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post #1 of 27
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when you wear your sling? It just cracks me up that people will STARE at me and my babe like we are aliens. so weird to me. But I am in WV (from CA) and I never see slings out here, just infant carriers. I rarely see bjorns even. So now I make it a point to wear my sling when we go into stores.

At least all the comments are positive. this one senior lady said "what a wonderful way to travel!" and most older ladies say that he looks so comfy. My favorite is "wow, they just have the neatest baby things nowadays!" It will be interesting to hear the comments when we go to the airport at the end of the month!

btw, I have a AP babyspace---love it! I can't wait to get a wrap and REALLY get some stares around here!! LOL
post #2 of 27
I stare at babywearers because I'm trying to figure out what kind of carrier they're wearing and I wanna know how it's working for them and their baby

but I'm not in CA, just chiming in-
post #3 of 27
I get stares and comments all the time! One that I overheard was someone said to the other person she was with 'I would never trust my baby in that thing" I was wearing a Maya Wrap. My friend who was pg at the time heard it too and she asked if it was safe, so I bent over Liam didn't fall out. LOL She now has a 5wk old and is getting into slings! She now has my UBW and I am ordering her another sling today. We are going to a local baby store today, I will be carrying Liam in the Ergo, she will be using my Maya and my other friend will be wearing her Maya!
post #4 of 27
I've never seen somebody with a sling of anything. An occasional Snuggli, but not very often. I wore my sling to the mall once and people just stared at me like I had 3 heads. I just ordered an ABC so I think people won't be so weirded out by it because it looks more like a Snuggli and I can carry DD the same way.

I'm in Ma. There is an AP Parents group a few towns over from me. So they do exist. I've just never seen them.
post #5 of 27
I always get stared at! I am becoming known in towan as "the lady with the baby carrying thing" :LOL
I especialy find it funny when people rubber kneck in cars or on bikes when they see Sam and I walking down the street. Priceless

Most of the comments I get are positive though I have gotten a few that made me shake my head at the ignorance of some people.

MM
post #6 of 27
At my daughter's tball practice the other night, I saw a mama there with a little baby. I went over and drooled over the baby and then realized mama was familiar. I asked her, "Did I see you in Walmart when baby was brand new? Were you in the snack bar, maybe?" She didn't remember...then I said, "I would have been wearing my baby in a black wrappy thing in front of me..." and she said, "OH! Yeah, I remember you! I bought a carrier thing but it has so many straps and snaps, I cant' figure it out."

We'll be practicing babywearing at tball games now. I'm looking forward to it.

I get looked and I get mostly positive comments. I have heard:

"Can he breathe in there?"
"That looks complicated."
"Isn't he smooshed?"
and my favorite - Q: "How do you drive like that?" A: "I just take the baby out."

:LOL
post #7 of 27
I get stared at all the time particularly in the supermarket. I hear a lot of 'Did you see that!' as I walk by.

I get a lot of positive comments too, especially from older ladies. They say things like
'That looks comfy'
'Wow, what a great thing that it'
'How lovely for your baby to be so close to you'

One lady came up to me once when DD was sleeping in the Maya at the supermarket. She said she just had to come and tell me how lovely and snuggly my baby looked all wrapped up on her Mummy.

It seems to be the other mums who look at me as if I have 3 heads, not sure why that is?
post #8 of 27
I get stares all the time when Bella is in her sling or Ergo. Usually they are positive - I think the negative ones people just keep to themselves - if I see someone looking my way and whispering I usually just shoot them a huge smile!
post #9 of 27
I get stares all the time; I just laugh. I am not sure if it is because of the sling or pouch that the baby is in, or because I look like I am 18, with 4 children, lol.
post #10 of 27
I get stared at all the time too. I don't think I've seen anyone around here ever slinging. Occassionally I see Snugli-style carriers being used, but never a sling. But I don't see my city as being very AP. Most people I know don't breastfeed, and if they do, never more than 3 months. Cloth diapers are impossible to find around here (I was planning on going that route, but my dh wasn't for it), and slings? - you get two different styles around here.

