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post #261 of 1092
I read TCC and Magical Child byJ C Pearce at the same time, about 1,000 years ago (can you tell I'm feeling old this morning? :LOL ) so forgive me if my comments slip from one book to the other - they are similar and have a lot of overlap.

We lived on a small sailboat for the first 5 years of ElderSon's life. I had never been around babies or children much, never babysat, and I don't think I had ever read a book on childrearing. We were quite isolated from other families with kids, and I got little advice re: childcare. Fortunately, ElderSon was a great teacher. I slipped naturally into cosleeping, baby-wearing, cloth (or no) diapering. Cribs, playpens, and babyproofing were out of the question. Tools and poisons (paint, solvents, etc.) were always in useand in reach. People around always expected him to fall over the side, eat nails, climb the mast and fall, or whatever. I never understood their fears. Why on earth would he want to do that? The way people described other toddlers to me, they sounded suicidal. Because we were so close, physically (the boat was only 36' long) and emotionally (his dad or I were with him, literally, 100% of the time) I could sense when he was less aware of his surroundings, and maybe call his attention to a danger if necessary. But I trusted him not to fall in the water just like anyone else. He did fall in once, from a dock not the boat, and I jumped in and pulled him out. He was not upset, but didn't like it, so avoided that in the future. Sailing in heavy weather, adults wore harnesses when up on deck, and so did the kid. He knew to clip his onto a line himself when he was 2 or so, though he mostly stayed below if it was rough.

My, I've gotten long-winded! Sorry. Fast-forward 13 years, and I had 2 more babies, a year apart. Although I didn't change my attitudes about child-rearing, these kids were, and still are, entirely different people than my first. I don't know if it was a response to being raised on a boat, with a more immediate sense of the world around him, an innate personality difference, or the difference bonding with 2 babies rather than just one. But, while I still didn't really baby-proof much, I have never had the same level of trust with the 2 little ones. I have had to get off my high horse, and quit the comments like:"if only the mother was more in tune, the ______ (baby-gate, drawer locks, etc) wouldn't be necessary." I've learned a little humility, which is probably not a bad thing.

I guess my point is that no child rearing approach can work without taking into account the personalities and environment involved. And this is far too individual to find in a book, no matter how good it is. The value of TCC (or any book, perhaps) is to open your mind, to see old things from new angles, and to offer options. What we choose to take from it is, and must be, individual.

One concept that resonated with me from those books, was the idea of the womb as a bridge into life, mother as the bridge into the world beyond the womb, father as the bridge from mother to the community, school as a bridge to the larger world. At each level, the child decides when to cross, and can retreat at any time (bridges go both ways). An infant cannot literally return to the womb, but baby-wearing approximates a dark, warm, safe, alive environment. An independant toddler comes back from an exciting day out with Dad, and needs to collapse in Mama's arms. At all stages, all the previous levels of nurturing need to be there, as backup. I'm nearly 50, and I still need my mommy occasionally. And that doesn't make me immature or pathologically dependant. I think it's healthy and wonderful. So I don't worry at all that 9YO Ds still sleeps with me. In the day he is independant, at night he wants a higher level of reassurance. OK by me.
post #262 of 1092

crawling off the bed

We're now trying to decide how to cope w/EnviroBaby's determination to crawl off of the bed. He does this whether we are in the room watching, in the room doing something else, or in another room. He isn't fully crawling (yet) but scootching on his elbows, so his progress is slow; it's not that he isn't looking where he's going. He gets to the edge, he looks over (this is a mattress on box spring but no frame, so it's about 18" high), and then after a while he nudges himself forward, falls onto the hardwood floor on his head, begins screaming, and has to be comforted for about ten minutes. It hasn't caused him any actual injury so far as we can tell, but it could, and it's upsetting for everyone.

