Coming out of the fog...

[maddysmommy]

Hey-
Just an intro- I'm in the process of separating from my h. of 9 years - we have a 2.5 yo dd. I'm finally feeling good about it after a couple weeks of random crying and feeling out of control. I was initally very resistant to the idea, but I'm feeling very free about it now. I'm totally freaked out about the prospect of handling finances and house stuff by myself, but I think it'll be ok, if tighter than it had been. I think he and I will be able to be civil about parenting etc. I feel guilty about feeling so good about it right now lol. Anyway, words of wisdom and encouragement are appreciated, and hello to all!

Leah

[Patchy Dragon]

Hi Leah!

When you're happier and feeling good, your daughter can see that. That generally promotes a better environment for her which is nothing to feel guilty about~

[Millie Ivy]

ITA with Patchy, I know that both my kiddos are healthier now because we are all in a happier situation. I hate to think of how screwed up my dds view of what marriage should be if I had stayed with her dad!

So hello! And we are here for ya!

[brusselsprout]

Hello

I know for me I cried alot in the beginning, cried until I thought I couldn't cry any more, and then I cried some more. After I moved I felt like I was in a better frame of mind, but there are still times when all I want to do is cry, and I think that is OK. On the other hand there are times I am giddy with excitement. I feel free and I love knowing everything is MINE (and that I don't have to worry about the bills being paid, cuz I always pay them before I do anything else), and I think that is OK too. I guess what I am trying to say, is that there are going to be ups and downs this first year. It is alot of emotions to process.

And I totally agree that the kids know when they are in a better place. I have so loved watching my boys blossom in the last year.