My favorite memories of being stared at were when I lived in Saskatchewan during the winter, and wore Xander under my jacket, to keep us both warm. Everyone who met me, who then realized I had a baby underneath my jacket, told me they thought I was really pregnant.
post #11 of 27
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Originally Posted by manitoba_mommy
I always get stared at! I am becoming known in towan as "the lady with the baby carrying thing" :LOL
MM
The people in Wal-Mart and the supermarket call me "the lady with the contraption" :LOL

I love all the stares.
post #12 of 27
Definitely. Older ladies, though, think they are wonderful. I like the "they have the neatest things these days" comments. Actually, they've been around for ages!
post #13 of 27
No stares if I wear a sling, they are pretty common around here. But I will get stares and questions if I wear my Cuddle n' Carry (ABC)... mostly "does that thing hurt your shoulders" or "My that looks so cuddly!"

Someone said to me the other day that my CnC looked like a papoose?

BTW, I have been in WV with dd in a sling, and got stared at in a restaurant by people who were bottle-propping their baby in the car seat.
post #14 of 27
Slings and bjorns are pretty common where I live, but the funniest comment I've gotten was that it looked comfy and she wished she had something similiar to carry her dog in!
post #15 of 27
I have actually seen people with dogs in carriers like that! To each her own!
post #16 of 27
I get some looks, but never rude comments.
A young-ish (late teens?) cashier commented how it looks so much more comfortable for him than those front carrier things when their poor little legs just dangle.
An older lady in line at walmart was telling me how she used something like that to carry her baby, she worked something out with a shawl and a brooch to keep it closed.
Yesterday I saw a mom with a pouch, I was so excited! I have a wrap, and I wanted to go harrass her about it(ask how she liked it and all, I've never seen one IRL), but she had a much younger baby and was loading her into the car, so I didn't want to keep her.
But in my area carriers are really common. You don't see a mom and baby without at least a bjorn or snugli or backpack or something.
My family is always amazed at how many ways it can be used. Upright when they're teeny? Oh the sling does that. You should get a back carrier. Sling does that too. Hey, I saw this cool thing to hold the baby on your hip, to save your arm! Hey guess what! Sling! lol.
At least among the people I know, holding the baby all day is just what you do anyway, so all the contraptions are just to make life a little easier and your back a little less sore. I must be really lucky that way.
post #17 of 27
I do get some stares, but I think people assume I'm slinging Ilyas 'cuz that's what 'those people do in their home countries'. LOL, I'm totally from Texas, but people assume from my headscarf that I'm "ethnic".

When strangers actually say something, it's always positive. Every once in a while a well-meaning friend will tell me I need to not carry Ilyas so much, as it will 'spoil' him. Like he's a piece of fruit that will go bad?
post #18 of 27
There are a number of slinging momma's and poppa's here in kazoo... not the norm by any means but I keep running into other folks and we all smile at each other. The sling is just such a happy thing! My fave comment was from an elderly gentleman - "that must be his (ds) favorite place!" yep. although if ds could somehow create a sling with bungy cords so that he could jump at the same time... that might win out LOL. ggma.
post #19 of 27
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Originally Posted by UmmIlyas
I do get some stares, but I think people assume I'm slinging Ilyas 'cuz that's what 'those people do in their home countries'. LOL, I'm totally from Texas, but people assume from my headscarf that I'm "ethnic".

When strangers actually say something, it's always positive. Every once in a while a well-meaning friend will tell me I need to not carry Ilyas so much, as it will 'spoil' him. Like he's a piece of fruit that will go bad?
I like the fruit comment! I need to remember that one!
post #20 of 27
I have gotten a few looks and comments, only one of them negative though. I had an awful woman make a rude comment about "that's what they make strollers for..." I was waiting for a cart at the store and she was blocking the way, taking forever because she was telling her daughter to "sit her a** down," after patiently waiting for a few minutes I let out a loud sigh, thus the comment, I guess. Too bad I didn't have time or I could have stuck around and asked her for some parenting advice.
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