Can I just say..... - Page 5

[JohnnysGirl]

Me, too, Kaylee---I'm gonna keep on fairying, and just not talk about stuff I would buy if money were no object. No biggie I guess....

[jmofarrill]

The daily Thanks Diaper Fairy thread idea has been put forth before, but no one committed at that time. It sounds like more ppl are serious about it now, so hopefully there will be follow-through since it really would be a better method. Monday Diaper Fairy, Diaper Fairy Tuesday, etc. just like the Fluffy Mail threads are titled. Maybe I'll go start one now...

As for the calling out blatent DF posts, I think a PM asking the poster if that was their intent would be a better first step.

[amicrazyyet]

I have to agree with Aherne.

Although reading this read and the blatant "fishing for fairy" posts have reminded me of the old fable that tells of the man visiting the old woman who kindly made stew and he in turn gave her a piece of gold for each drop of butter, when the rich woman heard of this she invited the man in and overseasoned the soup so much that when her time came for gold it was one solid piece.

I have gotten the feeling that the true value of random acts of kindness have been lost in the frenzy of hyena'ness. It isn't about the $ value of the item but rather the value of the heart that gave it.

Take it for what it's worth.

[Mommy2Brittani]

I hope no one thought my post was fishing? I just wanted to share a beautiful hand made necklace in the hopes that someone would buy it away, thus taking away my temptation.

[JohnnysGirl]

Originally Posted by Mommy2Brittani

I hope no one thought my post was fishing? I just wanted to share a beautiful hand made necklace in the hopes that someone would buy it away, thus taking away my temptation.

Just a few days ago I was wailing about how much I loved the Warm Heart Woolies set with the blue soaker shorts and zoo hat/shirt and wanted someone to buy it quickly so I wouldn't keep mentally calculating how I could budget such an extravagant&un-affordable purchase..... I am so mortified now thinking that maybe people interpreted that as my fishing for a (huge, even!!!!) fairy gift. : That wasn't my intention at all and I will be censoring myself big time for any hint of anything that could be construed as fishing.

[Muggins&Doody]

Now I'm paranoid too! I don't want any of my posts to be construed as fishing for fairying. : Maybe I'll put a disclaimer at the bottom of my posts


Please note: Posting this is not fishing for a fairy gift in any way, shape, or form. Viewer discretion is advised. Void where prohibited.

[pilesoflaundry]

I just wanted to be included in this thread. :LOL

I'm trying to get a pic of my dd in the dress we were faired with but the darn kid won't get dressed :LOL. She has been wanting to run free around the house the past few days.

[lena_girl]

I don't know, I personally think I might just ask to be taken off the whole diaper fairy thing. This forum is important to me for three reasons. 1) to get information 2) to hang out with so many awesome mommas and 3) to get support for my cloth diapering journey.

If I have to worry about the things I say being interpretted as possibly being diaper fairy fishing and possibly affecting other people's opinions of me, then I'd rather not be involved. I can't afford to fairy anyone else right now anyway. I'd really rather just be able to share my struggles and have other mommas understand and offer me a hug or "you can do it!"

[JennInSeattle]

Originally Posted by Muggins&Doody

Please note: Posting this is not fishing for a fairy gift in any way, shape, or form. Viewer discretion is advised. Void where prohibited.

: Especially, void where prohibited!

[DreamingMama]

I do not think the original poster was saying that because you post about something you love you are fishing. I think that the blatent posts where a person wants such and such a diaper but has no money and woes me. Blah, blah, blah is what she was referring to.

Hell I love Luke's Drawers, Mudpiebaby, LHC, FMBG and Valor Kids and not afraid to say it either. I cannot afford every darn diaper out there and I know nobody can and when we see something we love it is only natural to say so but to come here and post a post specifically about one said product and not having the money to buy it would seem kind of blatent. KWIM? Plus if you are that hard up would you not just be thrilled with anything? Maybe not?

Everyone wants a nice big ole stash but it is not going to happen if you do not do one of the following:

Sell something to buy it
Go into credit card debt to buy it
Forget about it and be satisfied with what you got
Post woes me posts to entice the diaper fairy :

I dunno sometimes it is so obvious someone is fishing and other times it is completely innocent and who is to say forsure??? The diaper fairy is not a fool.

