I'm at my wit's end with my soon to be 14 year old son. He's extremely motivated to do orchestra, chamber and private instrument lessons, however, he believes the written work and studies his father and I ask expect him to do (Oak Meadow 8th grade) takes time away from what he really loves in life. That sounds all well and good and you may be wondering why we are asking him to do this.
Well, we have been homeschooling from the start and he has never been to school. He takes classes and when enrolled in one he enjoys, which are all of his choosing now (theatre, music, history, philosophy discussion, etc. or clubs) he is mindful of assignments to be turned in and keeps an online calendar. However, he intends to go to college for music, as he wants to study in the classical form and also study composition, which he does on his own at home with the computer.
The written work he is expected to do probably takes about 1 hour of his day to complete. It is basic Math (he's on 5th grade still because he refuses to just plow through it, even as he insists it's so easy.) He could honesty be on his grade level or above, but decides to do only a page or 2 per day, and that is if he remembers. The English, Physical Science and Civics component of Oak Meadow is really just reading and written response, with a few interpersonal or hands on projects interspersed. It's way less than required of most curriculums and definitely way less time intensive than what happens in school.
Any advice on getting him to be less self-centered in his goals and more disciplined about his responsibilities to his educational goals? He claims because he did not choose the Oak Meadow, that is why he doesn't apply his effort to it. I explained to him that in life, we cannot always expect to do things we like. There are some things that are necessary and beneficial, but may not be our preferred activities, such as washing dishes, exercise, brushing teeth, commuting to work, etc. I believe it is necessary for him to face these challenges to become more adaptable and ultimately successful in what he pursues in life, whether that be music or something else.
I refuse to just allow him to watch Minecraft tutorial videos on his ipod all day and hang out. That's really what happens if he does not enroll in outside classes. Advice? Suggestions? Please tell me this is common with teen boys. I have several mama friends who say the same things. But, none of them have any tips. Thanks!