I am a widow. I was alone raising my children.
I do not smoke, drink, use drugs, whore around town, or beat or neglect my children, yet I have had more than my own share of visits from these halfwits.
I have a crazy person in my family who makes fraudulent calls to CPS all of the time. CPS never prosecutes people like this, because that is not their job, as they see their job. Unfortunately, I have lots of experience in this arena of parenthood and the government. I KNOW from experience, for sure that the very worst thing to do is to co-operate with them. Anything is a reason to investigate a family.
CPS may be using some common sense in recent years, but since my children are grown, I have dealt with them for a long time.
The last time this happened, the situation had nothing to do with me or my home - to tell the truth, none of the visits from CPS involved me, but I was always blamed. I met the social worker at the door to my home with my male German Shepherd dog tethered on his leash. I told her that my son was not there, that I had nothing to say to her, and if she thought that she had a case, that she could go to court on HER day off, make her case in front of a judge and get a warrant. UNTIL then, she had no reason to come in my home. And then I shut the door.
The next time I heard from her, was on the phone. She said she wanted to come to the house to meet with me and close the case. I told her sure. I will meet her then. And I left that day, and locked the house up. She left her card on my gate. I never heard from her again except that I demanded in person papers from her supervisor to verify that the case was closed.
ANOTHER time, the crazy person in my family called again, I met the social worker on my front lawn with my male German Shepherd dog and lots of friends for support. One of my friends had a videocamera and tape recorder running the entire time. I told the social worker that I have nothing to hide and that she should NOT object to the use of a video camera and audio taping because she has nothing to hide either, right? I told the social worker again that the situation did not happen in my home, was not under my supervision, and she had no reason to come in my home and investigate me and my environs. She interviewed my son off to the side, which I objected to. I told her that I wanted a paper from her when she closed the case. I called her supervisor to make sure this happened.
Just remember that even if the social worker comes with a battalion of policemen, you do not have to let them in your home without a warrant. I have learned the hard way. It was very hard, but I learned and I warn all parents to be careful. Remember what happened to that Russian couple in Sacramento last year. They were smart enough to video tape CPS kidnapping their child....http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2013/04/29/im-going-to-grab-your-baby-and-dont-resist-cops-barge-into-cali-parents-home-take-their-baby-after-they-seek-2nd-medical-opinion-and-its-on-video/#
As for keeping CPS away during a UC, I suggest that you tell no one or a very select few trusted friends, and have someone on the lookout outside your home during the birth if this is a real concern. Sorry that we live in a world like this.
Edited by applejuice - 2/13/14 at 8:36am