another low libido thread

[babyluvr]

i've seen a few of these, but would love to know if anyone has any new ideas on how to get back in gear in the bedrm (or wherever!). Ds is 5 mos old, eats some solids, bfeeds a lot. I don't feel exhausted or drained or anything, just not able to get into sex. Dh is great, very sweet, helpful, etc. any new ideas from anyone?

[pamamidwife]

here are some things that I recommend to clients:


*Consider doing some self-nurturing: getting a manicure or pedicure, massage, etc.
*Start slowly - incorporate more loving touches and words into your daily life with your partner, perhaps writing sweet romantic (or hot!) notes to each other
*Take vitamins and drink plenty of water!
*KEGEL! This gets the blood flowing and often will increase sensation and lubrication
*Read some hot steamy love stories or sexual stories - there are a ton online
*Self-pleasuring - the more you pay attention to that part of your life, the more you want.
*Think about what makes YOU feel sexy - for some women it's all about "fixing themselves up", for others it's being told that you are wanted.
*Ask for what you need - specifically. No time for assumptions or unspoken requests - there often isn't alot of time for leisurely relations....
*Create a mini-date night for your partner - or do it for each other. don't have to go anywhere, use your imagination at home!
*Expect to be interrupted and frustrated
*Many times women will not feel into it, but will engage their partner and often they find themselves really enjoying it!

There is a great book written by the women at Good Vibrations called The Mother's Guide to Sex - they have amazing suggestions and so much knowledge! I highly recommend this book! Here it is at Amazon.com: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg...31304?v=glance - hey, and look! you can get a used copy for only 95 cents! whooo!

[babyluvr]

thanks, i have new hope!

[rainbowmoon]

damiana tea works great! another thing we did during a dry spell is to purchse some *toys* (hope I'm allowed to post this here-I'm sooo sorry if not!) it really spiced things up!