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post #101 of 169
6/13/04 at 5:13pm
My dd is 2 years 7 months and the only time I think about weaning is when someone asks me about it.

We nurse and it feels right. Sometimes she asks me for boob and I say no, due to various reasons, most of which are circumstantial such as I am making dinner or writing a letter or talking on the phone. She is okay with the no, it helps us define boundaries with eachother.

As far as weaning I thought we would just evolve in our relationship with nursing and slowly she would stop. I never really have had a plan.

My family, particulairly my Mom, ask often when I will stop. I reply the same each time...I am practicing childled weaning. That doesn't seem to satisfy them anymore. My Mom at least asks me the benefits of nursing this long..sadly the rest of the family just thinks I am a freak.

My friends however are very supportive...most having already gone through this, so they understand and don't really care too much to discuss it except to offer support for me and my dd.

I often wonder how long we will nurse.. but it is more of a philosophical thought.

Sadly though I think we at the stage where I will start to censor where I nurse my dd so that she doesn't feel my families insecurity with it. I do not want her to associate negativity with this..she is just too young to understand how someone could find breastfeeding a toddler uncomfortable.

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post #102 of 169
6/13/04 at 5:53pm
One year.
post #103 of 169
6/13/04 at 7:03pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by Amywillo
I'll probably be done by the time I'm 42.
yeah, me too.

I really don't know how long either of my daughters will need to nurse, but it will continue as long as mutually agreeable. Sometimes I figure my little one will wean herself before big sister does.

I know without a doubt that weaning my oldest before she is ready will make my life much harder than it has to be. Maybe I'm lazy, or whatever, but it's just easier to keep nursing her than to have one very upset spirited child on my hands without my secret weapon to help calm her down.
post #104 of 169
6/13/04 at 9:27pm
Quote:
but it's just easier to keep nursing her than to have one very upset spirited child on my hands without my secret weapon to help calm her down.


You can say that again!
post #105 of 169
6/13/04 at 9:34pm
I just wanted to add that I think everyone here is an awesome mom to their little ones. You guys rock
post #106 of 169
6/13/04 at 9:37pm
I would not say that I have a limit. I stoped my first at just after 4 years because he forgot how to nurse, I was nursing his 2yo brother, and was pg with brother #3. Now that I'm nursing just one and will not be pg again (permenant birth control by DH) I don't know how this one will end.
post #107 of 169
6/13/04 at 11:26pm
Before I had DS, I said we'd nurse for a year--that seemed SO LONG then. When he was six months I thought to myself, "I can't wean him in six months. That seems way too early." I started looking into child-led weaning at that time...

We'll wean when DS is ready (i.e, when he gives the word up). He is currently 3.5. No idea when he'll wean. Absolutely, no idea...
post #108 of 169
6/14/04 at 12:11am
The World Health Org. says minimum of 2 years. Then for as long after, as is mutually desired.

Its the AAP that says minimum of 1 year.

With my 1st, not knowing any beter...I gradually weaned her at a year old.

My youngest dd is 21 mos. and still very much a nursling....

Having done it both ways.....

I couldnt even imagine weaning before 1 1/2 or 2 now. They're STILL BABIES!!!
post #109 of 169
6/14/04 at 2:03am
Thread Starter 
"Breastfeeding to me is the purest form of Motherly Love"


Jess7396- My dd weaned herself at 22 months. She is a avid thumbsucker. There was nothing I could do to curtail her thumbsucking, I did try the yucky nailpolish but It seemed too cruel to continue. Yes, she definitely derived the sucking satisfaction she would have gooten from nursing via her thumb. I allowed it by not interfering with a dangling boob b/c I was 4 months pg and it hurt like the dickens to nurse. My milk may have changed taste too and she preffered the thumb. I feel bad about that. I wish I had not been pg so soon, so that she could nurse longer and get those IQ points after the baby was born, she did not know how to suckle! She asked so I offered but she tried to chew my boob...4 times. Ah well, all kids are different.

Chemigogo~ I agree with you 100%. Rock on Sister girl.
Thanks all.
post #110 of 169
6/14/04 at 3:07am
I just don't know what my "limit" is. It really will depend on how well the nursing relationship goes. My ds is 28 months old and nursing strong but I am newly pregnant and having the sorest nipples. The entire time he nurses, Im clinching my teeth and holding my breath it hurts so bad ( IM going to a LLL meeting on Wed for support on this). I have started to limit him in teh morning because he wants to basically nurse from 6-8 am straight and I was losing my mind. But I can tell that he is so not ready for this as he is wanting to nurse more as a result. Someone once had a quote in their sig that said something like --A need unmet becomes stronger - and it is totally true for ds.

I'm also considering, researching, soul searching about tandem nursing. Its not something I thought I would ever do...but since my ds's needs to nurse is so strong and obvious, I'm rethinking this. Of course, he may wean when the milk supply is low and he might not like the taste. I'll take it as it comes....


