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post #1 of 65
Thread Starter 

I need to whine, but I didn't want to start a whining thread, so I started a chat thread instead. I'm so clever...

 

This heartburn is killing me. I really don't want to take anything for it. I've tried apple cider vinegar and papaya enzymes, but no luck there. Chiropractor is next maybe. And, we all have a stomach bug at our house. Me and dh have got the shits, and my toddler pukes at precisely midnight every night. Fun times.

post #2 of 65

good timing! Mine started 3 days ago. From 0-60 in a couple hours. bleh. 

 

And SPD can kiss my butt. 

post #3 of 65
Thread Starter 

SPD doesn't sound like any fun at all. What do you do for it?

post #4 of 65
You can drink buttermilk for heartburn. Worked for me the one time I tried it.
post #5 of 65

I don't think it needs it's own post, so I'll add it here w/in the general chat ...

 

Mamas expecting #2 or beyond, have you started to figure out your childcare options during birth -- either the designated-child-watcher during a home birth or full childcare for a hospital birth? The 3 SAHMs I'd have been most likely to ask to help out for the time until MIL can get here (she lives just over an hour away) ... one is expecting, and the other 2 have newborns right now, so I'd feel a bit bad asking them now, but I need to get my plans organized by 28 weeks. It's my self-imposed deadline for getting things ready! When DD was born, it was summer, so we had college students on call, and the one that was available that day just picked DS up from camp, brought him back to our house, and carried on his routine as normal. A EDD during the school year is requiring a different sort of plan!

post #6 of 65
For me it's my sister. She will either be here for the girls or take them to her house, whatever they prefer.
post #7 of 65
Thread Starter 

I'm planning to have my baby at night while my toddler is asleep... but since that might not go as planned, I'll have neighbors help out (I'll figure out some schedules and things), and then I'll have my SIL pick her up if needed. I really don't want to announce to anyone I'm in labor though, so hopefully it happens at night.

post #8 of 65

I'll join in...

 

@Dandy Lion I feel your pain, literally. Heartburn since 17-18 weeks here. I don't like to take anything but I was so miserable and NOTHING was working!! Finally my OB told me that it really was okay to take Pepcid AC twice a day. She almost insisted, since my husband was there and he could relate my misery to her. I relented, and it really has made a huge difference. I take the lowest dose available OTC (10 mg I think) right before lunch and again before dinner.

 

@SynEpona Ugh!! I am having such a time with this. I have a feeling I'm gonna hijack this thread, lol. DS will be almost 3, and we are planning a hospital birth. My MIL, who originally agreed to come take care of him, lives 6+ hours away. So I have asked friends/neighbors if they will watch him if we have to head to the hospital before MIL can get here. Last week, MIL mentions to DH that FIL really wants to come too and since his job isn't as flexible they may not be able to get here as quickly. AND they want to bring their RV (different issue altogether), which would increase their drive time by quite a bit. I really want to say to her that if she can't be here when we need her, then please let us know now so we can make other arrangements, and they can just come visit a week or two later. On the other hand, if she can get here in time, I know that she thinks she'll be able to be at the hospital when this baby is born (I didn't allow them to come visit until a week after DS was born). I don't want her at the hospital. I want her at my home taking care of DS. But I can't say this to her because she is very sensitive and  takes everything very personally. 

 

Whine, whine, whine. I think I should get some nice baby swiss to go with my whine...(mmmmm, cheese!!) 

post #9 of 65
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Originally Posted by Dandy Lion View Post
 

SPD doesn't sound like any fun at all. What do you do for it?

I cry. 

 

LOL. No really... umm I don't have any cures. Being in the bath/shower feels good, but the relief stops within half hour of getting out. sleeping with pillows in between my knees. DH has been massaging my hips lately, and that feels really good, but again, doesn't last long.  More yoga and birth ball time would help. If I had time for that... lol. I mostly just remind myself that a stretchy pelvis means an easier birth :P lol

 

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Originally Posted by SynEpona View Post
 

I don't think it needs it's own post, so I'll add it here w/in the general chat ...

