Sids

[mumziemoo]

Has anyone else here lost a baby to SIDS? My precious Haiku Rose was born on 13th June, 1999 & died on 27th August, 1999. The coroner told me that she was a beautiful & perfectly healthy baby girl - he couldn't find any cause of death.

Om shanti
Alison

[Ms. Mom]

Alison, a warm and gentle welcome to Mothering.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I know of a few mothers here who have lost a child to SIDS. I cannot imagine your pain.

Your precious Haiku Rose will always be a part of you. Please share what ever feels comfortable about her. We're good listners

[simonee]

I have never lost a child, but I want to offer you warmth and love. I'm so sorry you lost your precious Haiku Rose

[Lucky Charm]

I am so sorry about your baby girl.

What a beautiful name she has.

I have never lost a child, but my heart goes out to you, and all the others who have experienced this.

[pln]

s to you mama.

Not a day goes by when I don't worry about SIDS for my own little
one.

Your precious baby had a lot of love when she was on this earth and
she will always know you as her mother.

Take good care of yourself.

Priya

[ksjhwkr]

While the coroner's report doesn't say SIDS, I say that my dd died of SIDS. She was 8 months old and died this last August. I know how much it hurts. This is a wonderful group of ladies. to you Momma.

[mumziemoo]

Thank you so much everyone for your warm welcome & support. It has been hard for me & my kids, but I am very blessed to have had lots of support from the SIDS Foundation here & the friends I have made there are a total blessing. I am also very blessed to have a wonderful & understanding partner (soon to be husband ) who supports me totally. He is not Haiku's father, but he convinced me to have our precious Siobhan, and even though I fought very hard to start off with, I am incredibly grateful to him for persevering & talking me into it. She is such a joy & a huge blessing to all of us.

ksjhwkr - hugs to you - so much to go through & your first Mother's Day tomorrow without your daughter. My thoughts are with you. Be kind & gentle to yourself & do what you need to do - don't let anyone else tell you how you should be reacting, or what you should be doing.

Om shanti
Alison

[Debsy]

s I am so sorry!! Today marks the two year anniversay of my Niece Lasage's passing...she too passed away from sids she wasn't even two months yet...

[lisamarie]

To You and Your Family and Welcome!

Thank you for coming and sharing your story and your dd's life with us. Grief is such an emotional rollercoaster of feelings. Please know that I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Much Love & Hugs~

Lisa

[LoveBeads]

No advice, just

[Raven]

I have never lost a child so I cant say I know how you feel .... but I do feel sad that it happened and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

[mumziemoo]

Thank you so much everyone. It turned out to be the best Mother's Day I have had since Haiku died. My partner & kids spoilt me outrageously - breakfast in bed, my partner ran the boys to footy & then a vegetarian Indian feast for dinner (I'm the only vegetarian in the house ), not to mention the beautiful presents!! I actually spent most of the day in bed reading one of my new books (The DaVinci Code - I highly recommend it!!) & finished it just before midnight last night. Such a joy - it's been a very long time since I did something like that.

Hope you all are having or had a lovely Mother's Day.

Om shanti
Alison

[GoodWillHunter]

To loose a child is every parent's nightmare... to you...

[JessicaS]

I can't even imagine facing such a loss.

I am so sorry.

I was recently invited to work (er..volunteer) with an organization working to reduce the very high SIDS rates in my area. Just hearing these stories makes me more determined.

[mumziemoo]

Good on you abimummy

What are they doing to reduce the risks? I went with our SIDS counsellor & education officer to several talks at hospitals, schools & universities. It was draining to talk of my experience but also very worthwhile.

Om shanti

[JessicaS]

No, not reduce the risks, reduce the rates. This is involving a lower income bracket minorty community and the SIDS rates are kind of high. Smoking cessation is a focus..but I did bring them breastfeeding info which I hope will give them something to think about..

it is so sad..you can do everything right and it still happens but some of these moms don't have much information availible to them to be able to reduce the risks.

[ksjhwkr]

Originally Posted by abimommy

it is so sad..you can do everything right and it still happens

That is one of the things I have struggled with the most. I did everything I was supposed to and she still died. It's a control issue for me I think. I had control over her entire life, I could control what would happen to her, when she ate, when her diaper was changed, how long she would cry, etc...but I had no control over this. It is something I think that most parents feel when their child dies. I was just recently able to actually say it. I have felt it, but I didn't have the words to explain it. You can do everything right and it still happens...that is so true.

[AdronsCatherine]

I'm not online much these days, but I saw your post, and my heart really went out to you. My Max would be turning one next Suday (the 6th), but he died form SIDS on Fathers Day, 8 days old. It's so unfair to have to lose a child, but I'm grateful for the little bit of time I had with him. I am a member of a group set up for SIDS parents, http://groups.msn.com/MADATSIDS They are so wonderful - I hope that helps you some.

I am so glad to hear that you had a good Mother's Day

[applejuice]

To lose a child is a tragedy beyond words.

I am so, so sorry.

[rachelle-a-tron]

To all of you who have lost a child...

I too lost my Son Carson Jerome to SIDS in febuary of 1998. He was 55 days old. He is my hope, my heart, my dreams.