HUGE ventI know this is going to get really long, so please bear with me. I'm just so upset right now!!!
I know this is silly, but a co-worker of my DHs went into labor today. She was due in a couple of days and she worked the whole way through (my husband made a habit of telling me "yeah, she made it all the way to the end) like I'm suppose to feel some level of guilt for being placed on full bed rest at 21 weeks? But that isn't even my vent.
He said that he told her that he really was disappointed that he never got the "honey, it's time" experience. You see, my contractions started at 21 weeks, were held at bay with trebuteline (sp?) until week 35, and then I had contrax 3-5 minutes apart for the following 11 days before they started pitocin and then ultimately delivered via c-section.
Now here is my vent... I was talking this over with my mother (and other family members in the past, but I usually get the same response from them)... she told me "you never really had real labor"... EXCUSE ME??? 11 DAYS DOESN'T QUALIFY???? What??? It was fake??? She responded with, "no, you never got to pushing labor... that is the stuff that really hurts" So I guess my 11 days with no sleep (because they were painful enough that I couldn't sleep through them) and the fact that my stomach was cut open to bring this child out, doesn't qualify as "having experienced the pain of childbirth" And what is so bad... is part of me thinks "yeah, I didn't experience it".
I don't know why these comments still bug me so much, so long afterwards, but I'm seriously p*ssed off at my mother right now And oddly enough, I'm finding myself very jealous of my DHs co-worker because her pregnancy and labor experience thus far couldn't be anymore text book....