, unpacking a couple of difficult past birth experiences. But I'm chipping away at it!)

 

I'm glad to be leaving those iffy early weeks behind where everything seemed so surreal and tenuous. Every day that I'm still pregnant, I'm grateful for.

 

I'm looking forward to doing a little more knitting-for-baby. Maybe starting to talk to some midwives. Re-reading my Ina May books and my La Leche League books. And I'm REALLY looking forward to telling my two boys! We're waiting until the 2nd trimester, so in a couple of weeks!

post #3 of 20
I'm 11 weeks now, and pleasantly surprised that my morning sickness which was constant no matter what, has changed and been sporadic and only when I'm hungry for the last 2 weeks. I've figured out that I feel worse when I don't have enough protein so that's easy to avoid.

I'm looking forward to my 13 week scan next Friday. It's at my IVF clinic so it will be nice to see all the lovely nurses again.
After the scan we're telling everyone including our son, I'm so excited to tell him. After years of infertility and him saying wistfully that he wishes we had our own baby... I'm going to cry and cry.

I'm looking forward to starting some baby knits too. I just have a big blanket I have to finish for my DS first, then it's on to all the lovely tiny things. orngbiggrin.gif
post #4 of 20
Thread Starter 

Knittedmama, I feel so relieved to see that your morning sickness is tapering off, too. I realized in a panic a few days ago that mine was only 1) in the middle of the night, when I wake up hungry, and 2) about 20 minutes after I wake up, *if* I haven't eaten breakfast yet. I had assumed I'd been on-and-off sick all day well into my 2nd trimester, like I was before, but this one is shaping up differently.

post #5 of 20
I must admit it did worry me a little at first too, MariaHoney, it seemed far too early in comparison to my son's pregnancy. His lasted until 12 weeks, had a break, then came back from week 14-17.
I'm less worried now though, I just feel that this pregnancy will work out and I'm trying to trust in that connection.

It's crazy though, we feel miserable when we're really sick and worried when we'd not!!
post #6 of 20

I'm 15 +3, and last night I felt baby move for the first time!  It was so wonderful, and I almost didn't mind the fact that I was up because I'd been woken up twice already by older children.  I didn't feel it again then, but this morning when DH got up to shower for work and I was laying in bed half away I felt all sorts of movement for about 5 minutes. Yeah!!!  I love this stage. 

 

In other news, although my nausea went away at 12 weeks, it seems to be back.  I don't love that. I hope it isn't combined with heartburn soon - because I've gotten heartburn with my previous pregnancy.  No fun. 

post #7 of 20
Thread Starter 

Squeeeeee! piratemere, that is so exciting! Yay for you!

post #8 of 20

13.4 weeks...heard the heartbeat...picked a midwife...wrestling with my health insurance...and TOLD EVERYONE!!!  :-D  

post #9 of 20

I am almost 12 weeks.  Excited to not feel exhausted (or less so!).  Trying not to tell family until after we know the gender, so a few more weeks away.  The only way I can get away with that is that my mom is out of state, otherwise she knows my body too well to get away with that!

 

Finally feeling a little excited about my son having a sibling, and feeling more confident in myself as a mother.  And I keep reminding myself that I have the control and power to assert myself over any pushy mother/MIL or anyone else…  I have a lot of anxiety from first time where I sort of got pushed around and my boundaries violated.

post #10 of 20
We are almost 12 weeks which is a huge relief for me! I have my thorough prenatal appointment tomorrow which I am not looking forward to. Today we did our pregnancy announcement photoshoot which was super cute. It only sucked that it's winter and was really cold to take pictures outside.once I get the a-okay from the doctor tomorrow I will officially announce it. Woohoo. Other than that I am no longer morning sick and not craving anything out of the ordinary anymore which is nice.
post #11 of 20
Knittedmama, I'm an IVF mama too and a knitter! We were released from our fertility clinic at 9weeks, it was a wonderful day and kind of sad too, after 7 years of being their patient I have missed the wonderful and supportive nurses and staff and our Dr was great! I'm 12 weeks now, we've picked our midwife and are planning :joya homebirth smile.gif I did have a Dr's apt Monday with my regular OB, my midwife does except insurance, but the lab she uses doesn't except our insurance, so it was cheaper to get it all done at my ob's office. The apt went well, we heard that precious little heartbeat on the Doppler, best sound in the world smile.gif Nausea has not gone away yet, but I feel like some of my energy is coming back! I'm working on a baby blanket right now, I really want to find out what we are having so I can knit gender specific things. Yesterday was my birthday, everyone in my family knows I'm pregnant, but we announced to the rest of the world yesterday, it was so much fun! joy.gif
post #12 of 20

So, although I am 16 weeks and pregnancy is so obvious it's silly to not have "announced," we have yet to do an "official" (read: Facebook/Blog) announcement yet. We have been waiting for placement to be official for our adoptive daughter, which it will be in less than two weeks!!! At that point we are going to make an announcement to share with the world that says that my current oldest (DD is older than him) will be a older brother (again!) and a little brother this year!!!  We can't share anything about DD online until it's official - at that point she's ours and we can make whatever parenting decisions we like, so we are kind of waiting until that point. 

