should i have cancelled?

[LdyBluNH@aol]

dd and i have plans to go to the aquarium today. i cant drive to this city so its kinda big deal.

we talked many times yesterday (especially around dinner time on) that the expectation is she will go to bed at a good time (shes five and half)

she had her teeth done and pj's on. we all watched west wing

her dad got ready for bed and i was in the kitchen

if i'm not ready to go to bed i let her be in her bed with her light and radio on

she was there for a bit and suddenly she was up.

we do a verbal thing of you need to be in bed, mommy come, etc

basically she wont go without someone with her; not only am i trying to organize some stuff for the trip but honestly i'm a little touched out and need the separation

finally at 1050 i'm in with her and honestly i'm not in a good mood. the only thing required of her to go was co-operation on bed and the expectation was clearly said and we all worked hard to have her ready. all she had to do was go to bed and she didn't

i'm thinking the trip should be cancelled. if you dont do whats needed, you dont go

am i off my rocker on this one?

[boomingranny]

Sounds like it was a big deal to her too and she was excited. This is a tough call. Seems to me that not going to the aquarium would be a little harsh. Maybe a consequence such as no treats or toys, or just letting her feel tired and grouchy because she didn't get enough rest (and of course pointing this out to her when she starts whining). Hope you have fun!

[stafl]

How old is she? I wouldn't cancel the trip. sounds like she was just too excited to get to sleep.

[anothermama]

how old is your dd? I think thats the key..........if it were my dd, who just turned 5, I think I'd still go. Her bedtime routine is still partially my responsibility.

[khrisday]

I don't think it is the best ides to set up an expectation like that, although I can see where you are coming from. Once you set a limit though, I think you shoudl keep it. If you choose not to, be sure to tell your dd that even though she didn't do as you asked and shoudl not be able to go you have changed your mind and will allow her to. You don't want her thinking you are not going to stick to your word.