[chloesmom]

Yikes! If you guys stop posting about the really cool stuff that you would love to have but are trying to talk yourself out of, how on earth will I get to see/learn about all the awesome diaper stuff that is out there? Heck, that's how I was introduced to the wonderful world of wool! I can honestly say that it hadn't occured to me that people might be fishing for fairy visits. My problem is that I want to fairy so many people! :LOL How funny is it that I buy my kids used diapers but I am so tempted to buy new fluff for everybody else? :

[lena_girl]

I agree that I love reading the look at this awesome such and such posts. I've discoved a lot that way. I hope you mommas don't stop.

Also, I have officially asked to be taken out of the diaper fairy thing so if I ever post about something I need or want or a struggle I am having, you can just take it at face value. I have no motive behind it

[scrappinmomof3]

I think what Aherne and Stell (and others agreeing with their sentiments) are saying is there have been *some* posts that look to be fishing for the DF. I would not think that comments such as *someone go buy that XXX because I don't have any money to get it* shouldn't be taken as a fishing expedition. I think comments such as the aforementioned should be taken with a grain of salt, and a look at the PP. If that PP has a bunch of posts, and they are on here quite a lot, then so be it. But there are those that don't post a lot, and when they do, it is a *woe is me* thread. That is taking advantage of a fairly nice little system of the DF.

I don't like to see something get abused. These RAOK are nice to see. If I don't feel like reading about them, then I don't. It is my choice to pass the thread. I am sure that Stell does, too if she doesn't want to read it. But it is those comments that are made about *I don't have any money, I NEED this XXX diaper, but oh well* that might be getting a little too out of hand.

So I don't think that people should be concerned about their posts sounding like a fishing expedition. Each person knows what motivates their comments; I wouldn't get too worried about how others perceive them if I know my heart is in the right place.

[kimberlylibby]

Aww, Lena, that's not the point at all....

I think the posts that come right out and say "Gee, I wish the diaper fairy would send me X" are what **I** don't like.

[pilesoflaundry]

I agree with Kimberly and Meredith. It's more of the brand new posters showing up saying 'gee I have nothing and would love this diaper, or only xyz diapers work for us.' Not the posts by regular posters that posed the same things pre-df like 'oh this is gorgeous, someone go buy it so I can stay on the wagon' I really don't think those are fishing for df stuff and I don't think there is anything wrong with those posts.

[ChristinaB]

Wow you guys... if you don't like the DF posts, don't read them. I do like the idea of the one DF post a day and people respond to that (makes everyone happy I guess) but can you imagine how long that thread would get? I don't know about you but when I see a post 5-10 pages long, I don't read it. I don't have time. (I am only reading this one because I had read the first three pages last night :LOL)
Maybe I am nieve or maybe I haven't read that "fishing for DF" post but I haven't seen one! And if you were refering to Angelica's post, I never thought that was fishing for a DF and knowing her as well as I do... she would NEVER do that!
And as Michelle said, if you have a problem with it... maybe PM'ong that person would have been a better way to "bring it up"

[todzwife]

Originally Posted by Muggins&Doody

Please note: Posting this is not fishing for a fairy gift in any way, shape, or form. Viewer discretion is advised. Void where prohibited.

: You crack me up

I have to agree...I hope no one thought I was fishing yesterday, or EVER for that matter... I like the disclaimer though.

[ChristinaB]

And geez, sorry for only liking a few "brands" of diapers and talking about them all the time. Now I feel uncomfortable posting about which diapers I use and like

[hannahmom]

Originally Posted by scrappinmomof3

So I don't think that people should be concerned about their posts sounding like a fishing expedition. Each person knows what motivates their comments; I wouldn't get too worried about how others perceive them if I know my heart is in the right place.

ChristinaB - I don't think anyone was thinking that raves about diaper brands you love = fishing

I think that it is easy to distinguish between the posts. It didn't seem to me like anyone on this thread was pointing fingers or even saying that it happens a lot. Plus, once you hang out here for a little while and get to know some mamas - you can tell also. It is also a little obvious when someone (and again there is no hidden agenda and I'm not pointing fingers) hops on this forum and does not post to anything else but what do I want from the DF threads etc...

[Kabes]

I haven't signed up to be on the diaper fairy list b/c I didn't want anyone to think I was fishing for free dipes. I am so new to all of this and I need to know I can come here and ask questions about dipes and ask advice about 'woe is me' situations that come up without feeling the need to sensor myself.

That said I have gotten FFS items from several mamas. Including one dipe I wanted sooo badly. I consider them fairy-ish, even though they aren't full fairy gifts. I'm still waiting for most of my fluffy mail to arrive.

Thank you mamas!!!