|Intimacy is key, and it's just really unlikely to be there with a hired professional attendant.|
that's why i decided (easily) against hiring a doula... although the one in our area is nice enough, and her fees were decent enough (i suppose)... really, how much of a relationship can you build with someone who, for one, you just met, and two, you're paying to be nice to you... ?
i honestly can't imagine hiring someone who i've never seen or met ever before in my life to come and have their hands all over me during one of the most private, intimate times in my life. how could i ever relax?
** not putting down the huge amount of women who opt for doula services... but i don't like to be touched normally by anyone, let alone complete strangers, and i don't care how much you're paying someone ~ midwife, doctor, or doula ~ that's a stranger.
.... i think i'll be shutting up now.