Why don't I want to spread the news?

[BabyOsMommy]

Hey everyone... I've been checking in almost daily, but have been so tired and nauseous that I haven't really posted. Sorry. I'm glad that everyone's doing well.

I'm starting to feel better, at least, at almost 13 weeks. Anyhow, today is Mother's day, when we agreed that we'd tell our extended families. Only my parents and sister have known for a while, and are dying for me to tell everyone else. My dh's parents or siblings don't even know. And I don't feel like telling them. I'm tired, working full time, and just starting to feel like myself. I don't want to deal with everyone's questions, comments (even though this is what they feel is "perfect timing"), and on dh's side, why did we wait so long... blah blah blah. I don't even feel like the happy comments.

Seems silly, really, but I guess I just want to be a hermit. Any advice???

[momsmyjob]

Tell them when it's comfortable for you

[MonkeyPrincess]

It might be fun to just let them figure it out on their own, lol!

I know what you mean about being a hermit, it seems whenever I'm pregnant I never answer my phone, check the messages, look at my email or make it to our Sunday family dinners. No reason in particular, just don't want to.
Since its my fourth, my family has pretty much gotten used to it now! LOL

I think its perfectly fine to crawl up into your shell whenever you want to

[KittyMommy]

I'm there with you! Both this time and with DS, I was ready to shout from the rooftops the minute I got my BFP, but only told a few people (parents, close friends) because of a previous m/c. By the time I got to 12 weeks, when we were planning to tell, I had completely lost any desire to tell anyone else!

Now I'm 14.5 weeks and I haven't even told my advisor and don't really have plans to. I figure everyone will figure it out sometime before November and if I feel like talking about it I will and if not, let 'em wonder why I'm getting poochier!

Cheers, Jen

[BabyOsMommy]

Thanks guys... it's good to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way.

I think all this is coming from my just wanting to make my own decisions, and not have anyone else's opinion affect me in the least little bit. With ds, it was my first and I was so excited and scared. I have very strong ideas about this pregnancy, want to do it "right" and not have to explain myself for my choices. And I just want to sleep... not visit... so I'm off to nap before the next round of visiting... I actually wish it wasn't Mother's day today so I could avoid all relatives...

[Lucretia]

I feel similar. I haven't enjoyed telling anyone about this pregnancy. I don't really know why. Part of it is I just don't want to be the centre of attention and have thier judgement passed on me (I *hate* being told congratulations and I *loathe* being asked if I'm excited). I still haven't told my dad, really should, I'm 13 weeks now.
One of the things I did to spare myself the pain was tell family and friends who do know to spread the word.

[Seeking Refuge]

I am kind of a hermit to start out with so when I am pregnant I almost become a complete isolationist. I do not enjoy talking about my pregnancy with people because of all the questions. It is a little backwards here in Ioway folks and the absence of any sort of technology in this pregnancy, ie dopplers, ultrasound etc. leads to way too many questions that I frankly do not want to answer.