post #13 of 20
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Originally Posted by hoosiermama41 View Post

Knittedmama, I'm an IVF mama too and a knitter! We were released from our fertility clinic at 9weeks, it was a wonderful day and kind of sad too, after 7 years of being their patient I have missed the wonderful and supportive nurses and staff and our Dr was great! I'm 12 weeks now, we've picked our midwife and are planning :joya homebirth smile.gif I did have a Dr's apt Monday with my regular OB, my midwife does except insurance, but the lab she uses doesn't except our insurance, so it was cheaper to get it all done at my ob's office. The apt went well, we heard that precious little heartbeat on the Doppler, best sound in the world smile.gif Nausea has not gone away yet, but I feel like some of my energy is coming back! I'm working on a baby blanket right now, I really want to find out what we are having so I can knit gender specific things. Yesterday was my birthday, everyone in my family knows I'm pregnant, but we announced to the rest of the world yesterday, it was so much fun! joy.gif

Hi! Nice to have another IVF mama here!
Wow 7 years is a long time with your clinic, I can imagine how hard that was. It is hard to move on from them, bittersweet, because I'm so glad we are moving forward!
We TTC for 6 years, and did 2 IVF cycles. Thankfully the 2nd was fantastic after the first was a complete fail.

Is this your first bubba? How exciting is it announcing? I'm waiting still, I had my scan on Friday and it's now Sunday here, but I've been so sick with a headcold and then a migraine so we've put off telling our son until this afternoon. I can't wait!
post #14 of 20
Piratemere, what an exciting time for your family! That's such a beautiful way to announce.
post #15 of 20

Just random fuming here: I'm so fed up of feeling sick and fatigued and dizzy and trying to keep up with classes and life! I haven't cleaned in SO LONG because I can't deal with smells, I have no energy, I have no time, or I'm too busy hovering over a toilet. 

 

The thing is, DH hates cleaning. He won't clean for a month and then will start to tidy up in a frenzy, which is fine...I'm normally the deep cleaner, and he rearranges furniture. So I've been dealing with things not being as clean as I would like them (not by a long shot) until I start to build up a little energy and stop getting dizzy every time I stand, bend over or squat. 

 

...well DH had a cleaning frenzy today, but he gets so verbally abusive whenever he does! It's lots of offhand remarks about me and laziness, and surprised that I even tried to help and blah blah blah... I hate it so much!! He acts like (and says) that he's the only one that ever cleans anything, but is his memory really that short? I told him how hurtful it feels to have him say things like that to me, and that I already feel bad enough about not being able to clean as it is!! I don't need him to remind me of how much I suck at life right now. 

post #16 of 20
Thread Starter 

Oy, fragolina. That sounds frustrating, and like it hurt your feelings.

 

I find this point in pregnancy hard for dealing with significant other's expectations, and their own sometimes less-than-thoughtful ways of being. WE feel entirely physically compromised, and maybe more emotional that usual, but we don't really have a strong visual reminder for them as to WHY that is the case.

 

But I had to laugh at your "suck at life" phrase! My sister and I used to trade that one back and forth when we were both struggling in college, trying to get our lives, and school, and goals, and relationships, and EVERYTHING to feel really "together," when honestly, we were just BUSY and life was CRAZY and ANYBODY would "suck" at it if the goal was perfection! It sounds like you are aware of and articulating some really smart limits right now. Sending gentleness and ease your way!

post #17 of 20

Thanks for the response! I did really feel hurt about it, but I'm happy that I at least told him how I felt...he feels bad and is fine for maybe a week or so and then his amnesia sets in and he turns into a temporary douche all over again. I swear, he's man-pmsing!

 

And yes, I'm sure that from the outside in, I look like I'm doing pretty well! I'm normally bathed and seem at least 75% on top of things...just don't inspect the floors, or look in the sink...or come inside the house lol

post #18 of 20
It's so frustrating that we have to remind them we're pregnant. It's like, I'm growing OUR kiddo, so pick up the slack for five minutes, OK buddy??!! Clearly I'm probably speaking to my own DH here. Anyway. So sorry you had to deal with that. But at the same time, it's good he has to learn to deal a bit now, because when baby does come, you're definitely not going to be able to do so much, and nor will it be ok for him to complain about having to do his share. Hugs to you and I hope you feel better soon. I understand just how you feel and it is the worst that our brains don't just shut down too so that we can stop noticing all the things we can't do greensad.gif!
post #19 of 20
I feel you on the cleaning! I have asked DH to please clean the tub like 3 times in the past week. I can't be smelling anything with bleach let alone touching it. It still isn't done! I made a random mix of borax, baking soda and salt that I used maybe a month ago but it didn't get the stains out. Frangolina sorry he was being rude to you! It would be great if men could be preggo for a day- they would stay home from work and sleep all day lol
post #20 of 20

Yes!! Guys don't understand what it feels like to have the life force continuously drained out of you by a little minion, while simultaneously have sciatic pain, a bladder crying out every 30 minutes and vomiting when you walk by furniture that is dark stained (I have no idea what it is, but dark stained furniture smell makes me puke). He apologized after and acknowledged that he didn't understand and he would try to be better and nicer- that's all I can ask I suppose :)

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