We put a thin foam exercise mat on the floor next to the bed to reduce the risk of injury. When he is sleeping, pillows around the perimeter of the bed keep him from rolling off--he bumps into one and immediately rolls back the other way--but when awake he's begun to regard them as challenges rather than barriers, so we've started moving the pillows when he's awake so that he can see the edges of the bed more clearly.

Should we let him continue falling until he realizes he doesn't want to do that? Should we discourage him when we can (for instance, by turning him around so that he's moving away from the edge) but let him fall occasionally? Should we put the box spring in storage to make the bed lower so that he can practice falling without getting hurt? (This last one seems wrong to me.)
post #263 of 1092
Originally Posted by EnviroBecca
Should we let him continue falling until he realizes he doesn't want to do that? Should we discourage him when we can (for instance, by turning him around so that he's moving away from the edge) but let him fall occasionally? Should we put the box spring in storage to make the bed lower so that he can practice falling without getting hurt? (This last one seems wrong to me.)
I would aim to teach him how to get down safely - by turning him around so his feet get off the bed first. I think in a more tribal culture he would have more exposure to children in various stages of development - including ones who turn around to get off the object feet first. But poor baby only has you and your partner. And you both get straight off the bed. Why shouldn't he?

So - yes, I'd turn him around, but not to keep him on the bed. I'd turn him around to show him how to get off without bumping his head. Give him information , too - ''You're near the edge. You want to get down? Try it this way." My 2.5 yo routinely climbs on and off our extra tall bed this way.

My dad somehow taught my DD to go downstairs backwards at about 10 months of age. It seems to have only taken a day or so. I don't really know how he did it since I was at work.
post #264 of 1092
you do it that way so they cansee how. I myself woulg get off the bed backwords when Jewely was around so she could see how to do it, well i told her "this is how you get down"
post #265 of 1092
we had this same issue, ds fell off the bed about three times and we just kept showing him feet first and I said the words feet first consistantly and firmly. One afternoon I was in the kitchen and I heard him so I took off to get there before he fell out of the bed and wouldn't you know there he was crawling down the hall towards me. Now anywhere we are all I have to say is feet first and he turns that little butt right around. He started at about 8 1/2 mos after about 2 months of working on it.

(funny, he dows feet first all the time even when not necessary ie. when a room changes from kitchen to living room or outdoors when it changes from sain to grass...very adorable!


Wow, i could not resonate with you more clearly. Thank you for your wise words. I really liked what you said about the bridge concept...it warms my heart.
post #266 of 1092
we do the "feet first" thing here, too. i started showing her how to do it around 7 months, when she fell off the mattress+box spring once. i made a little game of it, like "roll over ... now turn around, wiggle wiggle ... now shimmy down, feet first!" and she'd smile and wiggle herself into position with a little help. now she does it all the time, and can climb back up into bed.

i'm having problems with the CC concept of not child-proofing per se. this babe is very curious and VERY able, ahead of her ability to understand why i don't want her to touch something or go somewhere. so i've child-proofed the house to the point we live in the living room, office and the 2 bedrooms, and it's getting *really* bare. is that a good thing? i.e. the adults should learn to live without things we don't need? sort of like a hut, i guess *lol*

i'm too tired, i have to "pick my battles wisely" so i've just removed anything that's a danger, even duct-taped over some tempting things like outlets with plugs in them that i can't block with furniture. i still try to do my activities right beside her, though. like, i keep sewing stuff in a storage box that she can't open the lid, yesterday i was re-stringing our nursing necklace and she just watched. when she reached to grab the needle i said "it's sharp, i don't want you to get hurt" and moved it away. over and over and over it took a lot longer to do than if i'd waited until my husband got home and done it elsewhere, but for some reason i just felt like she really should see me doing things, you know?

