grandfather's alzheimers

[GreenHippieMama]

Maybe this isn't the right forum,but I don't know where else to go with these feelings. My grandfather is 93,and is in very good physical health but his alzheimers has progressed to the point where he only remembers my grandmother and we suspect she may be covering up the times he doesn't. My father has gone up north to help them sell their house and move grandpa to a home,something he promised never to do but which has become unavoidable. I'm just heartbroken and struck by the pointless cruelty of having a life you cannot remember. I fear that my father (and eventually I myself) will someday meet this same empty fate. it's just so unfair. I look at my children and can't imagine not knowing them,not remembering all the things we share,losing that love... it just seems very cruel,and I can't believe God would do this to my grandparents because they have always been very religious.It just makes me question everything,and makes me very tired and sad.

[lisamarie]

It is so difficult when a loved one has such a heartbreaking terminal illness. It does make us question EVERYTHING. My mother has a terminal illness and my heart has been deeply affected by this. I have suffered other losses before, but never before a terminal one.

I wish I had some wise answers for you, but sadly I don't. Grief, even before someone has past, is something so personal. Reading about the particular illness and grief can be helpful sometimes. As for the future, again, no easy answers. Sometimes in the midst of this, life can seem so unfair. But just know that you are not alone in your thoughts and feelings.

Hugs~

Lisa

[proudmamanow]

to you and your family, especially your grandma....

Both of my grandmothers, my stepgrandmother and my great grandmother have had Alzheimer's or a similar dementia. Only my dear Grandma Eva (my mom's mom) is still living. It has been so hard to watch all of these strong brave women, wonderful mothers all, go through this illness that robs you of so much.

I don't really have any answers for you either sweetie except to validate what a hard, hard thing this is.

If it makes you feel at all better, all of these women have eventually ended up in a home as well, and these have all been good, good places where they have been wonderfully cared for & visited often by family.

I just visited Grandma Eva last week at her nursing home last week and after a year she seems to have adjusted well & is well loved by her many friends there.

to you and your family

[GreenHippieMama]

Thank you

Thanks so much for the support. As if this weren't enough yesterday my other Grandmother(mom's side) fell down her stairs and now is hospitalized and it doesn't look good for her.Everything is just happening at once, but I'm praying for them all and trying not to let it overwhelm my thoughts and actions.