I adopted my dd at age 2 after fostering her for 2 years. She was born cocaine dependent and was severe failure to thrive. She didn't sit up until almost 11months and didn't walk until she was 27 months.
She went through withdrawal for nearly nine months which involved non-stop screaming for 2-3 hours every night or whenever she had to go in the car. She would projectile vomit most of her bottle at every feeding.
We did Physical therapy, occupational and speech therapy for 2 years.
She is now nearly 16. When I adopted her not much was known about the long-range outcome of cocaine babies. We now know their brains are similar to Swiss cheese. The parts of the brain that were developing on days her birth mom used are damaged.
For my girl - she has no virtually no short term memory (we call her Dory), if we work our behinds off she can get it into long-term memory and then it seems to stick. She has very poor impulse control, she is mildly hyperactive and easily over-stimulated.
She is the love of my life. She has very wonderful qualities such as great beauty inside and out, a very big heart and a marvelous sense of humor.
Her adoption was one of the best decisions I ever made.