need song ideas

[friendtoall]

My Grandmother passed away in January and my family is having a very hard time dealing with the loss. She had cancer for several years, lived much longer than her oncologist ever imagined (she refered to her as her "miracle patient") and in the end succumbed not to the cancer, but to the chemotherapy. Because she had been so healthy, it was a great shock to us, and so many of us did not have a chance to see her one more time.

My mother, in particular, is having a hard time getting over the loss. I know it has only been a few months and will take much longer. But, I thought I'd like to make her a CD of music to heal by. If you have suggestions for songs to put on this CD, I'd be very grateful.

[Joyce in the mts.]

I recommend songs by Eva Cassidy...go google her. Her story is sad, but her voice was so very beautiful. She did a wonderful rendition of "Over the Rainbow" and there's a song that's about time as a healer, here is one verse and the chorus:

"I found a picture of your smiling face
Bringing old memories that I had locked away
The burden of anger from a heart filled with pain
Was finally lifted and I smile at you again

Chorus:- If time is a healer
Then all hearts that break
Are put back together again
Cause love heals the wound it makes

Go here and you can listen to some clips and peruse her CD's:
http://www.synuk.com/eva/

She died young and was very very talented. But her songs live on and I find her voice very soothing and her talent such a gift.

We found her when my FIL was in endstage cancer, and Eva's voice soothed us, her emotional investment in her music moved us to very healing tears and equally healing enjoyment.

In fact....let me share that a couple weekends ago, I took my mom to my sister's (who also died young and was very talented musically) grave to plant some flowers, and I played this CD in the car. The way Eva played the guitar sounded alot like the way my sister played. It was a good choice for that trip, as we sang along, and we cried...I was not driving, my dh was. He's a good guy. But this music has provided our family with alot of comfort over some difficult loss.

Maybe Eva can touch you and your mom too.

Best wishes and hugs to you...
Joyce in the mts.

[KarmaChameleon]

Natalie Merchant (10,000 Maniacs) sings a song called "how you've grown"

Every time, we say goodbye
You're pictured in my mind
As the child that you never will be
Will be again...



It's a really pretty song but not too downtrodden...has a little tempo to it.

[EmmalinesMom]

What about Josh Groban's "To Where You Are"

Also, if I may recommend a book....Peter McWilliams "How To Survive The Loss of a Love" is great for any type of close relationship that has come to an end. It's a very powerful book of poetry. Amazon has them used for like .50 and up.

[friendtoall]

Thanks for the great suggestions. I'd love more, if anyone has some!

[applejuice]

If your grandmother had any favorite songs, that may help your mom.

I listen to songs my DH and I both loved, and it helps me feel connected to him if only fleetingly for a moment.

~ my DH