ETA: i also want to get back to my WAHM work, it's been 10 months! but Willow is 30" tall and i measured her reach with a yardstick, it's 36" when she reaches straight up. yikes! she also has the ability to push things around and climb on top of them to reach for things. my clay table is 31" height. i can push everything back away, and remove things she can climb on, but then she can't see directly what i'm doing and *wails* until my heart breaks. i thought of bringing her "high chair" in, it's a kitchen chair with a booster seat strapped to it with a seatbelt for her, for safety. but she only sits in that for about 20 minutes, when she's done with her Oatios or peaches or whatever, she's DONE and needs to be outta there! so i'm turning away business at this point i thought of giving her some clay to work with, the clay says "non-toxic" but it's polycyanoacrylate, so she can't have any until she's much older and isn't eating everything she can touch! is salt-dough kid clay safe for a 10-month old?

how can i work, AND keep her safe, AND not inhibit her natural curiosity?
post #267 of 1092
Originally Posted by EnviroBecca
Should we let him continue falling until he realizes he doesn't want to do that? Should we discourage him when we can (for instance, by turning him around so that he's moving away from the edge) but let him fall occasionally? Should we put the box spring in storage to make the bed lower so that he can practice falling without getting hurt? (This last one seems wrong to me.)
There are many ways of dealing with this. You've had great suggestions already. We taught ds1 where the edge was by saying "edge" and putting our hand (arm vertical) at the edge. (We taught him "feet first" for the stairs.) We also had a baby monitor so that when he started to wake up and I wasn't there, I could quickly get to the bedroom to get him. Our bed was really tall, so he wouldn't have been able to go feet first without falling for some time, especially since he was a little guy. Ds2 was much less interested in getting down (or being away from me at all), so we really didn't have to do anything for him, and we also had padded carpeting and a shorter bed.

Other suggestions from the cc discussion list (www.continuum-concept.org) have been to temporarily pad the area around the bed or to put the mattress directly on the floor so your ds can get off without falling.

I personally wouldn't let him keep falling on the hard floor (though it may happen occasionally anyway). I don't think it would serve any learning purpose, except teaching him that the floor is hard, which he probably already knows. I think it's much more helpful to guide him down/away from the edge and/or give him a softer landing.
post #268 of 1092
Originally Posted by mellybean
i thought of giving her some clay to work with, the clay says "non-toxic" but it's polycyanoacrylate, so she can't have any until she's much older and isn't eating everything she can touch! is salt-dough kid clay safe for a 10-month old?

how can i work, AND keep her safe, AND not inhibit her natural curiosity?
I'd say try the salt clay or some modeling beeswax. The salt clay is (probably) too salty for her to eat much and modeling beeswax (available wherever Waldorf supplies are) is quite safe. She might be fascinated enough by trying to do what you're doing that she'll sit in her chair for a while.
Let her see what you're doing and give her a couple of tools (stick and rolling pin).

