Can I just say..... - Page 4

[mommasuz]

I personally like to read the fairy posts and the number of them doesn't bother me but maybe we should just have a Diaper Fairy thread each day where everyone can post their fluff to keep the posts down.

[kimberlylibby]

So, umm, I don't mind the "I got this" threads because I love to see what people get....

BUT, I just saw a BLATANT BLATANT BLATANT *fishing for a fairy* thread.

Can we all agree to call eachother out when we see this? Cause that's just cheap and nasty to blatantly ask for something.

Kimberly

[JohnnysGirl]

Yikes.... I never knew that when I posted about a gorgeous item I was trying not to let myself buy that others may take that as my 'fairy fishing' on the board.... I'll definatly watch what I point to and drool over from now on. I really, really, really don't want anyone to think I am fishing for a gift, ever.

[DreamingMama]

Originally Posted by Aherne

I admit that I am a little annoyed with the diaper fairy too.

it is taking over the board.

If I share that I am having a bad day, I dont want someone to assume that I am fishing for free stuff. But at the same time has anyone noticed that there is a sudden increase in "feel sorry for me" threads? Are they connected or is the world just going through a be mean to diaper mom phase... or maybe we are all going through a complain phase we need a fishing icon because some people are downright obvious and it is obnoxious.



Even here... she posts that she hates the fairy and people right away assume it is a jelous comment and she just needs to be sent a free something to make her like the fairy. cant buy the fairy love baby

I love your posts mama, they are always so well written and thought out. I have to agree that I have seen way more posts of woes me. I am not innocent for I too was feeling sorry for myself about prefolds I sold off and then managed to do a trade for some with someone here due to my complaining. That said I love being a fairy and try to be one when I can but I only have so much resources and cannot spread the fairy love throughout the entire world. : If I could you know I would but man with all these woes me posts lately I would never be able to keep up with it. The whole point of the fairy is to send a bit of diaper cheer to someone and not because they are broke or they are rich or any reason. But "just cause" the fairy feels like it.

[Aherne]

Originally Posted by DreamingMama

I love your posts mama, they are always so well written and thought out.

now if only I could learn to spell check and brain check before I post

[ChristyH]

Originally Posted by Butterflymom

Yikes.... I never knew that when I posted about a gorgeous item I was trying not to let myself buy that others may take that as my 'fairy fishing' on the board.... I'll definatly watch what I point to and drool over from now on. I really, really, really don't want anyone to think I am fishing for a gift, ever.

I would never want anyone to think I was fishing for anything either. Makes me re-think things I will post though.

[Cutie Patootie]

Originally Posted by kimberlylibby

So, umm, I don't mind the "I got this" threads because I love to see what people get....

BUT, I just saw a BLATANT BLATANT BLATANT *fishing for a fairy* thread.

Can we all agree to call eachother out when we see this? Cause that's just cheap and nasty to blatantly ask for something.

Kimberly

Blatant is different than saying what you want, or drooling over something you want someone else to snag so you don't have to. I think it is obvious when someone is fishing for fairy visits. Sad too, because it takes away from the heart of the whole fairy idea.

[kimberlylibby]

And I do think a lot of it is that the program is new and we're all excited and probably overzealous

When it gets "older" it won't be so crazy

[hannahmom]

I agree with the poster who said that maybe it could be contained to one thread. Perhaps the first person with a DF thank you could start the thread for the day.

I see lots of threads posted about beautiful items and I love to go and see new things - but when the diaper dramatics take over with lots of crying smilies - that's when I get a negative feeling about the intention of the post. I'm not saying I feel that way about a post that might say "hey check this out - its awesome! boo hoo my paypal is empty" But the ones that are like "WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAA I WISH I COULD HAVE THIS DIAPER. My poor baby has to wear a plain old fuzzi bunz" I know we can all get caught up in the hype and we want our babes to have nice things... but sometimes I think we drive away a lot of mamas who are doing this to save $$.

That being said - the original intention of the DF as a random act of kindness is wonderful and I hope the air clears so THAT part of it can continue.

[JennInSeattle]

Originally Posted by ChristyH

I would never want anyone to think I was fishing for anything either. Makes me re-think things I will post though.

This is actually a great thread, I'm glad people are talking.

I just want to add that before the diaper fairy people would post about being saved from the world's best item all the time and no one thought anything of it other than they wanted to share the coolest soaker/diaper in the world. I don't think you should feel guilty for posting like that.. just put a disclaimer at the bottom if you want to like: "Diaper Fairy please ignore this thread. "

Seriously, a little less diaper fairyness shouldn't take away some of the fun aspects that were here before she was.