 

Mamas expecting #2 or beyond, have you started to figure out your childcare options during birth -- either the designated-child-watcher during a home birth or full childcare for a hospital birth? The 3 SAHMs I'd have been most likely to ask to help out for the time until MIL can get here (she lives just over an hour away) ... one is expecting, and the other 2 have newborns right now, so I'd feel a bit bad asking them now, but I need to get my plans organized by 28 weeks. It's my self-imposed deadline for getting things ready! When DD was born, it was summer, so we had college students on call, and the one that was available that day just picked DS up from camp, brought him back to our house, and carried on his routine as normal. A EDD during the school year is requiring a different sort of plan!

We're planning on a designated child watcher at our homebirth. Just not sure who it's going to be yet :/ Probably somebody from my local ap group. My MIL, FIL and 24 yo SIL live two blocks away though, so if we need, we can send my 2.5 year old there, but wouldn't feel comfortable with them coming to the birth, and we want her at the birth... 

 

Still feeling really stressed about not having that and the photographer situation organized. 

post #10 of 65
Ugh, heartburn is the worst! I'm praying I escape it this time- it hit me hard around 5 months with my last pregnancy and made eating miserable.
@onetwoten- sorry for my ignorance, but what's SPD? (It doesn't sound fun- that much I got.)

Can I whine too? I just got another yeast infection- my third this pregnancy. I tried every natural remedy I could think of with the first two, but I ended up resorting to monistat both times. I realllly don't want to do a third round- especially since it's only been 3 weeks since my last infection. But I don't know what else to do.... I've only has one other yeast infection before, so I don't know what's up. I drink lots of kefir and kombucha-- and I just cut out all sugar and white flour-- I hope that will help.

Ah, the joys of pregnancy! wink1.gif
post #11 of 65
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Originally Posted by gitanamama View Post

Ugh, heartburn is the worst! I'm praying I escape it this time- it hit me hard around 5 months with my last pregnancy and made eating miserable.
@onetwoten- sorry for my ignorance, but what's SPD? (It doesn't sound fun- that much I got.)

Can I whine too? I just got another yeast infection- my third this pregnancy. I tried every natural remedy I could think of with the first two, but I ended up resorting to monistat both times. I realllly don't want to do a third round- especially since it's only been 3 weeks since my last infection. But I don't know what else to do.... I've only has one other yeast infection before, so I don't know what's up. I drink lots of kefir and kombucha-- and I just cut out all sugar and white flour-- I hope that will help.

Ah, the joys of pregnancy! wink1.gif

I've heard that the gaps diet can help clear up yeast, obviously the total plan wouldn't be a great idea being pregnant but looking at the last stage of it would give you a good idea of things that are helpful to eat. Like cutting out most fruits except green apples, berries, and grapefruit (in moderation) for an example. Do you have a good probiotic?? If you don't already getting one would be great and when it runs out get different brand (incase it's not on your radar switching will help as each provides different cultures). No fun though, hope you can kick this one without meds!

post #12 of 65
Childcare during birth is so stressful to figure out! I am also very private about being in labor, and luckily, I've had my last two at home in the wee hours while the little ones slept. I set up postpartum doulas to be on call just in case I needed them to watch the kids. I wanted people who were comfortable with labor and were "hired" where that was their job. I stressed about the expense, but really, it felt better to me than getting the in-laws or busy mothers involved. I had a lot of predomal labor with the first two, so I never new when the action was really going somewhere, and if telling people it was time would scare labor off. I am not sure what will happen this time...with a more complicated scenario, I have be more flexible, and just playing it by ear until we know final birth plans. Hopefully my sister or aunt will come from out of state, and hopefully, that won't upset my mil (would not want her there!)
I think I've had a bit of yeast too:( I have a lot of leukorrhea going on, and not sure if that gets irritating or what. Been doubling up on probiotics, and with warmer weather, trying to "air out" a little more-going commando with boxers at night, less blankets etc. No fun! Heartburn- papaya enzymes and lemon water help me so far.
post #13 of 65

I'm very lucky when it comes to childcare during labor.  We used to live across the street from my grandmother, so the kids just went to her house with the birth of our second and third.  Now we're living on an acreage with my parents, so the kids will likely just to go the basement and have a sleepover at 'gramma and grandpas.'  My mom helps with the birth, and my dad would take care of the kidlets.  We've contemplated having the kids there for the birth, but I find release in making a lot of noise and I don't want them to get scared or nervous.  Normally I'm a pretty mellow person, so seeing me moaning and vocalizing might be a bit much for them.  They're pretty sensitive little boys.  I want them close though - it's an amazing feeling having so much love surrounding brand new life in those first hours.  We live two miles away from my inlaws, so that's always an option as well.  