If it doesn't work at all, try again in a couple of weeks.
post #269 of 1092

stairs and toys

We lived in an apartment w/o stairs until ds was 9 mo. Then we moved to a two storey house. He went down the stairs feet first facing up for a while but then wanted to do like we do and hung on the picketts of the bannister as he walked down the stairs (when he started to walk, 10 moish.) He has fallen all the way several times and only a few stairs and then caught himself several times. Always because he was playing on the stairs and not paying attention to what he was doing. I do let him roam about the house on his own since he could and wanted to. Mostly he stays where I am. If he is gone for more than a few minutes and things get quiet I sneak a look. He is a climber and frequently tries to scale shelves - can't get past the second one - and gets on the back of the couch and walks along it. A couple times he fell and now only does it when we are sitting there and can hold our hands. Sometimes he climbs some boxes on the back porch that are waiting for construction to finish to be unpacked and he calls me just to show me that he has gotten to a new place. I acknowledge it and then go back to what I was doing. Sometimes he asks for help getting down.
He helped his Papa build a patio in the backyard by handing him rocks and bricks. He would carry them over, heave them up an incline, crawl up himself and them carry the rock over to Papa. He wants to help with whatever we are doing. One day he stepped off a step onto a concrete slab while carrying a brick and squished his finger. It took nine stitches just in the tip. He was very careful with his hand while it was bandaged but still tried to do everything we did. He was 16 mo when that happened. Today we were digging out a huge rock in the backyard. It is so big we can't get it out of the ground, we are just digging around it to highlight as part of a rock garden. Ds insisted on using my trowel instead of his little shovel and did exactly what I had been doing. He seemed to really want to know that he was contributing and not playing. It was really neat to observe. (He doesn't talk at all yet.)
I've noticed that he seems to be getting bored being home with me all the time. We go to local playgroups, swimming etc. But I hate sitting around gossipping while the kids do "kid things". I have great respect for unstructured play. That's not it. It's just the whole playgroup thing. It doesn't sit well with me. I also don't have a lot of kid toys. Some balls, puzzles, rattles, legos, stuffed animals, trucks, tractors, trains (all metal or wood). There is a basket upstairs and one down. He loves spoons, both table and wood, measuring cups, pots, pans and their lids, the animals water bowl.
I wonder though, as he gets older, he is 17 mo, does he need more "developmentally appropriate" toys? I feel so stupid for thinking it. Like right now, he loves to put things into things. So he puts his tennis ball into a piece of tupperware and then dumps it from there into another one and back again. But should I get him one of those shape sorter thingys. He does that with the wooden puzzle. Do you know what I mean? Sometimes he just wanders around aimlessly.
Often, in the kitchen, he is fussy and wants to be held, not in a sling on my back but in my arms. He does not want to stand on a chair so he can see and play on the counter. Could he really be bored? With me? With home life? We are going to go to a once a week music class in the fall.
post #270 of 1092
We have a shape sorter thing from Tupperware, and Eamon rarely uses it. He'd much prefer to put a cell phone in a cup, and a plush polar bear in a box, etc. The actual time he's spent with the Tupperware thing could be counted in minutes, and we've had it for ages. I think usually they like the "real" things better.

That said, he did sure have fun walking through the toy section at Target the other day, pushing buttons that make noises, sounds, and lights go on and off. He has nothing like that at home and really was having fun. And then 10 minutes later, he'd had enough and acted frightened of the toys. We wandered around for a while longer, than my hubby met me and I wanted to show him E's enjoyment, but E just looked at the toys and sort of made a face of "been there done that", then looked away. It was fun while it lasted, but I think he realized it didn't do anything different. Same noises, same lights...boring after a bit.

I've been wondering if my guy is bored, too. I don't like going out much, and don't much enjoy meeting other women IRL, but I think I'm going to have to find somewhere to take him to expand his horizons! Ooh, maybe there are hiking trails somewhere nearby...that would be more natural than a playground, wouldn't it?
post #271 of 1092
I have read MOST of the cc book. I love what she's got to say about letting the kids imitate your activities, not 'forcing' work on them, and letting them try to do things.

so if I were going to apply this in preschool for example...say I see a kid trying to carry several containers of paint to the easel......instead of going 'OMG you're going to drop those! We'll have a mess of paint EVERYWHERE to clean up! WHAT do you think you're doing???" that kind of thing, the more 'tribal' and 'appropriate' response would be to simply take some of the load, you're helping someone who is struggling to do something--doesn't matter if it's an adult or child, and if they see this going on between the *adults* too, they shouldn't feel like they're being singled out.

or at home....if my kid wanted to help do dishes, even at 2, I'd let said child climb up and stand on a chair and wash maybe some non-breakable stuff...one thing, if that's enough to satisfy, and let them go on their way. Or find a way to let the child join in on meal preparing when the interest strikes.

