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Poll Results: Have you ever breastfed someone else's baby?

 
  • 31% (13)
    Yes
  • 53% (22)
    No
  • 14% (6)
    Is there another potential option? Hmm well here's a spot for you.
41 Total Votes  
post #21 of 38
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Originally Posted by TheSchoolGuy View Post
 

HUH??? Is that even healthy? nono02.gif


Yes, it can be healthy.  There are a few health issues to keep in mind, but there are health/safety issues to watch out for with anything that a baby could be fed.  

post #22 of 38

I played wetnurse for the lady I was babysitting for. She was my dental hygenist & I offered to babysit when she was 5 months along during my cleaning as I had just found out I was expecting #2. She was a single mom, Korean (not sure of the BF culture there) & delivered 3 months before I did. She went back to work 2 weeks after he was born, was able to come to my house & nurse him over her lunch break so I nursed him the rest of the work day for her until my baby was born.

I'm pretty sure it was his nursing that brought on a fast labor & after all of his stimulation when my milk came in it was agony. I was checking my bra size on the computer every hour because it kept going up & up until stopping at 46" or an I cup. I nursed them both until she wanted to start him on solids & kept dropping nursings except for nap time.

post #23 of 38

I have nursed multiple of my friend's children and many of my mom friends nursed my little one when he was younger as well.  I remember going to my local natural moms group on Facebook and posting things like, "Need a sitter who is okay with wet nursing."  If you had told me ten years ago I'd be asking for things like that -- I'd have looked at you like you had two heads.  But after my first was born (he's 7) it suddenly became second nature.  Love it, it's good to know that you have people that are close enough to you that you can trust them with things like that.  It was a life saver with my youngest when I was so stressed out and tired that I just wanted to take a nap.  I could -- and just let someone else watch the little man!

post #24 of 38

My friend tried to breastfeed twice and literally was dry as the sahara. Same genetic disposition as her own mother.

A friend offered to breastfeed her 2nd baby. But her hubby was not into the idea. A little sad about it, because it could have been a really great opportunity.

post #25 of 38

Yes, after only two breastfeeds, a mother would be fairly dry.  The first two feeds would likely take place in the first few hours after birth, when a mother had only colostrum.  The milk takes a few days to come in...perhaps 40 or so feeds if you calculate a feed every two hours or so for 2-3 days.  

 

I get so pissed off when I hear of a mama missing out on nursing due to misinformation!!!

post #26 of 38
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Originally Posted by Voondrop View Post

I played wetnurse for the lady I was babysitting for.
It's funny, I didn't even think how common this used to be in societies that had wet nurses. Every royal for hundreds of years nursed from a woman who wasn't their mom.
post #27 of 38

Oh totally. She tried for 2 weeks. Baby lost a lot of weight. She had multiple lactation assistants and Le Leche community members there with her -- it just wasn't happnin.  So sad because she wanted it so much. 

Bottom line, she wanted to allow her friend to nurse for her. But her husband wouldn't allow. 

To me - that part sucked even worse. To work so hard for two weeks, then to have to put the child on formula because hubby feels awkward.  

Geez.

post #28 of 38

I belong to a community and background where breastfeeding someone else’s baby (usually in family and well known social relationships) is quite common. It is even inter-generational (involving grandmothers or grandaunts). Besides a baby’s vital need for sustenance, mother to mother relationship and personal bondage also matter. I have been in cross-nursing relationship with my co-wife (my husband’s first wife) and two friends, and sometimes under emergency situations involving others as well. I am told that I myself was sometimes breastfed by my father’s aunt and the wife of my cousin brother; while the former is no more, the latter continues to convey warmth of that relationship.

Breastfeeding another woman’s baby is an issue on which the discussions in this Forum in the past have shown widely different attitudes. It is only courteous that we respect each other’s views, beliefs and actions. Dr. Virginia Thorley of Queensland is a reputed international expert on breastfeeding and has done pioneering work on Mothers Support Groups with deep humanitarian and feminine concerns. She had done a cross country survey about three years ago on the very issue in this Forum, namely, breastfeeding other’s baby and the practice of cross / shared nursing. The same is also available on the net and can be tracked by first going to <www.virginiathorley.org> I commend to the interested members here to go through her research findings as they contain objective analysis, based on case studies, of the ground realities from all the relevant angles.

Uzra

post #29 of 38
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Originally Posted by blessedwithboys View Post
 

Yes, after only two breastfeeds, a mother would be fairly dry.  The first two feeds would likely take place in the first few hours after birth, when a mother had only colostrum.  The milk takes a few days to come in...perhaps 40 or so feeds if you calculate a feed every two hours or so for 2-3 days.  

 

I get so pissed off when I hear of a mama missing out on nursing due to misinformation!!!

I could be wrong, but I read that person's post as she tried to breastfeed twice -- as in with two different children -- not twice as in two times with one child :)

post #30 of 38

I voted other, not because I wouldn't but because I haven't. I have, though pumped milk for a friend who was unable to breastfeed but still wanted her baby to get the nourishment of breast milk.

post #31 of 38

i voted yes cause i breastfeed my sister baby when she ran off and left her with me for three days with nothing to feed her but one bottle and i had no money to get any formula at the time


Edited by unuselyriver - 2/15/14 at 12:01pm
post #32 of 38

Breastfed the baby of someone I was mentoring - baby was having latching problems, everybody was getting frustrated, and I wanted to see if I could figure out what was wrong.

 

Also pumped and donated to a friend who was hospitalized with PPP after the birth of her first child, and was on medication afterward that was not BF-safe.

 

My first never cross-nursed because I was always there, but I would be okay with it for the new baby as long as I was comfortable with the wet nurse.

post #33 of 38
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Originally Posted by Caledvwlch View Post
 

Breastfed the baby of someone I was mentoring - baby was having latching problems, everybody was getting frustrated, and I wanted to see if I could figure out what was wrong.

Yes!  I have done this too!  It wasn't that her latch was off, but her mom kept saying she was "moving her tongue weird" and so like three of us nursed her at a meetup to see if we could figure out the issue lol.

post #34 of 38

I never nursed another baby, but I would if needed, I have no problem with it.  I would also not have a problem if for some reason I needed a trusted person to nurse my baby.  I did pump a bunch for a friend.

 

That being said, I was nursed by my aunt when I was a newborn.  I love hearing the story and feel extra close to that aunt.

post #35 of 38
A close friend had a medical procedure when her baby was a little under a year old. she had to be away all day so I stopped in twice to nurse her LO. She fed hungrily. My DD was already 2 but I still had tons of milk. I made the mistake of nursing her from my left which was starting to lose milk and caused a painful engorgement. I felt comfortable doing this because I had been tested and cleared to donate milk to a milk bank. I would not let my kids nurse from someone who had not been tested and monogamous and all that because of risk of infection...
post #36 of 38
I nursed my niece. My sister had never breastfed successfully so she was trouble shooting trying to see if the problem was with her or the baby.The baby could latch on but she didn't have a strong enough suckle to receive any milk. IDK what would have happened back in the day before bottles...
post #37 of 38
The third option could be "I would be happy to nurse someone else's baby but haven't had the opportunity".
post #38 of 38

I haven't, but I've donated breastmilk. And I would if there were a situation where it was needed in an emergency or something.

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