June Mamas May 9 - May 15 - Page 3

[bandana]

Hey everybody! I've missed you all.

Seedling, I FEEL YOU, girl. The grocery store twins/triplets comment was TOTALLY uncalled for !!! It's happened to me before too, not quite like that, but equally as irritating.

My Mother's Day was wonderful and totally unexpected...DH sent me out for a mani and a pedi, and I threw in a preggo massage and a haircut. OY VEY, was that nice.

I too have been very worried about position, engagement, etc...I'm almost 35 weeks, and I FEEL like the babe's sitting pretty low, but how do I know? Last mw's appt. I was posterior, so I've been doing cat pose and all of the exercises I'm supposed to do...we'll see. I just have a hard time telling where the little monkey is exactly.

I'm sorta hoping we can make it all the way to June 19th...our house is NOT ready and our home visit is LESS THAN ONE WEEK AWAY!

Have a beautiful day...
~Laura

[Doodlebugsmom]

Smithie, you poor thing! I really hope you're all better soon! I can't imagine being sick like that at this point. I really don't think I'd survive! I'm so dang tired that I can't anything done. I just want to sleep, but of course that's impossible with a 2 year old running around like a wild banshee!

Seedling, I will start using EPO at 36 weeks, as my mw reccommends. I did the same last time and dd was born at 37 1/2 weeks. I did puncture the capsules and insert them vaginally. It does require wearing a panty liner because it leaks out some. I always did it before bed so I'd be laying down and it would leak less. EPO isn't really a labor starter, it just gets the cervix ripened. It doesn't cause dilation or anything like that.

[ksjhwkr]

Originally Posted by crunchywannabe

thanks for the support for my friend. I have been having a very tough day, but have helped to coordinate some memorial funds etc for her and that has helped me to grieve.

Jessica - you have no idea how much that will help. It is expensive to bury a child, and something that you NEVER think about having to do...especially when your baby is so healthy. That will help to take a load off of their shoulders. sweetie.

[ksjhwkr]

Seedling - so with the Arnica do you have dh massage it into your sore areas? I am very curious because I have such back pain when I'm not pregnant, it just is terrible when I am! I will try anything!!! Also, what is EPO?

I am physically doing great...go to the midwife tomorrow. I am going weekly just for position checks. I need to be sure this kiddo stays vertex. Having had a breech baby before, I am a little paranoid. However, I do my affirmations every night, "Baby will stay head down" 50 times! I just hope baby is listening!!

I am having lots of conflicting emotions...I am excited, I can't wait to have this baby here, but I am terrified at the same time. I am not scared of giving birth at all. I am totally confident in that part. It's the actually having the baby here, that's what is hard for me. I can protect this baby while s/he is in the womb, but as soon as s/he is born, I feel like I can't. I know it's just because of what happened with Emma. But, man it is hard. I am just praying that lightning doesn't strike twice. I really can't wait to hold and nurse and sleep with this baby. I miss all those things so much!!!!

Can't believe we are all so close to having our babies here!!!! Not much longer! YIPEE!!!!

[Greaseball]

T
I thought funeral homes buried infants at no cost? Maybe there is more to a funeral than I realized.

[crunchywannabe]

Originally Posted by Greaseball

T
I thought funeral homes buried infants at no cost? Maybe there is more to a funeral than I realized.

nope--they do charge, and it is quite spendy too....some funeral homes will offer a reduced rate for infants, but others charge the normal price.

It is sad that it costs so much to bury your child...like you aren't going through enough as it is already

[Greaseball]

T
I wonder if the laws about not doing your own funeral are really about health and safety, or if they are more about not taking money away from funeral homes.

I think Mothering had an article about funerals, and that's where I heard that some homes bury infants at no cost, and children at cost.

Back on topic...

I'm getting more work done on the birth announcements. I filled in all the information I already know...which is just the last name and year of birth!

[dharmama]

Originally Posted by Greaseball

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I'm getting more work done on the birth announcements. I filled in all the information I already know...which is just the last name and year of birth!

:LOL

[Greaseball]

The outside is going to have the full name, and the inside will say "Born at home on (date, time). ...lbs, ...oz, ...inches."

I'm hesitant to write the born at home part now, just in case we have to transfer, because then I'll have ruined 12 handmade announcements. Still afraid I could jinx everything...

[Smithie]

Saw my mw and had a normal-for-me temperature of 97 degrees. Still 1 cm and intact, with the baby around -1 station. I let the student midwife do an internal exam for practice. She is a big woman with big hands.

It turns out I was actually counting a bit behind - using the June 1st due date, I completed my 37th week YESTERDAY and am now within my window for a birth center birth. Thanks to the conflicting June 8th estimate offered by one of the other doctors, I have a full month of being "in the zone" and given the dilation and how soft my cervix is, she doesn't think I'll go that long. She's hoping I'll hold off 5 more days until the GBS culture comes back, and then anytime is cool.

