First of all I have to say that I have been a reader of these forums for some time and have really enjoyed them. I'm a brand new member Yay! and have a serious concern with my just turned 6yr old dd. She has severe separation anxiety (only from me) and freaks out if I even leave the room. She is constantly checking on me even at home by calling out "mama!" in areally worried way or running out of the bathroom with her pants around her ankles because she felt like I had left her even though I just told her I was gouing to throw a load of laundry in the washer. We have been AP all the way since her birth, nursed for four plus yrs, cosleeping still most of the time(except when she decides to sleep in her own bed-her choice), carried around in a sling until my stomach got too big with ds. I'm really at a loss, because she seemed to be on the path to independence, we could leave her with her grandmother so dhand I could attend Bradley when she was two with no prob, she could stay for an hr or so with dad while I went to excersise class or run an errand at age 4,etc. But about a yr into the class, she would freak out so bad that she would throw up and then eventually fall asleep from crying so badly when I was gone for an hr! I gave up the class to try to ride it out, but it's just gotten worse. Now that I'm with her 24/7 , she gets upset when she doesn't recognize the way when we're driving , when a bee flies by, etc. It is severe. I am trying to remain calm. It's hard. My pediatricianthinks she needs a shrink, my mom thinks it's our fault for never leaving her, and in laws think it's the AP bs as they call it! Help! I do have some really good friends supporting me but even they are giving us sideglances now when she has on of her fits at playgroup. Thanks for any input!
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6/2/02 at 11:35am