Ok this is the only forum that might even, possibly, understand this!
My ex was a pretty rotten guy. He drank, cheated witha large # of girls and beat the heck out of me. Luckily, I figured out that I needed to leave.
this was many years ago. My ex refused to pay child support and when forced, moved to another state, and thenn another and another and even another! Because I had been on Welfare the state chased him.
Becasue the state was incredibly relaxed about collecting and due to a series of mix-ups, my ex would up paying me $5 a week on the arrears. My daughter is now 25. So, once a month, I get a check for $25. , 5 weeks instead of only 4! Woo-hoo. He doesn't see his daughter, though they had a decent relationship until she became an adult and saw him for who he really was. He hurt her horribly, and for that I can't forgive him! So, not seeing her, or even calling her or sending a birthday or Christmas card to her...and then having to mail me a check....
For years I considered going back to court, getting it put back to the $80. a week it was supposed tobe. It wouldn't affect the total due, just how long it took.
Then I came up with a new plan. It must make him nuts to write that check every month. Going back to court would make me nuts , it's far away, stressful and would stir things up. Instead, I take that measly $25. and send it to a stock brokerage firm. I'm investing it! It will take him until I'm 73 years old to pay it off, if they were to stop adding in interest. I invest it in stocks I feeel good about, and so far I'm doing great!
I just wanted to add, for anyone feeling sympathy for the poor slob, that he refused to lend me $10, the only time I ever asked, because he needed it to put gas in his boat. He called DSS on me, even though I was a foster parent, he stood his daughter up countlees times, moved thousandds of miles from her, tried to prevent me from adopting my son, because I still had his last name and he didn't want me to bestow it on some kid, etc.
He'sd have let us starve without ever caring.
So, with some careful investing, I'm hoping to let my nestegg of his money grow to a healthy retirement! I won't take him to court and start any bad Karma, or bad feelings, I can just sit back and let fate get even!
Thanks, I needed to tell someone that!
My ex was a pretty rotten guy. He drank, cheated witha large # of girls and beat the heck out of me. Luckily, I figured out that I needed to leave.
this was many years ago. My ex refused to pay child support and when forced, moved to another state, and thenn another and another and even another! Because I had been on Welfare the state chased him.
Becasue the state was incredibly relaxed about collecting and due to a series of mix-ups, my ex would up paying me $5 a week on the arrears. My daughter is now 25. So, once a month, I get a check for $25. , 5 weeks instead of only 4! Woo-hoo. He doesn't see his daughter, though they had a decent relationship until she became an adult and saw him for who he really was. He hurt her horribly, and for that I can't forgive him! So, not seeing her, or even calling her or sending a birthday or Christmas card to her...and then having to mail me a check....
For years I considered going back to court, getting it put back to the $80. a week it was supposed tobe. It wouldn't affect the total due, just how long it took.
Then I came up with a new plan. It must make him nuts to write that check every month. Going back to court would make me nuts , it's far away, stressful and would stir things up. Instead, I take that measly $25. and send it to a stock brokerage firm. I'm investing it! It will take him until I'm 73 years old to pay it off, if they were to stop adding in interest. I invest it in stocks I feeel good about, and so far I'm doing great!
I just wanted to add, for anyone feeling sympathy for the poor slob, that he refused to lend me $10, the only time I ever asked, because he needed it to put gas in his boat. He called DSS on me, even though I was a foster parent, he stood his daughter up countlees times, moved thousandds of miles from her, tried to prevent me from adopting my son, because I still had his last name and he didn't want me to bestow it on some kid, etc.
He'sd have let us starve without ever caring.
So, with some careful investing, I'm hoping to let my nestegg of his money grow to a healthy retirement! I won't take him to court and start any bad Karma, or bad feelings, I can just sit back and let fate get even!
Thanks, I needed to tell someone that!
: ---for making it big on your stocks...
