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sex drive

post #1 of 17
Thread Starter 

hi!

 

this is baby #3 for us, and I am having symptoms I didn't have with my 2 other pregnancies.

The most...distracting....is a surreal sex drive (last time I was like that, I was 17y.o., I am 32 now!).

It really affects my everyday life. 

wondering if any of you had this at any pregnancy? if yes, does it last all pregnancy.

I am 7 weeks and a half now.

 

thanks!

post #2 of 17

I am having quite the opposite problem. I don't want to be touched by my dh most of the time. He is a boob guy and I have always loved him touching but right now my skin crawls when he touches them. 

post #3 of 17
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Originally Posted by lilitchka View Post
 

hi!

 

this is baby #3 for us, and I am having symptoms I didn't have with my 2 other pregnancies.

The most...distracting....is a surreal sex drive (last time I was like that, I was 17y.o., I am 32 now!).

It really affects my everyday life. 

wondering if any of you had this at any pregnancy? if yes, does it last all pregnancy.

I am 7 weeks and a half now.

 

thanks!


I can totally relate! The first pregnancy he obliged like crazy, but now that we are parents we just don't get to have nearly as much sex as I would like. Oh well. This pregnancy is going to have alot more sleeping and less sex than the last.

post #4 of 17

my third pregnancy was like that, too!  my dh was so thrilled, because i had no drive at all with the first two. 

 

it did slow down during my third trimester. sorry, i know that is a long time away!  :p

post #5 of 17
I have had such a crazy high sex drive with all pregnancies, just not the energy in the first tri to make the most of it. In the 3rd tri I'm so huge there is no good position...
post #6 of 17
Mine has decreased for sure! Our family has been battling a cold for the last week, and while I don't like being sick, I'm not minding that it's an excuse not to have sex...(except I will feel guilty when we are all better and I still don't want to lol)
I'm not nauseous, I just don't feel like having sex.
post #7 of 17
Thread Starter 

thank you for your posts!

I don't mind the increase in libido usually (like around ovulation), but it is a bit excessif and I can't think of anything else! I see sex everywhere! DH is super stressed with work, we still manage to have sex once a day, but it seems too little to me. 2 hours after sex, I need more! I need some kind of extended release formulation for sex!

before this pregnancy and since the birth of baby#2, we had sex like 3 times a month!

post #8 of 17

Once a day! Man I am jealous!

post #9 of 17
Thread Starter 

yeaah...but always too quick (with kids watching TV in another room!)

I miss the long sex. 

post #10 of 17
Heck I thought we were doing darn good with 5 times in the last 2 weeks, essentially with my fatigue level!
post #11 of 17
Thread Starter 

I think you doing good. the important part is to be both satisfied.

 

few months ago, we would have sex only few times a month, and would be both happy with it.

now we are having quick sex daily, but I am not satisfied.

 

so more is not better. 

 

thats why I am wondering if this going to last all pregnancy or just first trimester....

post #12 of 17
Been that way with both of my viable pregnancies. It's nice, because sex temporarily helps my morning sickness! Unfortunately, always being so hot to trot means I usually orgasm quickly, and am sad it's over so fast! So I'm ready to go again as soon as we're done. dh, sadly, is not!
post #13 of 17

I am having zero sex drive right now.  Pretty sure we've done it once since we conceived.  However, with my first pregnancy, I couldn't get enough sex during my 2nd trimester (and 3rd too, actually, but DH wasn't so into it), so I wonder if things will change in a few weeks.

post #14 of 17

Well it seems like nothing is ever perfect. I am like the guy in  my relationship. I would be happy with a quicky, but my husband cannot relax with kids watching tv in next room. He's mad obsessed with an art project because he's gong to New Orleans for Marti Gra and will be in multiple parades and what not. So he's busy and I just want sex.. There are worse problems..:)

post #15 of 17

I've heard that more of a drive means you're having a boy!  I had three girls, then a boy, and it was true for me.  Not sure this time around, I just feel too nauseous yet...

post #16 of 17

No sex drive whatsoever.  Mostly thanks to the spotting that seems to have now (knock on wood) finally stopped.  Fortunately enough, my husband is the same right now, so there's no 'conflict of interests' or any hurt feelings around here (thank manitou! :)

post #17 of 17
Thread Starter 

my ''problem'' is getting better.

nausea and being tired all the time toned down my sex drive. It feels more normal now!

now I just very easily get aroused, but at least I am not thinking about sex 24hrs a day.

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