We lost a neice to cancer on December 17th of 2001. She was diagnosed in Feb. of that year. She was 11 when she passed away. Rebecca was an only child of my sister and her ex-husband. I want to send flowers (daisys were Rebecca's favorite) to my sister on the anniversary of her death. My mother told me the last two years that it was too soon for my sister. I send her a Mother's Day card every year, but I'm wondering if you all that have experienced this type of loss can tell me another way I can honor Rebecca's memory. Her birthday? I can see the anniversary of her death being too painful, but my thoughts are that my sister is going to be immersed in thoughts of her on that day, why not let her know that others haven't forgotten that day as well? But, having not dealt with this loss myself, I honestly don't know what to do. I asked my sisters permission to name my daughter with whom I was pregnant at the time after Rebecca and she said yes. And an odd thing is that my dd has not met my mother yet, but she talks to her quite frequently on the phone. She calls her Gammy, even though I've always called her Grandma when I'm talking about her and the cool this is that my mom told me the other day that Rebecca always called her Gammy! Some communication from our own 
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I hope no one minds me asking this question here. I don't want to offend anyone, but it isn't a question that anyone who has not experienced this life changing event can answer. Thank you so much for reading my post.
?I hope no one minds me asking this question here. I don't want to offend anyone, but it isn't a question that anyone who has not experienced this life changing event can answer. Thank you so much for reading my post.
! others here have had wonderful, sincere ideas. imho, you just thinking of her and by doing something whether large or small, will touch her heart
. like you said in your op, letting others know that she is not forgotten and acknowledging the day and honoring her memory is so thoughtful.