I also wanted to say my LEAST limit was 2 years. I knew that I wanted my babe to at LEAST nurse to 2 years and that I would have been very sad if he had weaned before 2 years. The benefits were just too large for me to not have that as a goal.
post #111 of 169
6/14/04 at 8:53am
I think 5 or 6 years old, or whenever ds is ready!! I used to say 2 or 3! But now ds is 4 and still nursing 1 or 2 times each day. He is weaning himself (with a little help from me sometimes). If he is still nursing at 5, I won't mind at all.
post #112 of 169
6/14/04 at 10:56am
I *think* 3ish. But I really won't know until/unless I get there. I weaned my older 2 well before a year due to bad info/bad circumstances. Aidan has always been a fiercely independent little creature, and he self-weaned at 18 mos. I can sort of imagine him still nursing now, at almost 3, and think I'd be ok with it, but wanting it to end soon. And I really can't picture nursing dd, who's almost 5. I think it's great if other mom's do it, but I get "touched out" SO easily, I don't think it would work for me. But we'll make it up as we go along, if and when we have another baby.
post #113 of 169
6/14/04 at 12:08pm
Ds1 weaned at 15 months.. Ds 2 weaned at right about 13 months.. I didn't do anything.. They just didn't want it anymore.. With ds1 we got pg with ds2.. With ds2 he nursed on one side exclusively for the last 4 months.. i could only get him to nurse at night if he was sleeping.. And he started to refuse even then.. DS 3 is now 11 months old this month.. I don't plan on weaning him anytime soon.. I would really like forhim to nurse longer.. We'll see what happens..

Most of my mommy friends have nursed until 18 months to 2 yrs.. I would personally wean by about age 3 if they didn't wean before then, but again.. That's just a personal preference..

Sometimes it isn't possible to nurse until 2.. I don't get any output from pumping, so that really isn't an option.. When my children wean they wean themselves.. I'm not pushing for it to happen... It just does.. 2 or 3 would probably be better, but sometimes there just isn't anyway to get that BM into them..

Warm Squishy Feelings..

Dyan
post #114 of 169
6/14/04 at 2:14pm
So far I say 2 yrs is my limit. My others have weaned at 22 months, 18 months, 14 months, 18 months and 21 months. My baby is 4 months old now, and with all the problems I have had, I am surprised I haven't weaned her yet.
post #115 of 169
6/14/04 at 2:28pm
With my first, I figured 2 would be a good time. He self-weaned at 18 months when I was preg with my 2nd. She nursed and nursed and nursed and nursed to the ripe old age of 4, when she weaned. My youngest will be 4 in July, and though he is now weaned, it was led by me because I went on bc. Not a day goes by that he doesn't ask for his "neenies"..so he would still be going strong if it weren't for that.
post #116 of 169
6/14/04 at 5:41pm
If I ever get the chance... I think my comfort limit would be after age 2 but before age 3. Of course, any initiation of weaning by me would be gentle and gradual, like the bottle-weaning DS and I are currently beginning.
post #117 of 169
6/17/04 at 9:31pm
Limit?

No limit. Except if we're still doing it after he gets married, there might be some logistical issues. :LOL

Nope. No limit. He'll wean when he wants to.

I'm a WOHM, btw. Just am feeling defensive and wanted to throw that out there. (Not about this thread, I hasten to add, just about some random posts I've been seeing around. )
post #118 of 169
6/17/04 at 9:43pm
i had said Id wean by 2.. then 2 came & went

I was *really* tired of it.. to the point I was ready to throw a termper tantrum if we werent done soon.. but I didnt want it to be a tramatic thing on her


we weaned about 3 months before 3.. without TOO much trouble


next ones being cut off at 2..
we'llllllllllllllll hopefully.. we'll see
post #119 of 169
6/17/04 at 11:14pm
No limit. Just as I wouldn't limit how much love or comfort I give my kids or how much broccoli they can eat. My mamamilk doesn't have an expiration date.

My oldest self-weaned on his fifth birthday after planning his weaning day for 6 months. He was ready. He's asked to nurse a couple times since then and I've let him ... he's ended in hysterics both times because he's forgotten how!

I spent the first 9 months of motherhood nursing one baby. I spent the next 9 months nursing through pregnancy. I spent the next 14 months tandem nursing and the following 9 months tandem nursing through pregnancy. I then spent 18 months triandem nursing and have now gone back to tandem nursing for the past 9 months. Nothing is out of the question as far as nursing goes!
post #120 of 169
6/17/04 at 11:17pm
Just wanted to say you are my hero!!! LOL And where is the nursing three babies smiley when you need one??!!
Debi


Quote:
Originally Posted by mom2threenurslings
No limit. Just as I wouldn't limit how much love or comfort I give my kids or how much broccoli they can eat. My mamamilk doesn't have an expiration date.

My oldest self-weaned on his fifth birthday after planning his weaning day for 6 months. He was ready. He's asked to nurse a couple times since then and I've let him ... he's ended in hysterics both times because he's forgotten how!

I spent the first 9 months of motherhood nursing one baby. I spent the next 9 months nursing through pregnancy. I spent the next 14 months tandem nursing and the following 9 months tandem nursing through pregnancy. I then spent 18 months triandem nursing and have now gone back to tandem nursing for the past 9 months. Nothing is out of the question as far as nursing goes!
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