I feel like posting about this on the original thread! No, they would assume there must be some good reason...
Thanks for your supportive words. I am going to get the mandatory reporting laws for VA myself. Then I'll have, in essence, multiple outside sources confirming my decision to report. The director of the assessment center is sending me her letter today (which will be cosigned by the counselor who assessed my ds). There was also the cop I spoke w/ in the sex crimes unit who had worked years as a detective in pedophilia cases who told me absolutely to report, even to the degree that he told me if the dispatch officer did not take my request seriously, to call him back, and he would make sure an officer came out to take the report! Even then it took 2 weeks for them to finally send someone out, but the cop apologized saying the receptionist had screwed up a lot of stuff and even had been fired for it, that's how my message didn't get through the first time. Clearly the police thought I was credible and the situation merited strong protective measures.
The real hot button for the bishop and stake pres is that they told me not to talk about it but I continued to do so, and will make no bones about my refusal to accept a gag order of any kind on this matter.
The worst thing about all of this is the false reassurance members of the congregation who knew about the situation have been given, as well as the heads up it gives perpetrators, alerting them to what behavior raises red flags so they can be even more secretive about it, and get away with it even better.
. I would say it's unbelievable except that things like this happen all the time! They would rather things like this get swept under the carpet than brought out in the open. Obviously they are trying to silence you. You have every right to be angry.
What did you and your dh say?
for you, leavesarebrown. At least it ended fairly well.