So, yay. Hopefully I'm done with my pregnancy hassle. And the DO had her nurse call today to check on me! What a difference from my regular doctor!

[3girlsmommy]

smithie_ I'm glad you are feeling better!

[mattjule]

I have missed a lot of stuff in the couple days I haven't had the time to read the thread. Plus it is hard to want to read it when it references infant death so much. Really no hurt intended, just, well, at this stage of pregnancy when I am so emotional already, I don't want to be thinking about my baby dying all the time. It isn't that I don't recognize the possibility or empathize with the loss of another, it's just that since I can't control it, I might as well try not to worry about it. Maybe we can start a loss support/fear of loss thread? I mean, we have a whole forum now, we don't have to be restricted to one thread anymore. I am just having trouble reading about it every day. This group used to be so hopeful and excited and good at commiserating about the little things that are hard in pregnancy. Now it is sad/upsetting so much of the time. Really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, just want to share how I feel and I know in things like this I don't express myself well so I am sorry if I have offended anyone.

Grease-I am doing homemade announcements too and struggling with the same thing. I KNOW I am having a boy and we have already chosen a name, but I still can't bring myself to write it on the annoucements-what if I am wrong? Same thing about the born at home part...though I thought about just adding at the bottom "well, we tried to anyway" if I end up being transferred LOL

Smithie-I'll look at the scraps and pattern and make you some extensions. How short are they? Measure from the end of the short piece of velcro to about the middle of the long piece and let me know...

I am not scared of birthing or having the baby here, I AM scared of getting through another month and a half getting bigger and hotter! Already most of my clothes don't fit well anymore and I really don't want to/can't afford to buy new ones. I think I will try to make myself some skirts to get me through. My belly is starting to make me waddle/have trouble getting out of the car/bathtub/bed/chairs...LOL. I met another local MDC mama the other day and she has a 7 month old daughter. Made me want my baby to be born so badly! So cute with the chubby cheeks and the fat little breastfed legs and the beautiful baby smile...I just wanted to hug her and sling her and kiss her. Ds didn't know what to think of her, he seemed very confused. I think it will be easier when things progress from birth instead of an interactive baby taking attention all of the sudden. At least I am holding onto that hope...

Turned out he is sick-nasty cold and that is where most of his horrid behavior is stemming from. Makes it easier to have patience, but I'll be glad when he kicks it.

I am so excited for those of you that are close to birthing! Sending good birth vibes to those that are ready and lots of belly rubs to those that still need some time. Have a great evening!

[ksjhwkr]

Greaseball - some will, but some won't. It just depends. But, you still have to buy the plot and the headstone. Some funeral homes will embalm for nothing, but charge for the casket. Headstones and plots aren't cheap either. Just depends, like I said. We were lucky, the funeral home in Utah did everything for free, but the one in Shawnee didn't. So, we had to pay for the embalming, the transferring her to Utah, and the casket. There is also the obituary..those can get VERY pricey. We did a relatively short one for Emma and it was over $300. Get's expensive, that's for sure.

[ksjhwkr]

Originally Posted by mattjule

Maybe we can start a loss support/fear of loss thread? I mean, we have a whole forum now, we don't have to be restricted to one thread anymore. I am just having trouble reading about it every day.

I understand your fear and being uncomfortable. I am really sorry, I would never want to make anyone uncomfortable by sharing my loss. I think it is a wonderful idea to start a thread for loss support/fear. I will do that. Again, I am really sorry. I am sure that some of what you are talking about is from me. It is just my reality and I was sharing with you all. I am not by any means offended though, please don't think that. It's so hard to get true meaning across when it is in writing, know what I mean? Anyway, I will start the new thread...Thank you again for sharing your feelings, I appreciate it.

[Smithie]

Julie: that measurement is about 5.5 inches (from the end of the short velcro to the middle of the long velcro, when I wrap both ends around the corner post of the crib). Please let me know if I measured the wrong thing. Thanks so much!

[Smithie]

Julie: that measurement is about 5.5 inches (from the end of the short velcro to the middle of the long velcro, when I wrap both ends around the corner post of the crib). Please let me know if I measured the wrong thing. Thanks so much!

[Smithie]

Julie: that measurement is about 5.5 inches (from the end of the short velcro to the middle of the long velcro, when I wrap both ends around the corner post of the crib). Please let me know if I measured the wrong thing. Thanks so much!

[Smithie]

Julie: that measurement is about 5.5 inches (from the end of the short velcro to the middle of the long velcro, when I wrap both ends around the corner post of the crib). Please let me know if I measured the wrong thing. Thanks so much!

[Smithie]

Julie: that measurement is about 5.5 inches (from the end of the short velcro to the middle of the long velcro, when I wrap both ends around the corner post of the crib). Please let me know if I measured the wrong thing. Thanks so much!

[Smithie]

Aaaargh

First it posts quintuply, then it crashes when I try to edit our the four redundant posts! Sorry, y'all...