That all said, NO I can't be a total CC'er, in this culture I think someone would call CPS if they saw me letting my child play with a knife for example. I don't think not trying to stick something in an outlet is necessairly 'continuum' either. But there's a lot to be said for just watching for things that are truly a danger and doing only what you have to to avoid it. Like I was reading a post on here about someone who only got a toilet lid lock for one toilet in the house--DC never cared about the OTHER toilet, only when upstairs would the child go into the bathroom and play in the toilet. I like doing a minimal amount of childproofing (like outlet covers and moving poisions into upper cabinets) and making the home into a 'yes' place where you don't have to hover and they can touch anything.

And NO I don't think special baby food is CC....but maybe the child in question had allergies, I know I couldn't allow MY baby to eat Chinese at random because he's intolerant to soy, or at least he was to soy baby formula, and that's a risk I don't feel is worth taking at under a year old. So yeah, for convnience, I MIGHT carry some sort of 'baby food' to the restaurant. At home, he gets baby bite size or mashed portions of things we eat. I agree, nearly every adult meal has SOMETHING that can be fed to an infant in it.....except for McDonalds but that's another thread. And I do think kids learn to like things better when presented with it in the form it'll typically be eaten in. I see no real reason to introduce bland, pureed peas.......WHEN would you EVER choose to eat that? I also think there's something to the theory that if you have to process it till it's unrecognizable for the infant to be able to eat it, then maybe it is not a good food to give at that stage of development. (case in point infant cereal--grains are actually hard on baby's digestive system and *REAL* grains require teeth and chewing ability. Homeopath says absolutely not earlier than 10 mos, this is also when a lot of babies have a few teeth and some chewing ability where they may be able to handle 'real' oatmeal and rice.)

I wish I'd done more in-arms but thanks to having to pump continually, I didn't get to wear much..........hoping next time! also I am going to do a LOT more SLINGING and LESS stroller mess.
post #272 of 1092
Thanks for the advice. We'll try more "feet first" modeling and explaining.

We have many things intended as toys, and EnviroBaby enjoys most of them, but there are some household objects he finds equally appealing. One way we vary things to keep him interested is that when we empty a box (from cereal, tea, etc.--a lightweight, brightly colored box) we give him that one and throw away the most battered of the boxes in his collection.

Now that I actually have a child of food-eating age, I've decided I'm willing to keep some "baby food" on hand and feed it to him when nothing else appropriate is available. This has come up mainly because we don't want him to have any animal foods yet and because some of our foods can't be adapted for a toothless person. For example, when we had salmon and corn-on-the-cob for dinner, he had applesauce. But when we had curry (lentils, carrots, apples, and rice) we just put some of it thru the food grinder and set a little bowl in front of him. He loved it.
post #273 of 1092
We are going through an adjustment period right now. ds is 10 mos and into everything! I did do some childproofing b/c we live in community and I did not want ds to be playing or experimenting with other people's "nice" "grown-up" things. We do not have gates and all the grownup things have been moved into one room (giant cactus, cd books, woodstove, teak statues that have breakble beads, instruments etc. I did not gate that room but whenever ds heads that way I go sit with him in there and supervise that play.

What about trash buckets? ds is always in them and sometimes it is so gross. Ifind myself putting them up on counters which is not favortie.

Ds is so bored with me and the house. I have been trying to get out at least once a day where I do what he wants...play in the front seat of the car...crawl in the garden,,,,crawl around at the park etc. It used to be so much easier when he stayed in his sling and I could go about his business. Now the world is his oyster and I am struggling to find a place where we are both happy.
post #274 of 1092
I was inspired by thoughts of this thread, and now have been letting my son help me do the laundry. The dryer is right at his level and he loves looking at it/into it. Right now the door is gone because, er, I leaned into it while squatting to hug him and broke it. Oops! So it's right there.

Yesterday I started offering him light clothing (underwear instead of jeans KWIM) and asking him to put the clothing into the dryer, and he did, and he loved it! It was really cool.

