JAKOBSMAMI..... I can totally relate! I had a kinda crappy mothers Day too! It started Saturday, my baby shower day. I heard DH on the phone that morning talking to his sister (my host), telling her that he probably won't make the shower, sorry, got work to do! WHAT???
He never told me that he planned on working instead of going to this special event! I thought he was going to get everything out of the way in the morning so he would be free??!!
I really got after him for that, he said he thought he told me he wasn't going to go. No. I think I would have remembered!! He said he would try to hurry and then come over there when done. He never made it. I was real upset. This was a special event for me and he was there last time. Why should this be any less special??? It was hard to get him to understand. Men.
Well, I had an "emotional outbreak" over the whole thing that night, let him have it. It became quite a bit more intense when he asked me if it would be OK if he did not go to lunch the next day (Mothers Day), with me and my family. He wanted to stay home and play in the yard, because he never has any time to himself to do things he enjoys. Well, I blew a gasket then!
Talk about feeling unloved/unsupported!! I started bawling and he wondered why. Then he claims he did not even know it was Mothers Day, he thought it was Monday! Yeah right! Then he proceeded to tell me how he has been working many weekends (true), and has not been able to "play" any, do anything fun for himself. I understand all that, truely. And I guess I am just being selfish....but darn it...it really hurt my feelings that he didn't want to participate in the shower, no card or gift for Mothers Day, and then did not want to go out to celebrate the fact that I am raising his 2 children!
Actually, there is another thing that has played into my emotions over this too. A little while back he mentioned that he didn't know how he would take a whole week off to be with me after the birth, he has too much going on at work!!
I said, so you are going to leave me alone with a newborn and a 3 yr old???? I don't think so!! What is more important? Family or work?
All this was in the back of my mind when this more recent stuff came up, and it all just mounted up to a big old
So, it was not a great day. He did go with me to the lunch (as long as we left by 2 pm), and I enjoyed the company of my family, they made me feel loved. But I am still a bit sore at DH. We worked things out, released feelings, made amends. So I am "OK" for now. Anyway, Jakobsmami....I know what you mean!!!
ps..got my lab result back for the beta strep...NEGATIVE!!!!
I am SO Happy about that! Last time I was positive, it sucked having an IV. So this time.....