Originally Posted by lizziejean
I am starting to suspect that the 'natural age of weaning' as per K. Dettwyler is really just the age at which even the most loving mother human, chimp, whatever says OK THAT'S IT you're ENORMOUS get OFF me...
OK - this had me
I can relate, Lizziejean. I am currently nursing my 4.75 year old, my 3 year old and my 9 month old. And I have to grit my teeth to get through every nursing with my older two. I am VERY ready for them to stop (especially the oldest).
My situation was somewhat similar to that of the OP, in that my dd1 stopped nursing at her 4th birthday. Then nursed twice in the next six months or so. And now has been nursing every night for the past 2-3 months.
I always let her nurse, thinking that it would be a one-off and that would be it. And it was the first two times, but now she's back to nursing every night.
I'm again encouraging weaning (she can choose nursing or reading an extra bedtime story at bedtime - she chooses the story maybe 1-2 times a week now).
She says she'll wean at 5 - we'll see! I do think that the next time she stops nursing for 2-3 months or so, I think I will call it quits and explain that she is finished nursing if she asks after that.
All of this novel just to say what most other posters have said - do whatever feels right to you. There is nothing wrong with letting him nurse, if you are comfortable with that. And also nothing wrong with not letting him nurse, if that is what you prefer.
If you do let him nurse, it wouldn't surprise me if it was a one-off and that was that. But don't be surprised if it isn't a one-off. And unless you are really willing to let him start nursing again on a regular basis, I would think carefully about letting him nurse one (or perhaps explain that you are going to let him try nursing one more time, but that that is a 'farewell' nursing session, or something like that).