 

My sister took pictures of my first birth, and it made me decide to not have pictures at subsequent births (well that and the fact that my second came so fast our midwife didn't get to our house in time).  Instead, the day after babe is born, I write down everything I can remember, getting my husband to fill in the gaps.  I like the softness of memories rather than pictures.  :)

post #14 of 65
Acupuncture can help with yeast & heartburn!
post #15 of 65
@berrypavlova- I'm a vegetarian, so GAPS isn't for me, although I am trying to implement some of the diet changes (no sugar, no processed grains, lots of fermented foods.) I'm just frustrated because there's so much I want to eat, being pregnant. I guess it's probably better that ice cream and cookies are off limits, but it's definitely not any fun! (And thanks for the tip on probiotics- I didn't realize I needed to switch brands every so often.)

We're lucky in terms of childcare because my mom lives downstairs in the basement apartment. We want DS to have to opportunity to be at the birth if he wants, but it gives me peace of mind knowing he can hang out downstairs if he wants.

@zakdat- I agree that memories are much softer smile.gif. I had a friend photograph my birth with DS but I had a hard time looking at the pictures afterwards. They were so sharp and bold and....bloody. I was in such a zone during the birth- I look back on it as being soft and sparkly and magical. The pictures definitely portray a different scene! I think I'll ask my friend to shoot in b&w this time-- I like the idea of having pics, I just wish the camera could capture the true energy of the birth experience.
Edited by gitanamama - 2/19/14 at 12:36pm
post #16 of 65

We found our daycare.  Though on the waitist, the director felt we won't have a problem given the time that is left. 

 

They are cloth diaper-friendly and, amazingly, a 1.5 minute drive from my work!  We are all around very happy with their program and what we saw on the tour and they check out with a perfect record from the state. 

 

It is exciting to get this checked off the to-do list :)

post #17 of 65
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Originally Posted by SynEpona View Post
 

I don't think it needs it's own post, so I'll add it here w/in the general chat ...

 

Mamas expecting #2 or beyond, have you started to figure out your childcare options during birth -- either the designated-child-watcher during a home birth or full childcare for a hospital birth? The 3 SAHMs I'd have been most likely to ask to help out for the time until MIL can get here (she lives just over an hour away) ... one is expecting, and the other 2 have newborns right now, so I'd feel a bit bad asking them now, but I need to get my plans organized by 28 weeks. It's my self-imposed deadline for getting things ready! When DD was born, it was summer, so we had college students on call, and the one that was available that day just picked DS up from camp, brought him back to our house, and carried on his routine as normal. A EDD during the school year is requiring a different sort of plan!

My kids are in and out during birth. I have noticed that my births tend to happen later and later in the day since I had my first.....As if my body knows it will be easier if they are all sleeping. my first was born at 8:01 am and my last was Just after midnight. We are expecting baby number 6 and do not have any outside help. I feel so blessed to be able to birth at home unassisted. 

post #18 of 65

Elektra, same. my labors seem to begin the second my kids go to bed, so it's not usually an issue.

post #19 of 65
Speaking of older kiddos, do you mamas have a plan for the post partum period? I spent the first few days after DS was born in bed, recovering from a tear and labor in general. Not sure how that will work this time, with a very active 4 year old in the house. I'm hoping we can schedule for DH to have some time off from work and I'm counting on my mom to help out with meals and taking care of DS. What are others' plans?
post #20 of 65

I'm a FTM so no older kiddos to worry about, but my parents will be in town for a few weeks and can help out.  They have an RV which they will be staying in about 20 minutes away.  My mom will work "from home" on the road, but will have a good amount of time regardless and my dad will be available when needed.  My MIL, SIL and niece plan to come soon after the birth and will stay in our guest room.  I will probably be glad to have the help, but I think I will be a little overwhelmed by the cramped company as well (we live in a 2-bedroom condo) especially for the overlap when both families are here at once.  Yikes! 

 

My fiance is starting a new job next week, so he will only have limited time off, so I think I will be very grateful for the help. 

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