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post #141 of 169
From the time ds was a few months old I thought I would do child-led weaning.

Since he turned two, I realized maybe I do have a limit. Haven't hit it yet, but I'm starting to think it might be 3ish. Nursing just doesn't feel the same anymore, maybe it has something to do with having all his teeth in. I am struggling with my thoughts about putting some limits on nursing, and wondering if that can still be a part of child-led weaning (does child-led mean nurse completely on demand for however long? )
post #142 of 169
I don't know for sure but I am guessing 3.
post #143 of 169
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Originally Posted by slightly crunchy
. Nursing just doesn't feel the same anymore, maybe it has something to do with having all his teeth in. I am struggling with my thoughts about putting some limits on nursing, and wondering if that can still be a part of child-led weaning (does child-led mean nurse completely on demand for however long? )
Not a believer in child-led weaning per se. Child-respectful weaning, yes. Ater a child hits 18 mos or so, nursing becomes negotiable (where we nurse, for how long,twiddling, Mom's shirt stays down over unused breast, etc etc). This is natural. All mammals who nurse long-term do this. It is a relationship. Nursing a toddler does not mean the child runs all over you and your feelings of discomfort.

A nursing toddler must learning nursing manners. How Weaning Happens and Mothering your Nursing Toddler go into great detail about the nurisng relationship as your child grows.
post #144 of 169
I think my maximum is 3, but I'm not sure.
post #145 of 169
In my understanding of CLW nursing definately is a relationship, and most CLWers do not let the child run all over the mother. There are definately limits/compromises, as in any relationship. CLW gurus please correct me if I am wrong...
post #146 of 169
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Originally Posted by slightly crunchy
I am struggling with my thoughts about putting some limits on nursing, and wondering if that can still be a part of child-led weaning (does child-led mean nurse completely on demand for however long? )
Setting limits is still part of Child Led Weaning since it's a nursing relationship between two people. I don't nurse my 3 yo in public, that's a limit I've set. Some CLWers nightwean. Limits are ok. The Child Led part is meaning actual weaning - so they are the ones who initiate when they will be done nursing completely.
post #147 of 169
Thanks MAN, I knew you would know...
Debi
post #148 of 169
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Originally Posted by MamaAllNatural
Setting limits is still part of Child Led Weaning since it's a nursing relationship between two people. I don't nurse my 3 yo in public, that's a limit I've set. Some CLWers nightwean. Limits are ok. The Child Led part is meaning actual weaning - so they are the ones who initiate when they will be done nursing completely.
I am very happy and relieved to hear this definition of CLW

and also what DaryLLL said, too!

Thanks!
post #149 of 169
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Originally Posted by MamaAllNatural
Setting limits is still part of Child Led Weaning since it's a nursing relationship between two people. I don't nurse my 3 yo in public, that's a limit I've set. Some CLWers nightwean. Limits are ok. The Child Led part is meaning actual weaning - so they are the ones who initiate when they will be done nursing completely.

post #150 of 169
I wholeheartedly support CLW, but I think my personal limit is 2yrs. I really feel pretty "done" right now, at 19mos, but haven't done anything about it. I still nurse on demand and do not feel the urgency to nightwean, yet. DD's face is so sweet every time she asks to nurse that any thought of refusing goes right out of my head.
post #151 of 169
I was recently at a LLL conference in a room of about 100 women, mostly LLL Leaders and LCs. I nursed the longest - until my son's 6th birthday.
post #152 of 169
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Originally Posted by MamaAllNatural
Setting limits is still part of Child Led Weaning since it's a nursing relationship between two people. I don't nurse my 3 yo in public, that's a limit I've set. Some CLWers nightwean. Limits are ok. The Child Led part is meaning actual weaning - so they are the ones who initiate when they will be done nursing completely.
That is intersting. I had thought CLW meant you nurse on demand as long as the child wants. I guess I did CLW with my first- I did set limits and she did eventually (at around three) take her last nursing on her own.

Nursing an over-2yo on demand is too hard for me- gettign twiddled, kicked and gnawed on makes me feel used and depressed. If I can set some limits on that behavior I can survive.
post #153 of 169
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Originally Posted by kama'aina mama
I just honestly don't know. Never thought I would still be nursing as her 4th birthday approaches. I'm just sticking at "never say never" now.

That is kinda how I feel -- never thought I would get past two years but now that Maxi is 19 months, 24 months doesnt seem that far off. So I guess I dont have an age limit.
post #154 of 169
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Originally Posted by monnie
Nursing an over-2yo on demand is too hard for me- gettign twiddled, kicked and gnawed on makes me feel used and depressed.
I'm soooo glad I'm not the only mum that ever felt this way!!!
post #155 of 169
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Originally Posted by MamaAllNatural
If they're young enough to ask for it, then they're young enough to still need it.
mamaallnatural, may I please use this quote in my siggy?
post #156 of 169
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Originally Posted by simonee
mamaallnatural, may I please use this quote in my siggy?
Yes, of course!....but don't give me the credit...I got it from someone else here. I just can't remember who.

I would love to see that in your siggy!
post #157 of 169
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by DaryLLL
Child-respectful weaning, yes. Ater a child hits 18 mos or so, nursing becomes negotiable (where we nurse, for how long,twiddling, Mom's shirt stays down over unused breast, etc etc). This is natural. All mammals who nurse long-term do this. It is a relationship. Nursing a toddler does not mean the child runs all over you and your feelings of discomfort.
that's the wisest thing I've read all day.
post #158 of 169
Quote:
Originally Posted by DaryLLL
Not a believer in child-led weaning per se. Child-respectful weaning, yes. Ater a child hits 18 mos or so, nursing becomes negotiable (where we nurse, for how long,twiddling, Mom's shirt stays down over unused breast, etc etc). This is natural. All mammals who nurse long-term do this. It is a relationship. Nursing a toddler does not mean the child runs all over you and your feelings of discomfort.

A nursing toddler must learning nursing manners. How Weaning Happens and Mothering your Nursing Toddler go into great detail about the nurisng relationship as your child grows.
Thank you for answering my question! And thanks to MamaallNatural for addressing my post, too. It is nice to see this stated so matter-of-factly, as reading around here sometimes I feel like an oddball for not loving nursing all the time anymore.

I have read through both of those books, but I will have to give them a read through again.

I realized this week I needed to do something when I am online and this smilie in my sig that I thought was so cute is now irritating me and reminding me I feel so...cow-like and used lately! My new goal (assuming ds doesn't wean before then) is 3. From there, we'll see...
post #159 of 169

my thoughts

my son self-weaned at 41 mos
oldest daughter self-weaned during PG at about 22 mos
youngest daughter is still going strong at almost 17 mos

3.5 years was about right for me. (I'm supportive of however long anyone else wants to go.) We were at a good balance where he was having his needs met and the relationship was still comfortable for me. I can't imagine myself going much past 4 years, but you never know.

I felt that my DD1 weaned herself too early due to my pregnancy. (she didn't like the colostrum) I'm hoping for at least 3 years again this time around with DD2.
post #160 of 169
I will nurse till my dd is ready to stop. I am following her lead completely.
I remember when I was pregnant thinking I'll nurse till about 9-12 mths caue that is when babies stop nursing right?
It almost didn't even enter my mind that you would stop your baby from nursing if they wanted to.
One of dd friends who is 4 just loves to watch her nurse and has asked her mother on many occasions why she doesn't nurse. It is almost like she misses it even though, thru no lack of trying, just lack of proper support and information she stopped nursing at a very young age. Which I might add broke her mothers heart.
I love that dd friends think it is soo cool that she nurses.
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