I'm pretty happy in my life and don't generally feel the need to vent about family, friends, work or otherwise but I guess I must have become a militant bfer because the attitude of my mother and dh is resulting in this vent. Granted, the situation is not terrible but having them make me feel like a freak is getting annoying.
My dd is almost 17 months old and happily still bfing (no signs of weaning here). I think the fact the dd is over a year old has got my dh and mother in a bit of a snit. Apparently when I was out of town in February, they discussed how they both thought it was time to stop bfing, blah blah blah. I sort of blew it off and didn't give it much thought.
So, then about a month ago my dd wakes up in the morning and wants to nurse. This is pretty much business as usual (we co-sleep) so she latches on and I guess I smiled. Well, dh then made some crack about how I was going to bf dd until she was six and she would be asking for it. (I really don't understand why this bugs him so much - he was very supportive during the first year).
Sooooo... a few more remarks have slipped out in the meantime and then last week my cousin whom I am very close to was induced for pre-eclampsia at 36 weeks. She was bfing the baby but then the baby lost 10% of her birthweight so they kept her in the hospital, gave her a bottle, and told my cousin to start pumping. Both mom and babe went home, then my cousin's blood pressure went up again so she's back in the hospital. She's pumping, trying to bf with a shield since her dd doesn't really want the breast anymore, and her dd is getting most of her food from a bottle. I was able to speak with her briefly yesterday but haven't had the long conversation I really want to have to make sure she's doing all she can and getting the support she needs to get her dd back to the breast and to get her supply up. (I started out pumping because my dd was in the NICU but did get her to breast at 3 weeks so I've btdt and I know how hard it is.)
So last night after I wasn't able to talk to my cousin as much as I wanted to, I was telling my dh about it. He said don't be a whacko and push her too hard - people have been bfing for thousands of years and nature will make sure it works out right. I just about smacked him upside the head. Apparently he thought it was easy last year when my dd was born. Nature my a$$.
Then this morning my mom says to me on the phone "____ will be just fine. It's ok if IT doesn't work out" (meaning bfing) And "you all have it so much easier now days" (because the baby is staying with my cousin in the hospital whereas my mom and her twin brother were in the hospital as premies for 5 weeks without my grandmother back in 1941).
I don't usually get worked up about stuff but this is bugging me so much. Anyway, I'm not looking for advice here, just wanted to get this off my chest and share with mamas who understand.
Thanks! I feel better. If you've gotten this far, you deserve a big
~Hope
My dd is almost 17 months old and happily still bfing (no signs of weaning here). I think the fact the dd is over a year old has got my dh and mother in a bit of a snit. Apparently when I was out of town in February, they discussed how they both thought it was time to stop bfing, blah blah blah. I sort of blew it off and didn't give it much thought.
So, then about a month ago my dd wakes up in the morning and wants to nurse. This is pretty much business as usual (we co-sleep) so she latches on and I guess I smiled. Well, dh then made some crack about how I was going to bf dd until she was six and she would be asking for it. (I really don't understand why this bugs him so much - he was very supportive during the first year).
Sooooo... a few more remarks have slipped out in the meantime and then last week my cousin whom I am very close to was induced for pre-eclampsia at 36 weeks. She was bfing the baby but then the baby lost 10% of her birthweight so they kept her in the hospital, gave her a bottle, and told my cousin to start pumping. Both mom and babe went home, then my cousin's blood pressure went up again so she's back in the hospital. She's pumping, trying to bf with a shield since her dd doesn't really want the breast anymore, and her dd is getting most of her food from a bottle. I was able to speak with her briefly yesterday but haven't had the long conversation I really want to have to make sure she's doing all she can and getting the support she needs to get her dd back to the breast and to get her supply up. (I started out pumping because my dd was in the NICU but did get her to breast at 3 weeks so I've btdt and I know how hard it is.)
So last night after I wasn't able to talk to my cousin as much as I wanted to, I was telling my dh about it. He said don't be a whacko and push her too hard - people have been bfing for thousands of years and nature will make sure it works out right. I just about smacked him upside the head. Apparently he thought it was easy last year when my dd was born. Nature my a$$.
Then this morning my mom says to me on the phone "____ will be just fine. It's ok if IT doesn't work out" (meaning bfing) And "you all have it so much easier now days" (because the baby is staying with my cousin in the hospital whereas my mom and her twin brother were in the hospital as premies for 5 weeks without my grandmother back in 1941).
I don't usually get worked up about stuff but this is bugging me so much. Anyway, I'm not looking for advice here, just wanted to get this off my chest and share with mamas who understand.
Thanks! I feel better. If you've gotten this far, you deserve a big
~Hope
I guess I just meant that I wasn't looking for links to kellymom, etc. But, wisdom from others who have walked down this path is definitely welcome.
s to you -- it sucks when those close to you don't support you.
He didn't like the left side as well as the right, but she said everything was fine. I did tell her both of my kiddos preferred the right side and it was no big deal. Next thing I hear he's 100% on the bottle. 
