Hannah, 7.5, woke up as I was crying for all the Davids in this world... I've struggled long and hard (with great advice from here
) about talking to her about physical integrity.
She noticed, a couple of years ago, the difference between Hayden's penis and the circ'd penii of her cousins. I was as diplomatic as I could be (my tongue was bloody from biting it so hard!!) explaining the *choices* made by the other parents to remove that part of their sons' bodies :Puke
We had a conversation about ear piercing a couple of weeks ago, she asked why her ears weren't pierced and we talked about them being her
ears and how permanently altering them was NOT
my choice, but hers... just the same as Hayden's penis is his
and not mine to cut up.
Perfect segue for this morning... I told her the truth, a mother let the doctor cut her son's penis, he was using a cutting/burning tool and it burned off the baby's penis... the doctor used surgery to turn the baby boy into a girl, he was raised that way but discovered the truth and decided to live as a man... it was too much of a struggle for him and he killed himself (luckily we've covered the suicide discussion). She was
too, not only for David, but for "his mommy too, who will have to live with her mistakes and lies. I hope he forgives her now that he's in heaven"
Which segued into a conversation about forgiveness and how *I* will be forgiven as often as I need to be... I