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Telling the siblings

post #1 of 24
Thread Starter 

If you have older kids, have you told them yet?

I'm kind of nervous to tell the bigs. yikes.gif But were doing some pictures this weekend and were going to tell them I hope they're excited! 

post #2 of 24

I did! I told ds1, 6, last week before his brother's birthday party. He had been asking for about 2 weeks, even before I took a test, and I had been redirecting and changing the subject. I finally told him the truth and he is super excited! I told my ds2, 4, yesterday. He just says he wants a girl baby. :D

post #3 of 24

I'm not sure when I'll tell my son. But he's already made it very clear that he wants a little brother!

post #4 of 24
Thread Starter 

Aww yay!

My ds2 told me I was pregnant before I know with ds4. He insisted it was a girl. Didn't work out that way. babyboy.gif

post #5 of 24

Not really... my 2 yo keeps asking for "baby" ... all the time. I've kind of told him that he'll get one soon, but they take a long time to make. But, he's 2, and he doesn't totally get it. 

 

I want to wait to tell my 4yo and 6yo. They will be SUPER excited, but I am not ready for their dad to know yet (ex-H). 

post #6 of 24

I am going to wait a while.  I want to be 'sure' before telling her.  As sure as one can really be.

post #7 of 24
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Originally Posted by Wilhelmina View Post
 

I am going to wait a while.  I want to be 'sure' before telling her.  As sure as one can really be.

How sure is sure? Like I'm about to go into labor sure, or geez my belly is big sure? 

post #8 of 24
Haha, like 13 weeks minimum sure.
post #9 of 24

Right of Passage - my DD has been talking about the baby in mama's belly since days before I tested. ???? So crazy how tuned in they can be, hey?

post #10 of 24
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Originally Posted by seastars View Post
 

Right of Passage - my DD has been talking about the baby in mama's belly since days before I tested. ???? So crazy how tuned in they can be, hey?

 

My 2yo was doing the same thing! And still keeps asking for his baby! 

post #11 of 24
I Really would love to tell my daughters 3 and 5. I know they will be thrilled when we do.
Do any of you worry though about them sharing the news with others before you are ready? Even if I tell my almost 6 year old it a secret. I wouldn't actually expect her to be able to keep it from kids at school. S I think I will wait at least a few more weeks...
post #12 of 24

my 4y.o DS asked me last week if there is a baby in my belly. He never asks me that!

then he said: he will not be born soon, right?

we didn't bring up the subject since then. 

it is amaizing how they know. I guess they are better then us at ''feeling'' rather then ''thinking''. 

we should be like that. ....how can I keep him like that?

post #13 of 24
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Originally Posted by KristyP View Post

I Really would love to tell my daughters 3 and 5. I know they will be thrilled when we do.
Do any of you worry though about them sharing the news with others before you are ready? Even if I tell my almost 6 year old it a secret. I wouldn't actually expect her to be able to keep it from kids at school. S I think I will wait at least a few more weeks...

Yup, that's one of the concerns why I won't tell her until the end of the first trimester.  My daughter doesn't even understand the concept of keeping secrets - she's turning three in a few months.

post #14 of 24
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Originally Posted by seastars View Post
 

Right of Passage - my DD has been talking about the baby in mama's belly since days before I tested. ???? So crazy how tuned in they can be, hey?

DS asked like 2 days ago "Do I have a baby sister yet?" I just got a very faint positive this morning.

post #15 of 24
I have it easy - ds is just shy of 18 months, and though "baby" is one of his favorite words, he has no clue what's going on. We've told him, but he won't get it until he sees the baby, and realizes after a few days that it's not going away. smile.gif
post #16 of 24
Thread Starter 

So we told the big boys we're having a baby coming in October and ds2 (6 y/o) said "OH! You're adopting!" I thought that was so sweet. adoptionheart-1.gif But they both want a sister, they are adamant! lol Not sure I can provide that. 

post #17 of 24

We will be telling our 2-year-old after my first appointment, at 10 weeks (March 3rd).  If all goes well, and we hear a heartbeat, of course.

post #18 of 24

I told my 15 year-old last week.  She's excited.  We'll be waiting another week or two before we tell the younger kids.  I don't trust my 7 year-old not to tell the whole school.  

post #19 of 24

I told my DS this past weekend and he was so non-chalant initially. (Could be b/c I told him after he went to a birthday party). He said that he wanted a little brother but thought I'd probably have a little girl. 

 

Last night I got a good chuckle from him...we had just eaten dinner and of course my belly was huge and bloated. He asked "is that the baby growing inside of you?" LOL...I had to burst his bubble and tell him I just had lots of food stuck in my stomach. 

post #20 of 24

At least 3-4 months along, or until I can't possibly hide it from them anymore (or when people start asking/talking in front of them). I want to make sure (as much as possible) that there won't be a loss, and my 5-year-old has zero sense of time and will ask every 5 seconds when the baby will come, so I want to save my sanity a little longer :)

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