Today is my brother Adam's birthday. He was born with Cornelia De Lange syndrome. We were told he would be a vegetable but he thrived. He learned to sign a few words, learned to get around the house on his little skateboard (could not crawl because one arm was gone, and could not ever walk). He had the biggest brightest smile, my dd has his dimples. Adam was the size and mentality of an 18 month old when he died at age six. I was nine at the time. He was my only sibling.
When he was 6 years old my mom's boyfriend shook him to death, then hit him so hard his liver smashed in half. I don't know what this had to happen to such a beautiful and happy little boy. I had a hard life after that. CPS was involved. No one knew who killed him for sure at the time, so my mom and her bf remained the main suspects but there was no evidence to prove beyond a doubt which one did it.
The cop who arrived on the scene and tried to breathe life into my brother said that he never forgot Adam. When he had free time he poured over the files and evidence. He passed it on to a buddy of his in forensics. New technology made a case. 19 years later (one year ago last November) the bf was convicted and is now serving 18 years.
This is the first year I have not grieved with emptiness and questions. I still feel Adam watching over his big sister, teaching me to count my blessings and try to appreciate the little things in life. When I hold my children, I am also holding Adam's memory, and treating them with the love that Adam deserved to have in his life.
Adam, I love you. I miss you.
Darshani
Murder is Not Entertainment
When he was 6 years old my mom's boyfriend shook him to death, then hit him so hard his liver smashed in half. I don't know what this had to happen to such a beautiful and happy little boy. I had a hard life after that. CPS was involved. No one knew who killed him for sure at the time, so my mom and her bf remained the main suspects but there was no evidence to prove beyond a doubt which one did it.
The cop who arrived on the scene and tried to breathe life into my brother said that he never forgot Adam. When he had free time he poured over the files and evidence. He passed it on to a buddy of his in forensics. New technology made a case. 19 years later (one year ago last November) the bf was convicted and is now serving 18 years.
This is the first year I have not grieved with emptiness and questions. I still feel Adam watching over his big sister, teaching me to count my blessings and try to appreciate the little things in life. When I hold my children, I am also holding Adam's memory, and treating them with the love that Adam deserved to have in his life.
Adam, I love you. I miss you.
Darshani
Murder is Not Entertainment
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