Does anyone know what to do about indoor pets? We have a very dainty cat, she's 8 pounds *maybe*. She's very sensitive and likes to be treated gently. Eamon is big and strong, and as much as we try to get him to treat things (and us!) gently, sometimes he just doesn't. When I was pregnant, I promised the cat I wouldn't let the baby hurt her, but he already has once or twice. As a result, she hides away in "her" room, sleeping all day. OK I know she's a cat and that's what they do, but she used to sleep all day out in our living room!

There's really no place for her out here; her place used to be the top of the couch, but now E can climb up there (I don't encourage that, as it gives him access to shelves with lots of books).

I've been thinking about putting a babygate in the doorway to "her" room, so she can be in there but also "of" the house. But I worry he'll try to climb the gate and/or throw things in there. And I worry that that will traumatize her even more.

Does anyone have any CC-style ideas? And does anyone have CC-style ideas on how to help a (near) 15 month old learn to be gentle with things?
post #275 of 1092
Animals can be a tough thing. I decided that as long as they could get away from him, I would leave it be. But I did spend quite some time petting with him, showing him both with his hand and mine how to love the cat/dog. When someone hisses or runs away, he usually looks at me, and I say, "Kitty didn't like the way you hit/pulled him, so he ran away." Sometimes I make sure I am there but don't hover. Around 15 mo. he could pet nicely on his own but would still pull a few hairs out. I think he is imitating me that when I pet the cat from head to tail and pull my hand away it has a large mass of shedded hair in it.
The trashcan is a favorite. For pulling out and putting in. Be sure to check it before you thrown it out. Some of ours have lids. It can be really gross though.
You'll laugh about all this when you are the mother-in-law!
post #276 of 1092
Hi CC-ers! I've been following this fab thread, but this is the first time I've posted. I first read TCC when my friend was pregnant. It sounded strange and wonderful to me when she said she was going to hold her newborn all the time! Now I have 6.5 mo daughter. Putting TCC into action with DD has been pretty easy so far (lots of in-arms time, co-sleeping, etc.) Now that she's getting older, I know there will be lots of other opportunities to be Continuum as she grows out of the in-arms phase and begins to explore the world on her own. The ideas/advice in this thread are great!

About food: Is it more continuum to give finger food (a piece of banana for babe to gnaw on) vs. feeding mashed banana from a spoon for babe's first solids? Does it matter?

Mellybean, I have a question about something you said.
when she reached to grab the needle i said "it's sharp, i don't want you to get hurt" and moved it away. over and over and over it took a lot longer to do than if i'd waited until my husband got home and done it elsewhere, but for some reason i just felt like she really should see me doing things, you know?
I totally agree that she should see you doing "adult things" but doesn't JL say in TCC that if we tell our babes they will hurt themselves then they think that is what's expected of them? By saying "I don't want you to get hurt" does that make her expect to? It's prob just a matter of semantics, and believe me I'm not an expert since I haven't dealt with this yet. Might it be better to say "It's sharp" or something like that? I don't know, just thinking out loud What do the rest of you tell your kids about "dangerous" things?
post #277 of 1092
re: food. I have a friend who would chew up table food, then give that pre-chewed food to her baby, like a baby and mama bird.

We tried mushed up banana, as it's easy to much bananas, but he didn't much like it. However, when we give him a banana, once he stops trying to eat the skin (he was born in the Year of the Monkey and sometimes I think he takes that too seriously LOL), he will actually mush it up on his own, then eat it. He will also mush up potato in his mouth.

I think that waiting until baby can eat more on his/her own is more continuum, and also better. That's what I think, at least.

re: danger...I spend time with Eamon in the kitchen. If I'm doing something that is dangerous, like cutting things, I'm always talking to him. This is usually when DH is home and is holding E while I cook (I don't hold or "wear" him while cutting things). I talk about how this is a knife, and it cuts things, and if he can see how I'm holding the knife and the onion (or whatever). Show him how to behave. If I'm handing DH scissors, I talk about it and I do it "right". I think a lot of it is communication, while you're doing something and every time you think about it.

