Is anyone else in a similar situation?
I've been here for over 2years due to my son's battle with systemic candida and digestive problems. So sorry if this sounds like a pity party, I feel burnt out trying to arrange meetings with other moms, friends or family only to cancel or have it rarely work out. The best part is the guilt trips and questions searching for explanations I get from family, friends, and our religious community. Like I could try harder or that it is a choice. My husband, I found out recently, thought I had no friends and he is dissatisfied with our son's lacking social life.
The play dates in the group I'm apart of (sort of) vary in time and one per week. Everyone takes a turn hosting, but I can't because currently we have to live with my in laws who feel weird about guest even though they say different and the house is a toddler hazard zone- the sharp edge furniture, unable to baby gate the stairs, etc.
The BEST part, is the reason i had to cancel tomorrow's play date. (A little background to understand) My son had a reaction to some food Sunday that made him very ill. His bowel movements, naps, and day/night schedule are totally off routine. I decided to take him to a nearby kid's zone with tunnels and a slide to get him out a short time. Suddenly he needed the potty....didn't want to use the restroom.... screamed until verge of throwing up about going into the car seat because he needs the potty......40min of screaming, soothing and negotiating later
We sat in our small kia car... he upon his toddler potty, I had in stored the trunk, for an hour.... in the parking lot.
(More back ground- this happened once before. I forced him in his car seat to quickly go home. after that my son refused and screamed about going even out side for 6 days.)
He didn't end up having a bm. So going any where tomorrow especially far away to some one house I am fearful.
Rereading my post it may sound like a lack of empathy for my son, i am just exasperated with the inconsistency and curve balls this situation has thrown. I get concerned for my son's social wellness a lot and miss people myself and not sure what to do any more. He goes to the child care at the gym randomly, that's it. I think my son is amazing and has been heroic in his battle for health and facing fears.
I would REALLY like to hear other people's story. How are you coping and over coming things, how are you feeling?
Kacy a.k.a JavaMom
Edited by JavaMom - 2/19/14 at 10:43am