I am evil.

[Avonlea]

Today was awful. I yelled a lot. I was pushy and impatiant..and right now the tv is my sons mom.

I feel rather burnt out. I don't like me very much.I am mean.

[oceanbaby]

I mean..i just have to PEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do I HAVE to take EVERYONE with me EVERYTIME! zDo I have to sit on the toilet with 2 halfawake and fussing kids on my lap EVERYTIME!!!!

Every morning I have to say: I'm getting up to go pee, you can go with me, I don't want to hear any screaming!

As soon as I try to get out of bed to pee (I'm 7 months pregnant dammit, I've got to pee!), ds starts screaming. He is 3 frickin years old already. Then he scrambles in there with me, tries to poke my belly button, and starts unrolling the toilet paper.

I'm sorry you're having a hard day. I've felt evil myself on too many occasions.

And IMO, these are exactly the types of days that tv was made for. I figure zoning out on brain dead tv shows has got to be healthier than watching mom have a total nervous breakdown.

I am forcing myself off to bed so I can at least get 5 hours of sleep myself, but I will try to write more tomorrow.

[Avonlea]

OMG.. there are others who have potty parties?

The other day my daughter whacked her forehead on the toilet when she fell forward trying to pull herself up..I had to wipe my butt..you know..so I thought STUPIDLY that I could set her on the floor for those few seconds that would take.

Silly me.

Good heavens, you read and understood that entire post..bless you!


Well, now it is 12:26 am. My son is awake again. i want to scream. We wil have to deal with yet another day of emotional upheaval tomorrow because everytime i manage to develop a routine it gets totally thrown off and i am going INSANE because of it.


Is it me, or is 3.5 just a really hard age? First we go UP........then we go d
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And it is never pretty.

[Threefold]

Oh I am so glad I am not the only evil mama!
I need to get to sleep, but 3.5 IS hard.
I am struggling with myself on how not to get wrapped up in these power struggles. Bedtime tonight was the worst ever.
Ahhh breathe. Sometimes it's all you can do.
Oh, and I have to say, "It's okay, I'm just getting up to pee." at least once per night. I was hoping it would be easier with two. :LOL

[longjon's_wife]

Ha! You guys have it lucky! Not only do I have to say "I'm getting up to pee, Ill be right back"; I also get to say "I'm taking Henry (puppy) out to pee, I'll be right back."

And last night, DS had to get up to pee with me (he did have to go himself). And I always heard two was the "awful" age! Not sure how I'm going to handle two.

-Lisa
, 7wks

[Foobar]

The OP was editted, but you know, I've managed to convince Goo that when Mommy pees, Goo sits on her potty (with her clothes on). The only problem is that she wants to wipe me! Ick!

Hope you are having a better day! You are not evil.

[littleaugustbaby]

I hope today is better for you.

[Threefold]

Originally Posted by Foobar

The only problem is that she wants to wipe me! Ick!

:LOL my ds too!
How's today going Avonlea?

[mamalisa]

3.5 is evil. I would take a years worth of 2 to be done with 3. He's half big boy and half little baby, it's insane and driving me batty. It's a good thing he's so sweet for a few minutes a day, otherwise I don't know what I would do.

[Evan&Anna's_Mom]

Three is hard. You are NOT evil. If you are feeling evil, its probably time for some sort of break. He's old enough that you can leave him in someone else's care while you get it. Find a way to take a break. Even a couple of hours will probably help.

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by Foobar

The OP was editted, but you know, I've managed to convince Goo that when Mommy pees, Goo sits on her potty (with her clothes on). The only problem is that she wants to wipe me! Ick!

:LOL Eli hasn't figured out what I'm doing when I wipe, so he will pick up a roll of toilet paper, pull off a little piece, and try to drop it into the toilet behind me while I'm still sitting there. Then he tries to flush! (it's impossible for him to reach with me sitting there; our toilet has about 2" clearance on either side and is set into a little tiny toilet-sized cave) :LOL

[Avonlea]

the next day was much better..thank you. not perfect, but better. i did not think about selling him on the black market at least,,lol.

what is THE DEAL with 3.5!! Holy God help me..because somedays i wonder what happened to my son?> did aliens take over or something? Oy Vey!!!!

I am SO TIRRREEEDD of whining, screeching, huge emotional outbursts and temper tantrums in stores and the whole 'limp body' trick and screaming when he doesn';t get his way in public. Joy joy joy.

I wanted to smack his butt the other day..i did not but boy i thought about it..he just woul d NOT stop and I was at my wits end..I had to finally tell him to take his 'baby' doll and go upstairs to bed and not come down till i said.. i was so worn down!!

Please tell me this will pass. i don't know how long I can stand it right now. I may run away and join a traveling carnivale !

[Threefold]

I was with a group of Mom's yesterday and they were all swearing that 4 is worse.
Off to Gentle Discipline. :LOL

[mamalisa]

There is no way 4 could be worse. They must be setting you up for some sort of joke. Nothing could be worse than 3, right????

[ja mama]

4 is so much better than three (which is soo much worse than 2)
Four takes a change in your approach, but with a three and a half year old, it seems every approach is just a lesson in patience. If you treat 4 with less explanation, more blunt details, they can understand. It does get better.

[Threefold]

Phew. . .

[bec]

Can I chime in here? I thought I was the only one that always had an audirnce when in the bathroom! And that my 3 year old was the only one that had become an emotional whirlwind since reaching this age. I sometimes just have to stare at her while she's throwing a huge tantrum over something very very minor. I chant to myself, "She's three, she's three, she's three..." until I can come up with something positive to say, as opposed to "Knock it off!"

Then she has her redeaming moments that make it all worth while, like when she runs over to me with a huge smile, big hug and kiss and says, "Your the best, Mommy!"


Bec

[Red]

Four! AT 4 they start to have friends and peer pressure begins. Now I know you're cringing, but peer pressure is your friend! No self-respecting 4 year old boy would get caught dead by his buds going potty with Mum, or wiping her butt either! They also don't want to get caught with wet pants, have to swear (oh well), start serious gun play, (double oh well, it's inevitable) and talk about 'saving' you or their teddy or whatever from monsters and bad guys and all sorts of things. You can have them 'stand watch' at the bathroom door. Ha, they won't even want to wake up, cause they'll be dreaming of running through the 'hood (your backyard) with their homies.

Umm, do you want to talk about 15 yet?

[Gemini]

Originally Posted by bec

Can I chime in here? I thought I was the only one that always had an audirnce when in the bathroom!

Are you kidding?? The DOG comes in and has to lay down on the bathroom rug when I pee! Sometimes the cats saunters in as well, with the two girls climbing on me.

[*Erin*]

it's a treat to use the bathroom alone, with the door shut. a bigger treat to take my time.
no please, no talk of 15 yet, right now i'm really busy being scared of three. *shudders*
i guess i should practice deep breathing now, while i still have an easy 21 month old....