All that said, I'm not perfect. We learned early on that DS is an adventurer. He grew very tall very fast, and so he can see things that most babies can't at whatever age he's been. He was pulling himself to stand at like 6 months? Insanely early IMO. And at 6 months he really hurt himself, knocking out a tooth, which damaged me and DH emotionally and mentally.

So it's really hard to not keep him from things! It's hard to not "expect" him to hurt himself, because quite frankly he has hurt himself! It's hard to hold back, both in words and actions. I try to hold back, because I don't want to "brand" him. My husband was branded by his mother, he's the "sneaky" one and the "fat boy". It's really hurt him. I don't want to do that, even if it seems justified, that he's DangerBoy or something funny (to us) like that. So..."adventurer" is what I try to keep in mind. When he's adventuring around the house, I just try to talk to him and help him do things safely (hoping he'll remember the safe way, not just remember that he did it, you know?). Sometimes I do just take him down from wherever he is. Like I said, I'm not perfect.

ha ha, I was going to say he might be the exception, and would be the baby that fell into the ravine (CC describes how they have a ravine or something, and that little children go right to the edge and stop?), but then I remembered that he routinely sits right on the edge of the bed, back to the floor, and as he starts to tilt he's *always* tightened his "core" muscles and leaned forward, instinctively. He *has* fallen off the bed (boxspring and mattress on the floor), but has never fallen off while awake. So I guess he isn't the one baby that would have fallen into the ravine.
post #278 of 1092
Hey Mamas! I read CC when my boy was just weeks old and loved it (well, most of it). I was so excited to come across this thread and I did manage to finally read through all 14 pages (which was very informative!)

I also read Magical Child shortly after and often get them mixed up. Not to mention I'm just finishing Unconditional Parenting, which has some similar aspects as well.

Envirobecca -- I'm also having trouble with Finn crawling off the bed. I loved the "feet first" suggestion and dh and I just started doing it today.

A lot of the issues mentioned on this thread resonate with me (I also agree a separate forum would be very helpful, but I guess it was never okay'ed?).

My baby is just six months old so I have a very hard time not hovering. He's on the floor more now than he used to be and he's into EVERYTHING! And of course he puts everything in his mouth. I really do have to hover because he'll swallow paper (did that just today as a matter of fact) and cardboard after he's gummed it enough. Most of the time he's in arms or the sling, but he's always reaching for everything now. It's so hard not to say "no" or anything negative "like careful so you don't get hurt."
He wants everything dh and I have. Mealtimes are challenging (since he sits in our laps), dh comments that it's like "constantly playing defense."
We distract him by giving him his own silverware (spoons) and plastic cups, but that'll only work for so long.

And yes, he's pulled handfuls of cathair out of our poor kitties. Working on the gentle demonstrations, but it's hard to know if it's getting through to a six month old.

Do you mams think living CC(ish) gets harder or easier as they get older? I keep thinking it might be easier once he's not chewing on everything, but I'm sure I'll just be trading in one challenge for another.

I love this thread! Glad to be joining!
post #279 of 1092
oh yes i did NOT mash any food for dd. just didn't do it. she didnt like it anyway, she only wanted to eat what we ate. and only wanted to eat by herself, which was fine with me - we did NOT feed her. we just made the food available.
it was not always easy, til she was 1 and she was allowed to have most foods. but i still didnt mash things. nice to know that i s in line with TCC
post #280 of 1092
Originally Posted by KateSt.

Do you mams think living CC(ish) gets harder or easier as they get older? I keep thinking it might be easier once he's not chewing on everything, but I'm sure I'll just be trading in one challenge for another.

I go back and forth on this question a lot! Most of the time it seems to get easier. As they experience more things and still "manage to survive" your confidence grows. At the same time the experiences do seem to become more risky because they are capable of more. I find I hardly hover around my second child; the first one I was ALWAYS watching, even when I tried not too. Neither has had any serious injuries--I guess the extreme hovering just stressed me out!
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