I have a few minutes so I thought I'd pop in and say hello
My pregnancy is going well so far - and I really think the baby may arrive in Sept but oh well august is fine to put down! :LOL I do know my conception date was Dec 16th, fwiw.
I've been there about not having a supportive partner. For me this was during Donovan's pregnancy. I had a lot of my own fear/doubts and lots of external pressures/stress so it wasn't a UC, but that hospital birth really did open my Dh's eyes "She's right after all!!" and he was 100% UC from there on in. I sure hope though that no one has to have a or another hospital birth to "prove" to their Dh's that UC may be the way to go after all. Not to mention that may not work anyways, they may just see everything that is done as nessasary. Hospitals and the percieved authority of Drs and nurses can be a really powerful thing.
Anyways Dh still felt a bit nervous now and then, and reiterating blueviolet's suggestion, he did feel much better knowing he didnt' have to be the "replacement" for a professional, just to be emotionally and practically supportive and helpful. Turns out he slept through most of my labor, which was fine because he was alert enough to take care of the kids the next morning while I went into transistion, and it wound up being a solo birth anyways LOL. After the birth I was "barking orders" - "get the blankets" "I need some water" "grab the pan" "tie the cord there that should be fine". It just came naturally and everything fell into place on it's own.
One of the major hurdles I have this time is that unlike my last pregnancy, I'm now living nearby my mother again, and even after a successful birth she still thinks I'm nuts. She hasn't said much in a few weeks thankfully but how long will that last! I've had to hear things like "Do what M did and go to the hospital at the last possible second so they don't have to do any of that crap to you" or, here's a good one "just have the baby in the car so it will look like you were on your way!" Oh no way!!! I forgot to tell her that a day after that suggestion I watched a report on the news about a New Jersey couple who was speeding to the hospital. She had the baby in the car and he wound up crashing the car. The father died I believed and the mother was found wandering around looking for the baby!!
They were both in critical condition last I heard. I hope their ok now. I did tell my mom "remember last time we just agreed to disagree and not discuss it?" and she said "No"! I said "well maybe we need to do that again" and she said she coudln't promise to keep her mouth shut.
Oh, I'm doing my own prenatal care which is just involving eating well and taking it easy. I have been wanting to get into yoga again but haven't been able to find any good yoga on DVD. I know I could go along with diagrams in books and magazines but I've found that awkward and breaks my concentration. I did see a GP at around 3 months preg, for a confirmation of pregnancy, and went through a general checkup so I could get a referall for counselers for PPD. (medicaid hoop jumping basically)
Ok I need to reign the children, so I have to go. Oh you can add my UC story for Liam if you like, the link is http://unassistedchildbirth.com/jesse.htm
. Also if you are a birthlove member all of my birthstories can be found there too. Thank you for starting this thread.
Oh and CONGRATS INDIGOLOLLIBEAR!!!
I just noticed in your signature you had your baby! How wonderful