Talk to me about your experience having your older children present at your homebirth.
DD is 2.5 now, will be 3 years, 3 months in October. She is very smart, extremely verbal, and always understands what is going on. She knows all about her birth story, and she says she wants to be there when this baby comes and "help push it out".
However, the other day I stepped on a piece of glass and cut my foot (it was bleeding some, but not gushing or anything), and she was rather upset and kept talking about it, although it made her feel better to go get the band-aids and help me put them on. So I just don't know - will the reality of birthing be too much?
The other issue is that we don't have a really great option for another adult to be present to take care of her, to bring her in and out of the room as she needs. All of our family is out of state, and the one good friend we have that we would ask to do that is having her own baby just a few weeks before. I have another friend who would probably be willing, but my daughter doesn't know her very well.
Our other options are to hire a sibling doula (which is $500 I don't really want to pay), or to have her home daycare provider come pick her up, which I am sure she would do.