Erin- I just love your quilt!! Did you make that from yours/DHs old clothing? It looks like there are a lot of special quilt squares in there! Its also just gorgeous, thoughtful and a wonderful thing to give you your baby! I also love the wall hanging over your mobile, and your belly cast hanging in there!! I wish I had room on my kids wall to display mine like that! The thought of you running after the sheep just about made me pee! Im sorry to laugh, but it really was just funny! Congrats on your first SAH project. I hope it goes well!!
Rhynna- Im hoping your new bean waits until your elibean is better!! I can think of a worse time for him to be so sick! I hope he gets well quick, and that you dont get sick from him!!
Im glad to see that the penny is on its way out!! I bet you never wanted to see something in a BM so badly, huh? LOL... I hope it passes easily!
Thank you everyone for the hugs and support. I really do love my mom. We talk almost every day, but lately shes been bugging the hell outta me. I guess these last couple of weeks I just have been way more self-centered than usual and her quirks have just pissed me off alot. Then she goes off about the letter yesterday and all of a sudden, I just dont want her here. I wrote in the letter that if you are asked to leave by anyone that I expect full cooperation without disturbing me. I dont think it will come to that, but I would hope that she would just get it.
Meanwhile, I've let all of my doulas know what I want to avoid, to please help her feel included but to run interference if they think shes bugging me. All of them have been more than happy to help.
I would love to UN-invite her, but I just couldnt. I do love her, I realize this is an exciting time for her, but I think when I call her in early labor Im going to ask her to re-read the letter I sent and try to remember what is important to us. And I may need her here. Im not sure about needing her for support, but Im sure that the kiddos will appreciate her being here, as much as she DOESNT want to be in charge of them
To the new mommies, the early weeks are tough!! Hang in there. If any of you mommies want to have some Lansinoh on hand and you dont already have some, PM me. I have samples I can mail out to you. Granted, its not a cure-all, but it does help a ton! It can heal cracks quickly, and if it werent for Lansinoh I would never have made it through my first month!
As far as nursing and laying down, I found with zack that at about a month he stopped needing changes after feedings, and was okay with being changed beforehand. Its a good thing, cause at about that time I couldnt stay awake through a feeding! Before that I would sit him up, leaning against my belly and rub his back to burp him without getting up myself. Once I realized I couldnt stay awake long enough to do that I just put a quartered flatfold on top of a waterproof lap pad under him. He would spit up a bit if he wasnt burped at night, but he didnt fuss (that would have woken me). I just kept a stack of flats to change them through the night when he woke me to eat again. I was distressed at first that he wasnt getting burped, but he never had a problem with it. At that point, I was literally only awake long enough to change him and latch him on, and 2 minutes later Id be snoozing next to him. My guess is thats one of the reasons I didnt have sleep deprivation issues with him, even though he was waking every 2-3 hours until he was 5-6 months old.
And someone mentioned sleeping through the night... It may be a lot longer than 6 mo. Its been about 4 years since I slept more than 5 hours at a stretch. Your body learns to adapt, even when DS was waking every 3 hours I wasnt sleep deprived. It does take time, however! Give yourself 6 weeks for both the baby and yourself to get in the groove of each other... It does get better!
Rhynna- Im hoping your new bean waits until your elibean is better!! I can think of a worse time for him to be so sick! I hope he gets well quick, and that you dont get sick from him!!
Im glad to see that the penny is on its way out!! I bet you never wanted to see something in a BM so badly, huh? LOL... I hope it passes easily!
Thank you everyone for the hugs and support. I really do love my mom. We talk almost every day, but lately shes been bugging the hell outta me. I guess these last couple of weeks I just have been way more self-centered than usual and her quirks have just pissed me off alot. Then she goes off about the letter yesterday and all of a sudden, I just dont want her here. I wrote in the letter that if you are asked to leave by anyone that I expect full cooperation without disturbing me. I dont think it will come to that, but I would hope that she would just get it.
Meanwhile, I've let all of my doulas know what I want to avoid, to please help her feel included but to run interference if they think shes bugging me. All of them have been more than happy to help.
I would love to UN-invite her, but I just couldnt. I do love her, I realize this is an exciting time for her, but I think when I call her in early labor Im going to ask her to re-read the letter I sent and try to remember what is important to us. And I may need her here. Im not sure about needing her for support, but Im sure that the kiddos will appreciate her being here, as much as she DOESNT want to be in charge of them
To the new mommies, the early weeks are tough!! Hang in there. If any of you mommies want to have some Lansinoh on hand and you dont already have some, PM me. I have samples I can mail out to you. Granted, its not a cure-all, but it does help a ton! It can heal cracks quickly, and if it werent for Lansinoh I would never have made it through my first month!
As far as nursing and laying down, I found with zack that at about a month he stopped needing changes after feedings, and was okay with being changed beforehand. Its a good thing, cause at about that time I couldnt stay awake through a feeding! Before that I would sit him up, leaning against my belly and rub his back to burp him without getting up myself. Once I realized I couldnt stay awake long enough to do that I just put a quartered flatfold on top of a waterproof lap pad under him. He would spit up a bit if he wasnt burped at night, but he didnt fuss (that would have woken me). I just kept a stack of flats to change them through the night when he woke me to eat again. I was distressed at first that he wasnt getting burped, but he never had a problem with it. At that point, I was literally only awake long enough to change him and latch him on, and 2 minutes later Id be snoozing next to him. My guess is thats one of the reasons I didnt have sleep deprivation issues with him, even though he was waking every 2-3 hours until he was 5-6 months old.
And someone mentioned sleeping through the night... It may be a lot longer than 6 mo. Its been about 4 years since I slept more than 5 hours at a stretch. Your body learns to adapt, even when DS was waking every 3 hours I wasnt sleep deprived. It does take time, however! Give yourself 6 weeks for both the baby and yourself to get in the groove of each other... It does get better!
I feel like I keep hearing people tell me when not to have my baby. First it was my mom (about a month ago) saying that she was going away to a confernce around my due date. I was cool with that. Then my MIL told me of some days that would inconvience her. Then dh told me of another day (yesterday and today to be exact.). Then these ladies. 
: Dh says I should lighten up (my words) and take it as a joke. But to me it's not. I feel like this is inconviencing those around me. I know that the baby will come when he/she is ready, but still....
It's just wretched. There are positives to having a sick toddler; he's not running around like a maniac trying to destroy things, he's just sitting in my lap asking for hugs, kisses, and nursies. Most of the time, 'sick baby' behavior is really creepy to me, but at nine months I find myself vaguely thankful that I can *sit down*. 
Isn't that awful?
sheep got out again. Luckily I saw them right away and the were easy to get back in the barn. But by the time I was done securing them (which I THOUGHT we had done two nights ago) it was WAY TOO HOT to take a walk. Maybe once the sun goes down. 
arrrrrrrrrr.....
She drives me nuts and I don't want her around when I'm in labor. She thinks she's going to sit in my parking lot while I'm in labor. Not so much. 
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