Okay so I'm really just looking for some validation. That my birth is WORTH the drive.
Birth center A is where I delivered my first daughter. We moved however and it is now an 1.5 hour drive without traffic and it's STRAIGHT through Houston (I would have just said the city but I know Houston is different from most cities lol) So the chance of traffic is HUGE. I could possibly circle around the city if it's during a rush time but that's still suburbs and the chance is still very possibly that it could take us over 2 hours if I go into labor during the wrong time. However the birth center is basically two houses that have been renovated to accomadate an office in one and birthing rooms in the other. So the birthing house is 2 bedrooms with huge tubs, a cozy living room, and a full kitchen.So I can have my family visit like last time, take a shower after delivery, and even have a casserole popped into the oven when I start pushing. And I feel comfortable with those midwives. I trust them, I know them. (I'm friends with the one who delivered my first!)
Birth Center B is about 45 minutes to an hour and almost no chance of traffic. They have decent birthing rooms but they aren't neccesarily homey. The midwife I haven't been 100% comfortable with but I needed to get blood work done early so i went ahead and went for it. She's already giving me sideways looks for having lost 1 pound between my visits even though I explained I lost 10 in the first tri with my daughter and every woman in my family does the same. She freaked us out for measuring a fetal pole at 8 weeks instead of the blob that was clearly the baby and it took us hours to relax and realize that the baby was fine despite her mess up. There is no space for my family to come in and visit and there's no kitchen. I don't really see how I can even hang out after delivery for a few hours She is taking great care of my concerns about low progesterone and miscarriage. I personally love that she's running a test every time without me asking so far just to make sure that my progesterone IS rising now that I'm on the medicine.
But it doesn't feel the same. I realize now that my first birth felt like a home birth, just not in my own home. That's what I loved about it. And this birth center does NOT feel like home. It's much closer to a doctors office/hospital. Not to mention I definitely trust my old midwives more.
My only issue is the drive. I will have to pay $3600 for birth center a vs nothing for B since they accept medicaid but I know the owner will let me extend payments past the birth and I can work with her. I talked to the mw that delivered my first and she said she had two moms in the last two months that came from almost 3 hours away.
My first was about 10 hours from contractions to delivery. I know that if I come early I'll be able to hang out in the living room until I'm dialated enough. I'll be doing hypnobabies so hopefully I can survive the drive. My husband is okay with it as he just wants me to be comfortable.
What do you ladies think? Sorry it's so long!