Originally Posted by leila1213
I just want to clarify that I wasn't saying that we shouldn't teach kids to read (or really, from an unschooling perspective--LET kids learn to read), but just that the child-centered activity of sitting and reading a children's book to them is not very CC.
For some reason I am obsessed with this thread lately!
I think that my perspective comes from the fact that I do storytelling for groups of children and adults as part of my job. I see stories as things that gather people together to share information, lessons and insights that are relevant for all ages. In my story times, I do dances and songs, poetry that was written for adults, picture books that were written for children. People have always told stories at gatherings, it's just that we often lack those sorts of tribal gatherings nowadays. So the best we can do is to tell stories in our home or gather at a library, church, or other place to listen to and tell stories.
brinalicious asked a question about people's responses to cc parenting. I was lucky in that both of my parents were raised in a family-centred context. One grew up on a farm and the other in a village of about 200 people. They were able to wander quite freely and found their own things to do with children of different ages. When we were looking for a place to live, I really wanted to live in the townhouse complex we currently live in. It has an open area in the middle and many of the children come out to the central area and play on the playground and in the trees while the parents stay indoors and don't have to hover around the children.
I feel that the pressure to be successful has led people to register their children in many activities, reduce the amount of free play with neighborhood children, reduce the amount of individual imaginative play, and therefore not trust children to do things like crack an egg - because they've never been asked to do so.
I also think that there is a growing movement of people who want their children to be less structured and to walk to school by themselves, build forts with neighborhood kids, have the community in general watch over children. I think that this is what cc could look like in our communities today.
Anyway, I think that if you approach any concerns with the idea that children used to have huge freedom of movement, a supportive community where people looked out for each other...you might get a good response. I would like the children in my community to have the ability to learn from all adults in that community, to be cared for by different adults in the community, and to play freely - and I see that cc-ish parenting builds that.
Wow! Big rant!
Question: Do you work or volunteer with your children? I do, but I find that I have to be strategic about how dd will be involved. I find it quite challenging to teach adults while dd is there, for example. It was much easier when she was a baby and I could put her on my back and she'd nap during a meeting!