Originally Posted by pugmadmama
But it's not babies who are approaching feminists and telling them that they better get onboard with this issue. It's grown men. Some of whom are angry and who don't hesistate to use fairly ugly language when women aren't willing to immediatly sign onto their agenda. So, it comes across as a "men's issue" to some women. And I don't think those women are crazy or wrong, it's how the issue has been presented to them.
That's a very small minority of the men involved in this issue. I think the reason there are not more men involved is because most men work long hours to support their families. I am very lucky in that I was very successful in business and hoarded my pennies to be able to take the time I do with this issue. Most men are not in that position and are not able to take such an active part.
|When a some women who have dedicated a good part of their activist life to ending FGM hear things like this, it sounds like they are being dismissed. Like what is she doing wasting her time worrying about girls half a world away when boys are suffering right here at home.
In my business life I learned that some goals are attaainable and some are not. I also learned that some goals that are not now attainable will be attainable in the future. For example, I started one of my businesses with 13 competitors. I was determined to narrow the playing field by taking out some of those competitors. Going after the biggest one first was an unattainable goal but going after the smallest one was an attainable goal. Four years later, I only had three competitors and was almost as big as #1. That biggest competitor was trying to get me to sell to them because I was "eating their lunch" every day. My overall goal was to become the largest in the Atlanta area. That was not an attainable goal until I had realized my smaller goals. as I reached each of my smaller goals, the ultimate goal inched closer and closer until it was attainable.
It's the same with genital mutilation. Our overall goal is to end it world wide for all babies and children. The short term attainable goal is to end it for boys here in America. Once we have reached that goal, we'll go global and we will eventually realize our overall goal.
We are getting there. I was thinking just today that when I first came to Mothering.com that there would be maybe 4-6 posts a day. Now, I suspect there are 30-40 posts a day. that's an amazing change in just a few short years.
|And Frankly Speaking expressed himself calmly, without name calling and anger. Not all intactivsts approach the issue so calmly (again, read over this thread to see the hostility expressed towards some feminists)
To be quite honest, I went through my beligerent, angry and confrontive stage several years ago. I finally got past that at least in the way I post messages and let people get to me. I learned that it is counterproductive. I think all intactivists eventually go through that stage. I have one friend who has been in this fight for years. She used to be the sweetest and most gentle person you could imagine and she finally had her cup run over and now she is in that belligerent, angry and confrontive stage. She will eventually pass through it as she realizes that she is distancing her audience instead of pulling them closer. It just takes time.