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post #1 of 8
Thread Starter 

have you been able to revolve your life around that?

 

for instance for most of my life i have been able to fit my life around getting up late.

 

i worked afternoon shift, sometimes even night shift. 

 

dd too is a night owl so we never woke up before 10 when she was little and in ps. 

 

we did have to be early birds for a while but now am back to being up late. my work allows me to get up between 8 and 9 am. thankfully i've never had a watch the clock job.

 

i consider myself v. fortunate. my exh was a nightowl too so except when dd was in school and when i had a long commute mostly i have never had to wake up before 8 am. which to me is a luxury. i am so much more well rested getting up anytime between 8 and 10 rather than 6 am. 

 

we just started hsing so dd wakes up at around noon or 1. one of the contributing factors why we had to pull her out of middle school was that they started at 7:30 am. dd was a complete zombie as she had to stay late to finish homework. yeah she got tonnes. 

post #2 of 8
Hmm, never thought about it quite like that but I suppose I have. I have worked night shift for the past 16 years when I do work. Both kids are wired that way too and we homeschool so yes, we do have the luxury of following our natural inclinations when it cames to sleep most of the time. We can and do switch it around a bit for ongoing activities (camps,homeschool co-ops) without much trouble but always revert back to nightowl ways. smile.gif

How's homeschooling going, Meemee? Having fun?
post #3 of 8
For short periods I have been able to. On a couple of occasions I have worked permanent night shift. I don't think it's healthy for me though and there was no option for me to do just evening shifts, which probably would have been better.

Now I have early-bird children and, when I work I will only be doing day shifts so I can be with them at night.
post #4 of 8

Lifelong Night Owl here!! I've always struggled to fit in to this Early Bird world, since as far back as I can remember. It's just who I am!  My grandmother was a total night owl too, so maybe I got it from her.

 

I began working for myself the same year my son was born, so it has allowed me to make my own schedule. You guessed it, night time is the best time for me to work. After the kids are asleep, I can begin. I don't usually go to bed before 2am, and sometimes I stay up all night if I have to. Unfortunately, my son is in school, and I have to drive him. I have to be up around 7:40am, which is quite a challenge for me.

 

Question for other night owls--do you sometimes nap during the day? If you are up late, and have to get up early, do you find that you need a nap around 5pm? Sometimes, I have a strange sleep schedule, where I'll get 3-4 hours at night, and then I'll need a nap later after dinner. Yes, I admit my schedule is messed up, but being a SAHM and working from home, it is challenging to work, raise a family, and get proper sleep!

post #5 of 8

Until I had my second child, monsieur-up-with-the-sun, yes. I worked in publishing, with late morning start times and often late working hours. Then I worked freelance, where people liked the fact that they could give me something at 5pm and I'd do it overnight and have it in their email inbox at 9am. I can see how that would feel a bit like magic for an overworked manager. It's a little like the Shoemaker's Elves. 

 

Now, I can't really. He's up. He wakes up his big sister usually, even though she's by nature a night owl like her parents. We all keep relatively normal hours now. It just occurred to me that DD wants to be a performer, so she'll often have "workdays" of nighttime theater shows with afternoon call times and ending at 11pm. So I guess that will fit with her night owl clock.

 

I do like being up early and feeling accomplished before noon though. I get work done more easily in the morning than at night now. With that in mind, I should go to bed now! 

post #6 of 8
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Question for other night owls--do you sometimes nap during the day? If you are up late, and have to get up early, do you find that you need a nap around 5pm? Sometimes, I have a strange sleep schedule, where I'll get 3-4 hours at night, and then I'll need a nap later after dinner. Yes, I admit my schedule is messed up, but being a SAHM and working from home, it is challenging to work, raise a family, and get proper sleep!

Pre-children, I had a daytime sleep nearly every day. If I worked an early shift, 7-3:30, meant getting up at 5:30-6, then I would be wrecked by 5pm. If I didn't have to get up at 5:30 the next morning I would often come home and have a sleep. If I did have to get up early, I'd push through and go to bed early.

When I only had one child, I would often sleep with her during the day. Now I have two and the oldest doesn't have a daytime sleep everyday so it's harder. And, also my only alone time! The 1pm slump is a killer though.
I am actually finding myself pretty productive in the mornings too. Although I guess I always was, it's just the getting up which kills me.
post #7 of 8
Thread Starter 

BECKYBIRD: i have found i've needed naps after i hit my 40s. not before that.

 

however if i kept typical normal hours then yes i'd get a little tired in the afternoons but i didnt really need a nap. more a downtime.

 

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How's homeschooling going, Meemee? Having fun?

oh stormborn thank you so much for asking. i am bursting to tell so you'll have to suffer thru my tome.

 

its a miracle i tell you... a miracle!

 

until i hsed i had no idea how many different kinds there were. 

 

so we are doing a flavor of it. through a charter school so we have to do so many hours of study. that's the only way i can get her dad to agree. 

 

boy oh boy dd and i struggled initially. we had to meet an advisor every 2 weeks and we'd have sometimes 2 hour meetings. now its down to 15 minutes so we got a hang of it. 

 

initially dd nor i had no idea what we were doing. she was in the deschooling mode and i was in the overschooling mode. 

 

but we got it all worked out now. well almost. 

 

its going smoothly and we are loving it. 

 

just when i was getting overwhelmed and was so tired to bug dd to do her work, the advisor expressed how happy she was with our progress and said dd does not have to do so much work. dd went - 'what so much work? i am not doing too much work!' YEAH!!! so we figured out to continue what dd's interests are but we dont need to document most of it. 

 

so yeah its going GREAT. and i have figured out how to fit in unschooling amongst it as dd is more an unschooling kid. its helpful the charter is so good. they have not fixed dd's curriculum - though they have given us a guide. they have not insisted us sticking to it. so even though dd is doing ancient history she spent a week studying the history of blues because of a song she is doing in choir and we spent a week on diseases adn forensics because dd's latest obsession is sherlock. 

 

i dont teach dd. i help her when she needs help. i find resources and offer them to her and she does what she finds interesting. 

 

its taken us 6 years to hs. all the emotional and other problems that made us pull dd from school, have all disappeared. dd is having a grand time. nothing else could make a mother happier.

 

and dd has accepted her weird self. (the idea that hs makes you weird). well she has always been seen as weird but now she is having a ball with adults and accepts kids for who they are, not their action (her best friend has started calling her an idiot - i imagine because when she is over at their house she is spending more time hanging out with the parents than her friend. she just ignores him). 

post #8 of 8
I'm glad it's going well! You figured out what the best combo was pretty quickly, huh? We're still figuring it out as we go, and it's been awhile, but that's the nature of it. Wish we lived close- our daughters sound very much alike. smile.gif
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