[HoosierDiaperinMama]

Originally Posted by Aherne

I admit that I am a little annoyed with the diaper fairy too.

it is taking over the board.

If I share that I am having a bad day, I dont want someone to assume that I am fishing for free stuff. But at the same time has anyone noticed that there is a sudden increase in "feel sorry for me" threads? Are they connected or is the world just going through a be mean to diaper mom phase... or maybe we are all going through a complain phase we need a fishing icon because some people are downright obvious and it is obnoxious.



Even here... she posts that she hates the fairy and people right away assume it is a jelous comment and she just needs to be sent a free something to make her like the fairy. cant buy the fairy love baby

I have to agree w/Aherne here. The DF posts are taking over the board (much like diapering posts were taking over the regular TP at one point) and it's hard to sift through all of them to get to other posts.

It's pretty sad when a new member posts an intro only to have it buried by DF posts. It is annoying, imo and I think there should be a sticky at the top or a thread that is designated for the DF.

[JennInSeattle]

Well there won't be a sticky but I do think that a "Thank you Diaper Fairy" thread for the day would be a better way.

[Cutie Patootie]

Originally Posted by JennInSeattle

Well there won't be a sticky but I do think that a "Thank you Diaper Fairy" thread for the day would be a better way.

That is an excellent idea!!!

[HoosierDiaperinMama]

Originally Posted by JennInSeattle

Well there won't be a sticky but I do think that a "Thank you Diaper Fairy" thread for the day would be a better way.

That sounds grrrrrreat!!!

[hannahmom]

First person with a thank you should start it for that day...

[lena_girl]

Originally Posted by lori810

I have definately had that same thought, especially when it is a fairly new poster saying something like "Woe is me, I only have 7 diapers and I am trying to diaper 3 kids with them. If only I had a few more diapers....but not those cheapie prefolds, I can only use FCB AIO's....wonder where I could get some...." That sort of thing, ya know?

I did post something like this the other day. I was trying to share my frustration that my DS decided to stop pottying in the toilet, and I have nothing that works for him. I wasn't looking for any handout, just some support b/c it's hard for me right now. I am trying to put together diapers out of what I have and am washing it every day, ect. Unfortunately there were probably people who read what I wrote I assumed I was trying to get a fairy gift. That might explain why basically no one responded. But I was really only looking for support. I didn't join the diaper fairy thing to get fairied, I joined b/c I saw a momma who was struggling and I wanted to brighten her day.

I do agree that some people probably do post their struggles looking for a fairy gift, but I think most of us are just looking for support. I think that support is one of the best things this forum has to offer.

[Oceanone]

Yep, I agree with the one thread a day idea. The DF is getting exponentially more busy and that makes a lot of sense. It's also easier to find if someone wants to make sure their somebody got fairied successfully.

I also think the whole idea has changed the way I read some posts and I have refrained a couple of times from posting something because I didn't want my posts interpreted this way.

I too have come across what I thought were shameless fishing threads, but I have tried not to judge them.

I think this will all naturally calm down a bit in time, and the fairy will live on. I the fairy.

[KayleeZoo]

Yikes.... I never knew that when I posted about a gorgeous item I was trying not to let myself buy that others may take that as my 'fairy fishing' on the board.... I'll definatly watch what I point to and drool over from now on. I really, really, really don't want anyone to think I am fishing for a gift, ever.

ITA Angelica. I am torn because this is the place I can come to and say, "Oh man, I really want this print of this or that but just can't buy it now, but it's my fave print and I'm so bummed" and just whine about beautiful fluff I can't buy and have other people totally understand what I'm going through. But I would be mortified if people were thinking I'm fishing for a fairy. I can't really tell dh or other friends that I want a zoo print SOS without them telling me how I am It does shed a new light on this whole fairy stuff, though. But I love fairying, so I'm gonna keep it up.

[HokieMum]

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[kindmomma]

Ahearne Very well put, as usual!

I have to say that the diaper fairy has been along for quite some time before this list was started. I got my first "fairy" gift last year from a momma who knew I loved turtles and knew I had never tried a FMBG fitted. I, in return, sent her a new Sage FB she had been wanting to try.
I have to agree with most of the posters here. Just like the "fluffy mail" threads that got one singular post a day, I think this is a great idea for the diaper fairy as well.
It seems more like a popularity contest to me some days. Like "if you have not been fairied"post here.
I did not get on the list because I didn't want people to feel obligated to buy me something I cannot afford myself. Part of the fun of fairying to me is grabbing someone out of the blue and searching for their adress and doing that all myself. I am so glad some of you are having such a great time with this,and for that I am happy and grateful that there are so many nice kind mommas out there spreading the diaper love. But, that being said I am sure new members are very confused and a little isolated when seeing all these posts.