Wwyd? - Page 3

[mthomas]

Originally Posted by Greaseball

Would any of us take the same precautions with a boy? Not let him wear swim trunks to the park, etc?

hmmmm...interesting curveball, greaseball. You jarred my brain to a standstill. All of a sudden I thought "no, prob not", but why? I suppose it's the same reason I don't have a prob thinking of my son to be a future sexual being (well, I know that we are sexual from birth, i just mean in sexually intimate situations w/a partner) but it doesnt sit well when I think of my DD the same. My intellect knows this is unfair and wrong, but it's one of those standards that society try hammers into us.

[moondiapers]

I think a girl wearing a bikini is much different than a boy wearing swim shorts. For example, I wouldn't have a problem with my dd wearing a bikini top and shorts playing outside, but wearing both the bikini top and bottom is much more skimpy than a boy's swim trunks. I also wouldn't let my son run around in public in boys bikini swim bottoms. Too form fitting etc.

But when younger I think it's fine for them to run around the yard naked. And they can run around inside naked as long as they want.

-Heather

[Greaseball]

What about a bikini and one of those sarong covers?

[HollyBearsMom]

We are in the throws of potty training so my son is often naked. Now that the weather has warmed up, FINALLY , he is always running around naked outside. He likes to practice peeing on a tree . I have never given it a second thought. Personally I am with the person who said "keep your eyes on the road".

[mamawanabe]

Don't want to teach my daughters or sons that the responsibility of stopping other people's predatory thoughts/behavior lies in them covering thier body. And honestly, she is no safer in a pair of jeans than in a bathing suit. If someone gets off by watching my daughter ride a bike in a bathing suit, than the problem lies with him/her not with the bathing suit.

Molesters are not going to see a girl in a bathing suit as opposed to a pair of jeans and be so overcome with lust that they can't help themselves. I mean, wearing a pair of jeans is not going to make a difference in whether she is atatcked or not. Besides most molestations by a huge margin happen from inside the home - relatives and friends - not strangers. (Think of everyone you know personally who was molested as a child - now think of how many of them were molested by a stranger . . .)

Some people value "modesty" as defined by the cloaking the body, which is a fair enough thing to value. I do not value it, and if my kids decide to, that is something they will come to on thier own. So no, I won't make/encourage them to cover up.

[Elana]

This is interesting.

Today I was at the beach with dd and her friend (she's 4, he's almost 4).

They both undressed right away, to put on their bathing suits. I was uncomfortable with them being naked in front of everyone else, and I just dressed them really quickly. I don't think my dd is *too* old for that, but it is starting to move in that direction.

We have 2 girls, no boys, so I think that I felt uncomfortable with dd seeing her friend naked, too, though it didn't seem to bother her...

I do think that some form of modesty should be taught, to each their own limits, but children who are old enough to be without adult supervision should also know what their body is about and adults should supervise what they wear.

OT: it's not only about clothing, it's about being aware, about not peeing in front of everybody, etc. There are many ads out there for children's clothing, who pose very young kids in "sexy" positions. That REALLY gets to me. Why can't kids just be kids? Our society is a bit wacko, isn't it?! (sorry, I'm rambling...)

Anyway, I wouldn't do anything, cause it's not my kid, nor my friends kid, just a stranger. If I did know the person, I would ask gently (maybe in a humerous way) about the issue.

[CraftyMommaOf2]

Originally Posted by moondiapers

I think a girl wearing a bikini is much different than a boy wearing swim shorts. For example, I wouldn't have a problem with my dd wearing a bikini top and shorts playing outside, but wearing both the bikini top and bottom is much more skimpy than a boy's swim trunks. I also wouldn't let my son run around in public in boys bikini swim bottoms. Too form fitting etc.
-Heather

What she said
I let ds be naked whenever he wants, inside. If we had a privacy fence, then he could be naked outside in that fence. I couldn't care less what other ppl think about how I raise my child and how I choose to live. That said, I don't want strangers to be able to look at my ds's naked body. The naked body is such a beautiful and powerful thing. I don't think that power should be taken too lightly, KWIM? My poor dh had to come to grips with ds being naked all the time and with me being naked in front of him (when he's older) because they didn't do this in his family. I don't mean that I will walk around the house naked in front of him all the time, but I will not grab for a towel and slam the door if he happens to see me naked.
I'm rambling, I know
This is very interesting, tho. I am dying to know what the op did :LOL

[Momma Aimee]

IMHO I'd be glad the girls were ok with their bodies -- that they were being taught to be ok with their bodies and GLAD they had an adult with them.

If they had been alone I'd have been very upset.

I hate the balance beam with have to walk with kids -- not to trust strangers, but not to make them totaly nervopus wercks about EVERYTHING.

Above 6 ot 7 I would not allow nudity -- we have to learn modsty at some point -- but I think kids need to know THEY are the one tha tis OK and the pervert is the onw that is wrong.

I hate to "punish" a child cause the adult might be wrong.

Aimee

[Fleurette]

If you mean what would I have done seeing the situation you described? Nothing. If it were my children, however, they'd probably both have a swimsuit on.

[muse]

Originally Posted by hunnybumm

But we are also moving to England soon so he will be spending about 3 years there and they aren't as caught up on nakedness as we are in the states, so I am really looking forward to that.

Are you kidding??? As an english woman in the Uk I can tell you us Brits have enormous hangups about bodies and nakedness...